195 This may be one of the most important episodes you will hear to make your marriage the one you want it to be.

Especially if, like so many women, you wonder “Why should I be the one to do the work on our relationship?” Or you feel burdened or resentful that you seem to be alone in working on your marriage. Or if it just seems unfair that a lot of relationship advice is directed at women, when men have so much to learn when it comes to having a great relationship.

If you're feeling that way, I get it. I’ve been there. AND it is making it HARDER to have the loving, connected, mutually supportive marriage you want with your spouse.

In this episode, you’ll hear why. And why this line of thinking is leading to an almost epidemic of women being unhappy in their marriages.

What I want most is for you to feel deeply fulfilled in your relationship–and you want that too! So we’ve got to address this. Because trying to create deeper, better love from a sense of burden and resentment will never work.

You didn’t get married to just tolerate your relationship. You signed up for something way better than that. You want to truly enjoy your marriage. And like it or not, that means you WILL have to work for it, no matter how much your partner is also working on it.

But it can be fun, even joyful. In fact, in this episode, I share how I work on my marriage every single day---with joy, passion, and feeling like it’s a sacred honor that I GET to do–and how you can, too.

Listen to this episode to move past the burden and resentment that comes from feeling like you have to do this work with no or very little help from your spouse, and so you can feel truly empowered to do what it takes to make your marriage what you want it to be.

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• FREE QUIZ: How Much is High Sensitivity Impacting Your Relationship (and are you even highly sensitive)? You want to know. Because, high sensitivity has a major impact on intimate relationships – for better or worse. Take this 3 minute quiz to discover if you're highly sensitive and how deeply it’s affecting you, and your happiness in your relationship. You will also get your next steps to making sure sensitivity works for your relationship, instead of against it.

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194 Today we are shining light on an almost funny thing that goes on deep under the surface in us women, which can really cause rifts, pain, and unnecessary suffering in our marriages to men:

What I am calling Reverse Sexism in relationships.

What is that, you may wonder? Tune in to find out. You will hear many examples of it, both how it has shown up in me personally, and my clients, too. You’ll hear why it costs us so much, and why it happens at all, how to find it in yourself, and how to stop it from creating ever-widening rifts in your own relationship.

As usual, this reverse sexism issue is not your fault, but it is your responsibility to address it – if you want the best relationship you can have with your man.

So get ready to put on your compassionate curiosity glasses and take a good (but humorous) look at yourself. Dig in.

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FREE QUIZ: How Much is High Sensitivity Impacting Your Relationship (and are you even highly sensitive)? You want to know. Because, high sensitivity has a major impact on intimate relationships – for better or worse. Take this 3 minute quiz to discover if you're highly sensitive and how deeply it’s affecting you, and your happiness in your relationship. You will also get your next steps to making sure sensitivity works for your relationship, instead of against it.

Join Hannah for 4 months of private 1:1 Marriage Coaching, and get her deep, super individualized support to make your marriage more full of security, connection, love, and mutual support than ever. Get started by filling out this form.

See her on-demand relationship courses for HSPs here.

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You shape your emotional experiences SO deeply. Even if you can’t see it now, even if it feels like your partner is the main shaper of how you feel in your relationship, even if it seems like you are often emotionally at the effect of the world. YOU, in fact, are the #1 source of your own emotions.

This is the best news EVER. Because it means you have so much more power over how you feel in your relationship--and how the relationship goes-- than you've ever known. It’s time to learn to access this power--what I call Emotional Agency. (Think of this as a follow-up episode to the last episode, Emotional Delegation 101. Although they go together, you can listen to either one first.)

In this episode, you’ll delve deep into the details of where your emotions really come from (likely not where you’ve always assumed they come from). And you’ll hear many concrete examples to illustrate this essential teaching and make it clear as daylight, so you can:

• develop a whole new, way more empowered relationship with your emotions.
• start to soften, influence, and guide your emotions, regardless of outside circumstances
• Start to feel way less disappointment, resentment, frustration and upset, and WAY MORE ease, love, lightness, and closeness, so you can naturally make your marriage how you want it to be.

It all starts by being truly open to understanding the real source of your feelings. Everything will get better once you really understand and live this. So dig in to really get this life and love-transforming understanding.

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192 If there has been one major underlying concept that I have woven into nearly every episode of this podcast, it is the concept of emotional delegation (or its opposite, emotional agency). BUT I’ve never made a podcast episode solely dedicated to making sure you understand this concept. So today is the day!

I made this episode to clearly define emotional delegation for you, and help you see how it may be playing into your relationship challenges, and so you can start the journey of letting it go — because it is really the #1 underlying habit that pretty much EVERYONE falls into that hurts our relationships (and you're not going to hear about on many other relationship podcasts. I truly can’t understand why this gets left out so often, because it is pretty much everything when it comes to marriage problems!)

So listen in to learn:

• What emotional delegation is and how it completely disempowers you in your relationship.
• Where emotional delegation comes from (hint, both nature and nurture) and why pretty much everyone does it.
• Signs of what it looks like, so you can recognize if you may have this habit.
• Why understanding it is so important.
• Why emotional delegation is so detrimental, and the specific tolls that it takes on you and your relationship.
• My own personal stories of how it has affected me and my relationships.
• And what happens when you learn to stop emotional delegating, and step into its opposite: emotional agency.

As you recognize that you are emotionally delegating, you hand yourself, and your marriage, a huge win. When you stop doing it, and begin to step into emotional agency, instead, you empower yourself even more, and give your relationship the very best chance to become the truly loving one you have always wanted. So don't miss this essential episode.

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191 Vulnerability is the secret magic sauce that makes for the best, most connecting communication in your relationship– and today you are going to learn all about it!

You’ll hear:

• What vulnerability actually is
• Why it is so magic in relationship
• specific examples of what communicating vulnerably looks like, along with when to lean into using it,
• Why you may not be being vulnerable when you most need to be
• What that costs you and your relationship
• And, of course, what it takes to truly BE vulnerable in your communications, including the most foundational ingredient to harness the beautiful power of vulnerability.

The truth is, despite the great heart-opening power of vulnerability to create that deep close loving intimacy you want, it doesn't come that naturally to many of us as HSPs.

So tune in now to hear how to make it easier and more natural, so you can reap the huge benefits you will feel in your marriage when you communicate in a more vulnerable way.

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190 I made you a special short quiz to determine the level of dysregulation in your unique nervous system. (This episode goes hand in hand with episode 189, so I highly recommend listening to it first, or after you take the quiz.)

Why should you take it? Because as highly sensitive people (and really, as just regular human beings on this planet in these modern times), our nervous systems are often chronically dysregulated.

And this has a major impact in a not-so-great way on our lives in general and especially on our relationships. So you need to understand if you have a nervous system that is dysregulated chronically or that tends to get easily dysregulated.

Unfortunately this can happen even more easily for us than non-HSPs.

When we are dysregulated, we react more strongly than we normally would, in one way or another, and that leads to much more drama, much more struggle in our relationships, and a lot less clear, effective communication, a lot less getting through to our spouses, and being able to really hear each other, a lot less open-heartedness and connection, and a lot less feeling the mutual supportiveness and sense of being on the same team.

So there really are many different ways that nervous system dysregulation can show up to the detriment of your relationship and to the detriment of your life in general.

And you do want to know if it is happening for you so that you can make the necessary changes. Because that's the really good news: you have so much sway over your nervous system regulation or dysregulation. It just can take a little bit of learning and attention to it.

Dive in now with pen and paper in hand.

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Take the Dysregualtion quiz here in written format.

Learn all about Foundations of Emotional Well-Being Course; The Root Of A Better Relationship here. Doors close June 22nd, 2025 .

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189 (This episode goes hand in hand with episode 190) Being a highly sensitive person obviously means we are more sensitive than others. This has real ramifications in our love lives— both wonderful and challenging.

Listen in to this VERY revised (almost totally new) version of an older topic, where you will learn that, luckily, you can support your sensitive self in ways that amplify the best parts of your sensitivity, and make the challenges of it so much easier.

. . .and how this will involve caretaking your sensitive Mind Body Heart System, (starting with your nervous system) MORE deeply and consistently than non-HSPs (like it or not!).

In other words, even if you resist the idea, the truth is, in order to have an intimate relationship (and life) that feels deeply satisfying, nourishing, and fulfilling as an HSP, you need to attend more to your emotional well-being and nervous system regulation than non-HSPs.

In this episode you will hear my own story around this, and how, as I’ve accepted this, and learned how to caretake my sensitive nervous system (and sensitive mind, body, heart, and emotions), I’ve fallen in love with doing it. AND how doing so changed EVERYTHING for the better forever in my love life.

This can be true for you, too.

You’ll also learn:

• why love and marriage can be so hard as HSP without truly caretaking your sensitive system in the right ways
• why accepting your higher need for emotional caretaking can be difficult, and why it's more than worth it to do so
• the 4 simple but essential foundational steps to get started with right away to be able to truly caretake your sensitive system
• And the best way to truly regulate the most foundational aspect of your emotional well-being (your nervous system) so you can always be able to guide yourself back to that calm, steady, connected-to-your-heart-and-wisdom place from which you’ll best relate to your significant other in ways that lead to the deepest connection, love, and collaboration, and the most fulfilling intimacy.

Without this emotional tending, the kind of relationship you most want – full of love, lightheartedness, attraction, effective and connecting communication, and mutual supportiveness – is likely to remain elusive.

But with it? You set the stage for what can feel like magic to happen in your relationship. Dive in to begin.

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Take the Dysregulation quiz in the next episode (190) via podcast (it's live!), or here in written format.

Learn all about Foundations of Emotional Well-Being Course; The Root Of A Better Relationship here. Doors close June 22nd, 2025 .

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188 Developing healthy boundaries is an absolutely essential part of having a great intimate relationship, especially as highly sensitive people.They are a way to take care of yourself, each other, and the relationship.

I teach 3 types of boundaries, and today we are diving into the 2 psychological, or energetic types of boundaries: Protection boundaries, and containment boundaries. (Please listen to episode 51 for Relationship Boundary Basics.)

When you use these kinds of boundaries skillfully, you will be able to create more closeness in your relationship, and leave beyond patterns and behaviors that create extra division, conflict, and animosity.

The thing is, many HSPs are a bit weak in these particular boundaries. So let’s change that starting now!

Dive in to hear what these two types of boundaries are, whether or not you need to strengthen them for yourself, and how and when to implement them.

For each type, you will hear 2 or 3 tips to grow stronger boundaries (including two visualizations you can use over and over again), so you can feel less pain, resentment, and regret, and be more skillful at communicating and connecting with your partner.

Listen in.

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CHECK OUT THE COURSES MENTIONED:

• Stop Taking It So Personally
• Coaching Privately with Hannah

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