Two Words That Might Be Keeping You Stuck (And How to Replace Them)

What if the reason you keep cycling through the same frustrations isn't about willpower or discipline, but about two words you've been using to describe yourself? "Always" and "never" aren't just casual language. They're filters that programme your brain to delete evidence of your progress and lock you into an identity that doesn't serve you.

In this episode, I break down why these absolutes are so dangerous for gay men trying to build confidence, set boundaries, and break free from people-pleasing patterns. You'll learn three practical techniques to catch yourself mid-story, replace absolutes with gradient language, and start stacking evidence for the identity you're actually building.

This isn't about toxic positivity or pretending setbacks don't happen. It's about recognising that one mistake doesn't erase every time you've shown up, and learning to see your progress even when it's messy.

If you want to dismantle these patterns with other gay men who are rewriting their scripts and building unshakeable confidence together, head to thefreedomcommunity.com to explore my coaching container, where we practise these techniques until they become second nature.

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