In this episode, Lilly breaks down why your feedback feels like criticism to your partner—even when you’re genuinely trying to help—and what you can do to shift that.

She explains the two reasons feedback lands like criticism: your conduct (the energy behind your words) and the absence of emotional safety in the relationship. She’ll walk you through the fear vs. love framework, redefine what “safety” actually means in a relationship, and give you a simple grounding tool to use before you walk through the door at the end of the workday.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

* Why your partner reacts to feedback like it’s criticism, even when you’re genuinely trying to help

* The two reasons feedback lands like criticism: conduct and absence of safety

* Why conduct (the energy behind your words) matters just as much as content (what you’re saying)

* The fear vs. love framework: words rooted in fear are repelled, words rooted in love are received

* What emotional safety actually means (and why it’s not just physical safety)

* How to tell if emotional safety is present in your relationship (the intimacy temperature check)

* Why feedback can’t land in a chronically activated relationship

* How to become the tuning fork for your family (vagal authority in your home)

* A simple grounding tool to use before you walk through the door at the end of the workday

Free Download:

Explode Shutdown Cycle Field Guide for LeadersIf you get home after work and find yourself exploding at the smallest things, then shutting down and withdrawing, this guide is for you.

Work with Lilly:

If you’re someone who explodes and then withdraws and shuts down, or you notice a lot of tension and turmoil in your home, reach out to Lilly. She’ll walk you through what nervous system work could do for your relationship.Email: support@lillyrachels.com