In this episode, I’m joined by Amy.

Amy had read It’s You, Oh Fuck, It’s ME and reached out to sit in a conversation. It’s her first time on a podcast, and we don’t make a story out of that. We stay with what’s actually there.

We sit inside judgment — not as a concept, but as a lived pattern that shows up automatically, often before it’s noticed.

We talk about how judgment starts early.
Learned in families.
Normalised as personality.
Used as protection.

And how it quietly follows us into adult life — into relationships, work, parenting, and intimacy — especially with the people we feel safest with.

We stay with what it’s like to catch yourself after the judgment has already happened.
Mid-thought.
Mid-reaction.
And to feel the discomfort of seeing it without immediately defending it, justifying it, or turning it into someone else’s fault.

This isn’t a conversation about stopping judgment.
It’s about noticing the cost.

The cost of distance.
The cost of righteousness.
The cost of staying protected instead of present.

We don’t clean it up.
We don’t resolve it.
We leave it where it actually lives.

The episode ends with something left for the next guest to carry forward:
The next time you think about judging somebody, stop, turn it around and ask yourself that question. Why am I about to judge them? That's it.

It’s You, Oh Fuck, It’s ME — In Session with a Psychotherapist
is a podcast about relationships, self-avoidance, and the shit we pretend isn’t us.

Hosted by Chad Taylor, psychotherapist and author of
It’s You, Oh Fuck, It’s ME.

No tips.
No fixing.
Just honest conversations.

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