Two Words That Might Be Keeping You Stuck (And How to Replace Them)

What if the reason you keep cycling through the same frustrations isn't about willpower or discipline, but about two words you've been using to describe yourself? "Always" and "never" aren't just casual language. They're filters that programme your brain to delete evidence of your progress and lock you into an identity that doesn't serve you.

In this episode, I break down why these absolutes are so dangerous for gay men trying to build confidence, set boundaries, and break free from people-pleasing patterns. You'll learn three practical techniques to catch yourself mid-story, replace absolutes with gradient language, and start stacking evidence for the identity you're actually building.

This isn't about toxic positivity or pretending setbacks don't happen. It's about recognising that one mistake doesn't erase every time you've shown up, and learning to see your progress even when it's messy.

If you want to dismantle these patterns with other gay men who are rewriting their scripts and building unshakeable confidence together, head to thefreedomcommunity.com to explore my coaching container, where we practise these techniques until they become second nature.

Follow me on Instagram for daily reminders that your setbacks are data, not destiny.

If you've ever scrolled through Instagram at midnight and felt that gut-punch of "I'm behind," this episode is for you.

We're dismantling the toxic timeline that tells gay men they've somehow missed the boat if they're not partnered, promoted, or perfectly settled by a certain age.

David walks you through three powerful shifts to stop measuring yourself against outdated maps and start recognising what you actually are: calibrated, experienced, and entering your defining years.

You'll learn a practical NLP technique to strip that panicked inner voice of its power, discover how to reframe your past as data rather than failure, and finally give yourself permission to stop apologising for taking up space.

This is about recognising that the wisdom, boundaries, and self-knowledge you've built weren't detours. They were necessary. And you're exactly where you need to be.

If you're ready to stop playing the supporting role in your own life and join other gay men doing this work together, head to thefreedomcommunity.com to join my coaching container. This is a safe space where we burn the old scripts and build lives that fit.

Follow David on Instagram for daily reminders that you're not late, you're not behind, and you're absolutely right on time.