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In this deeply important episode of Quietly Autistic at Last, Dr. Allison Sucamele explores what happens when professional expectations collide with nervous system reality - a moment many late-diagnosed autistic women eventually face after years of masking, burnout, and silent survival at work.

Together, we unpack how autistic meltdowns are often misunderstood in workplace settings, why they are neurological overload responses rather than personal or professional failures, and how hidden struggles have too often been mislabeled as stress intolerance or lack of resilience. Dr. Sucamele offers compassionate insight into autistic burnout, the long recovery period that can follow overload, and the emotional toll of trying to succeed in environments built around neurotypical regulation.

This episode also provides practical guidance on helping workplaces understand autism through clear, functional communication - along with an empowering overview of your legal rights under the Americans with Disabilities Act (ADA) and protections such as reasonable accommodations and medical leave. You’ll learn how disclosure can be gradual, strategic, and self-directed, and why self-advocacy is not a step backward, but a movement toward sustainability and dignity.

If you’ve ever cried in your car after work, questioned why everything feels harder, or wondered how to exist professionally without harming yourself to survive it, this conversation is for you.

You are allowed to succeed without self-erasure.
You are allowed to work in ways that honor your nervous system.

New episodes of Quietly Autistic at Last release every Tuesday.

Disclaimer:
This podcast is intended for educational and informational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical, psychological, or legal advice. The autistic experience is not one-size-fits-all - every autistic person’s nervous system, support needs, and lived experiences are unique. The perspectives shared in this episode reflect general patterns and personal insight, and may not represent every individual’s experience. If you are seeking guidance specific to your situation, please consult a qualified healthcare or mental health professional.

If this conversation brings up distress or you are struggling emotionally, you are not alone. In the United States, you can call or text 988, the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline, to reach trained counselors 24/7 for free and confidential support.