In this episode of Authentically ADHD, Carmen gets into the nervous-system chaos of being AuDHD around unpredictable people, last-minute plan changes, emotional demands, masking, and the soul-deep exhaustion that comes from confusing love with constant availability. “Dear AuDHDer, Your Nervous System Is Not a Group Project” breaks down why boundaries are not selfish, cold, dramatic, or rude — they are regulation. For AuDHD brains, unpredictability is not just inconvenient; it can overload executive function, sensory processing, emotional regulation, and the already-tired little gremlin in charge of transitions. This episode explores why plan changes can feel so destabilizing, why emotional availability is still labor, how masking makes boundaries harder, and why some people mistake your kindness for unlimited access to your time, energy, and peace. Spoiler alert: absolutely not, bestie. Carmen also shares practical, simple boundary scripts and strategies for handling unpredictable people, including how to pause before saying yes, ask for clear plans, protect your recovery time, create reply delays, and deal with guilt when you stop over-functioning for everyone else’s comfort. Because being loving does not mean being endlessly available. Being kind does not mean becoming someone else’s coping skill.And your nervous system? Not. A. Group. Project.