Do you believe you can make someone else change? In this episode, Dr. Margaret Paul reveals why trying to control others backfires—and how shifting your intention from controlling to learning transforms your relationships from the inside out.

You'll learn why people resist being controlled, the false belief driving your urge to change others, and how covert control—like caretaking and compliance—can quietly damage your closest relationships.

Through real client stories, Brett and Teresa, you'll discover how to stop abandoning yourself, start loving your inner child, and find true relationship healing that begins with you.

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About Dr. Margaret Paul

Dr. Margaret Paul, PhD, is a bestselling author, relationship expert, and the co-creator of the Inner Bonding® self-healing process. She is the author and co-author of twelve books, including “Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by You?”, “Healing Your Aloneness,” “Inner Bonding,” and "Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by God?

Through her work, Dr. Paul teaches individuals how to take responsibility for their feelings, heal anxiety, depression, and relationship challenges, and develop a deep, loving connection with themselves and their spiritual guidance. She facilitates Inner Bonding Workshops and Intensives, administers the Inner Bonding website, and works to make the Inner Bonding® process available worldwide through the SelfQuest® online self-healing program.

Visit her website for a FREE Inner Bonding course at https://innerbondinghub.com/7-lessons/ or email her at margaret@innerbonding.com.

Connect with Dr. Margaret Paul: Website: https://innerbonding.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/innerbonding1/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/margaretpaul/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/innerbonding Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/ideas/inner-bonding-margaret-paul/923777849815/

In this episode, you’ll learn how self-neglect goes beyond ignoring physical needs. Discover how dismissing your emotions, staying silent, overgiving, remaining in unsafe situations, numbing out, and prioritizing others’ feelings can leave your inner child feeling alone and unimportant.

You’ll also learn how to develop your loving adult, listen to your feelings, honor your needs, set compassionate boundaries, and take loving action. Through self-compassion and Inner Bonding, you can stop recreating old pain and begin building self-trust, emotional safety, and genuine self-love.

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About Dr. Margaret Paul

Dr. Margaret Paul, PhD, is a bestselling author, relationship expert, and the co-creator of the Inner Bonding® self-healing process. She is the author and co-author of twelve books, including “Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by You?”, “Healing Your Aloneness,” “Inner Bonding,” and "Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by God?

Through her work, Dr. Paul teaches individuals how to take responsibility for their feelings, heal anxiety, depression, and relationship challenges, and develop a deep, loving connection with themselves and their spiritual guidance. She facilitates Inner Bonding Workshops and Intensives, administers the Inner Bonding website, and works to make the Inner Bonding® process available worldwide through the SelfQuest® online self-healing program.

Visit her website for a FREE Inner Bonding course at https://innerbondinghub.com/7-lessons/ or email her at margaret@innerbonding.com.

Connect with Dr. Margaret Paul: Website: https://innerbonding.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/innerbonding1/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/margaretpaul/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/innerbonding Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/ideas/inner-bonding-margaret-paul/923777849815/

Relationships are systems: when you change your part of the pattern, the whole dynamic can shift. Dr. Margaret Paul shares how moving from control and blame to learning, self-responsibility, and love can create healthier, more connected relationships.

In this episode, you’ll learn why recurring relationship conflicts are co-created systems—not simply one person’s fault. Discover common patterns such as pursuing and withdrawing, criticism and defensiveness, anger and resistance, and overgiving and demanding.

You’ll also learn practical Inner Bonding tools for interrupting reactive cycles: shifting your intention from control to learning, taking responsibility for your feelings, responding with compassion, and knowing when lovingly disengaging or making a decision about the relationship is necessary.

Enjoy the podcast? Subscribe and leave a 5-star review!

About Dr. Margaret Paul

Dr. Margaret Paul, PhD, is a bestselling author, relationship expert, and the co-creator of the Inner Bonding® self-healing process. She is the author and co-author of twelve books, including “Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by You?”, “Healing Your Aloneness,” “Inner Bonding,” and "Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by God?

Through her work, Dr. Paul teaches individuals how to take responsibility for their feelings, heal anxiety, depression, and relationship challenges, and develop a deep, loving connection with themselves and their spiritual guidance. She facilitates Inner Bonding Workshops and Intensives, administers the Inner Bonding website, and works to make the Inner Bonding® process available worldwide through the SelfQuest® online self-healing program.

Visit her website for a FREE Inner Bonding course at https://innerbondinghub.com/7-lessons/ or email her at margaret@innerbonding.com.

Connect with Dr. Margaret Paul: Website: https://innerbonding.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/innerbonding1/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/margaretpaul/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/innerbonding Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/ideas/inner-bonding-margaret-paul/923777849815/