In this episode of Inside Out: Mental Health at Work and in Life, I'm joined by Liz Stewart, therapist and somatic trauma informed coach.
With 18 years of experience in therapy, Liz brings a grounded, no-nonsense perspective on what mentally healthy workplaces actually look like, and where most organisations are still getting it wrong. We talk about why a mentally healthy workplace is simply one where you're allowed to be human, and why that starts with leaders modelling it from the top, not just knowing the theory.
We get into the reactive mindset that dominates both workplaces and healthcare, and Liz makes a brilliant comparison: we've universally accepted ergonomic chairs without a second thought, so why hasn't mental health reached the same status? She argues it needs to become second nature rather than a second thought, and that means moving from optional to non-negotiable.
We explore emotional intelligence as the starting point for leaders, not an add-on. Liz is direct about what she sees: people who claim to have great mental health but are actually running on coping mechanisms, and the difference between the two. She shares her own experience of brutal anxiety while working at the Royal Infirmary of Edinburgh, and how being signed off without any real support during that time taught her that time off alone isn't the answer.
There's a really honest discussion about self-neglect, how we've learned to put ourselves last and never come back to check in, and Liz's practical suggestion that 10 minutes of checking in with yourself each morning could change everything. We also talk about the pressure of constant connectivity, dopamine-driven notification culture, the seven kinds of rest we actually need, and why vulnerability in leadership gets the private messages even when it doesn't get the public engagement.
This is a conversation about getting underneath the sound bites and doing the unglamorous work that actually shifts things.
🔑 Key Topics
- Being human at work: what a mentally healthy workplace actually looks like
- Why leadership must model emotional intelligence, not just endorse it
- The reactive mindset: why we wait for crisis instead of preventing it
- Coping mechanisms vs. good mental health, and knowing the difference
- Self-neglect: how we've learned to put ourselves last
- The 10-minute morning check-in that could change your day
- Nervous system regulation: why calm isn't always the answer
- Men in therapy: a shift from 7-10% to 50% in two years
💡 Did You Know?
Liz has seen male clients jump from around 7-10% of her caseload to 50% in just the past two years, a shift she credits in part to organisations like Andy's Man Club opening up the conversation for men. Meanwhile, research suggests only 30% of people have developed emotional intelligence, often because they simply haven't had it modelled to them.
📝 Actionable Takeaways
- Start your day with a 10-minute self check-in: Where am I today? What do I need?
- End your day with compassion: give yourself credit for getting through it, not criticism for what went wrong
- Leaders: work on your own emotional intelligence before trying to change anyone else's
- Recognise that coping mechanisms are not the same as good mental health
- Remember there are seven kinds of rest, not just physical. Social rest and data rest matter too
- Process your sadness before you try to move past it, positivity pressure can dysregulate people
🗣️ Join the Conversation
What would change in your workplace if leaders were expected to understand their own emotional health before managing anyone else's? Share your thoughts and connect with us on social media.
🔗 Connect with Liz on LinkedIn | Website
- https://www.linkedin.com/in/liz-stewart-078b8613/
- https://lizstewart.thementalwellbeingcompany.com/