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  • Doing Everything Right But Still Broken? Here's Why

    Doing Everything Right But Still Broken? Here's Why
    Jan 29 2026
    We’ve been sold a lie about “having it all.” More money. More status. More freedom. But before Kelly Siegel ever understood success, he understood damage. And this episode reframes “having it all” from the inside out. In this powerful solo episode, Kelly breaks down the five pillars most people chase without understanding: health, family, money, purpose, peace, and seasons and how each one is completely misunderstood when you grow up in chaos, survival, or scarcity. This isn’t an episode about optimization. It’s about liberation. If you’ve ever felt like you’re doing everything “right” but still feel exhausted, conflicted, or misaligned, this episode will give you language for what you’re experiencing. Because having it all isn’t about doing more. It’s about healing enough to receive what you already built. Key Takeaways: 🟥 Health is not an add-on; it’s the foundation of sustainable success 🟥 Family stops being pressure when you heal and show up present 🟥 Money is a tool for freedom, not proof of worth 🟥 Purpose often starts as survival and clarifies with healing 🟥 Peace is not control. It’s regulated surrender 🟥 Life happens in overlapping seasons, not clean phases (00:00) Intro (00:50) Understanding Health as a Foundation (03:52) From Pressure to Presence (07:17) How Poverty Affects Your Brain (10:21) Purpose Evolves As You Heal (13:25) Control vs. Peace (16:28) Navigating Life’s Seasons 🔔 Subscribe for weekly episodes that help you heal, lead, and live Harder Than Life. Harder Than Life: 🔴 Apple 🔴 Spotify 🔴 YouTube ⚫ Instagram ⚫ Facebook ⚫ LinkedIn ⚫ TikTok ⚫ Website Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    20 min
  • Adaptability Over IQ | The CEO Skill Everyone's Missing

    Adaptability Over IQ | The CEO Skill Everyone's Missing
    Jan 27 2026
    What happens when a fighter pilot’s discipline collides with Silicon Valley ambition? In this powerful episode of Harder Than Life, Kelly Siegel sits down with Illana Golan—former F-16 fighter pilot, tech executive, and founder of Leap Academy—to unpack reinvention, adaptability, and fearless leadership. Illana shares her journey from military service to Silicon Valley, the failure that reshaped her identity, and why adaptability is the most critical skill in the age of AI. This episode explores leadership under pressure, portfolio careers, personal branding, and how to leap into your next chapter with clarity and confidence. Key Takeaways 🟥 Adaptability is the new competitive advantage 🟥 Failure accelerates reinvention 🟥 Your brand is your career insurance 🟥 Clarity comes from action, not thinking 🟥 Reinvention is a lifelong skill (0:00) - Intro (1:19) - Early Life And Military Experience (3:10) - Lessons in Leadership and Discipline (4:46) - Challenges and Gender Equality In The Military (10:32) - Transition to Tech And Entrepreneurship (12:01) - Take On Israel's Current Events (13:39) - The Importance of Failure and Reinvention (18:28) - The LEAP Mindset (21:54) - Checklist For Winning (27:00) - Portfolio Career (30:35) - Importance Of Adaptability Quotient (33:34) - Reinvent Yourself (35:39) - What A Unicorn Is (38:00) - Advice For Feeling Stuck (41:23) - Toxic Badges of Honor in Tech (43:07) - Non-Tech Habits for Success (44:14) - Lessons from Top Founders (46:40) - Empowering Women In Tech (47:58) - Rapid Fire Questions (49:38) - Final Thoughts On Reinvention 🔔 Subscribe for weekly episodes with real, raw guests who live, speak, and fight Harder Than Life: 🔴 Apple 🔴 Spotify 🔴 YouTube ⚫ Instagram ⚫ Facebook ⚫ LinkedIn ⚫ TikTok ⚫ Website Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    58 min
  • The Pattern Most People Won't Admit About Their Chaos

    The Pattern Most People Won't Admit About Their Chaos
    Jan 26 2026
    Some of you aren’t addicted to success. You’re addicted to chaos. In this Hard Reset episode, Kelly Siegel breaks down why many people live in constant crisis mode not because life demands it, but because peace feels unfamiliar. Kelly shares personal stories of chaos in relationships, finances, and mindset, and explains how survival mode becomes mistaken for strength. This episode explores trauma responses, sabotaging calm, and why healing means learning to function when life is stable. Key Takeaways 🟥 Being addicted to chaos is a trauma response 🟥 Survival is not strength 🟥 Familiar misery feels safer than unfamiliar peace 🟥 Peace is maturity and mastery (00:00) Recognizing the Addiction to Chaos (00:16) Personal Experience with Chaos (00:52) Understanding the Impact of Chaos (01:15) The Path to Healing and Stability (01:58) The Hard Reset 🔔 Subscribe for weekly episodes with real, raw conversations that help you choose peace and live Harder Than Life. Harder Than Life: 🔴 Apple 🔴 Spotify 🔴 YouTube ⚫ Instagram ⚫ LinkedIn ⚫ TikTok ⚫ Website Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    4 min
  • Trauma Bonding vs Real Love | What's the Difference?

    Trauma Bonding vs Real Love | What's the Difference?
    Jan 22 2026
    Love doesn’t always feel exciting. Sometimes, it feels calm. Sometimes, it feels safe. And sometimes… love means leaving. In this deeply personal solo episode, Kelly Siegel redefines love through the lens of childhood chaos, trauma, and healing. For those who grew up in violence, unpredictability, or emotional neglect, love doesn’t feel like fireworks, it feels like not getting hurt. Kelly walks through the hard truths most people avoid: how chaos gets mistaken for chemistry, how respect becomes control, how trust breaks at the self level first, and why your body recognizes danger long before your mind makes excuses. This episode is about safety, boundaries, self-trust, and unlearning survival. If you’ve ever stayed too long, stayed too quiet, or stayed because leaving felt wrong—this episode will put language to what your body already knows. Because love that costs you your safety… isn’t love. Key Takeaways: 🟥 Love is calm, nourishing, and safe, not chaotic or fear-based 🟥 Trauma bonding disguises itself as chemistry 🟥 Trust begins with listening to yourself 🟥 Safety is a body response, not a thought 🟥 Boundaries are clarity, not punishment 🟥 Love doesn’t always mean staying; sometimes it means choosing yourself (01:00) Redefining Love after Chaos (02:52) Self-Love and Trauma Bonding (04:36) Distinguishing True Respect From Control (07:47) The Truth About Trust (10:50) Why Your Body Recognizes Danger First (13:57) Boundaries as Self-Respect 🔔 Subscribe for weekly episodes that help you heal, lead, and live Harder Than Life. Harder Than Life: 🔴 Apple 🔴 Spotify 🔴 YouTube ⚫ Instagram ⚫ Facebook ⚫ LinkedIn ⚫ TikTok ⚫ Website Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    18 min
  • The Real Reason Alcohol Addiction is Harder to Treat

    The Real Reason Alcohol Addiction is Harder to Treat
    Jan 20 2026
    What if healing didn’t start with pills… but with music? In this powerful episode of Harder Than Life, Kelly Siegel sits down with Andrew Sossin, co-founder & CEO of Recovery Unplugged, the groundbreaking treatment network that uses music as medicine to heal addiction, trauma, anxiety, and depression. Andrew has helped over 20,000 people reclaim their lives, not by following a cookie-cutter recovery model but by breaking it completely. Kelly also shares deeply personal stories about trauma, sobriety, nervous system regulation, and what finally broke the cycle after decades of chaos. This episode is raw, emotional, and hopeful—proof that healing is possible, even when it feels out of reach. Key Takeaways 🟥 Why alcohol is responsible for 50% of all addiction cases across every demographic 🟥 The danger of detoxing from alcohol without medical support 🟥 How music bypasses defenses and accelerates healing 🟥 Why trauma recovery requires feeling, not avoiding 🟥 How ketamine and TMS help rewire the brain when done correctly 🟥 The future of therapy using VR and AI with humans at the center 🟥 Why recovery doesn’t just save one life, it saves generations (00:00) Introduction (01:38) Founding Recovery Unplugged (04:01) The Impact of Tony Robbins (06:27) Challenges and Triumphs in Recovery (11:45) Innovative Treatments: Ketamine and TMS (16:19) The Role of Alcohol in Addiction (20:58) Cannabis (24:56) Success Stories (29:25) The Journey To Self-Love (30:31) The Power Of Music In Recovery (34:20) Stories of Struggle and Triumph (36:22) Innovations in Virtual Therapy (44:48) The Role of AI in Mental Health (47:08) The Future of Addiction Treatment (56:05) Thoughts and Inspirations 🔔 Subscribe for weekly episodes with real, raw guests who live, speak, and fight Harder Than Life. Harder Than Life: 🔴 Apple 🔴 Spotify 🔴 YouTube ⚫ Instagram ⚫ Facebook ⚫ LinkedIn ⚫ TikTok ⚫ Website Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    58 min
  • Success Tastes Like Failure When You're Alone at the Top

    Success Tastes Like Failure When You're Alone at the Top
    Jan 19 2026
    Winning means nothing if you can’t sleep at night. We live in a world obsessed with success, money, titles, followers, and recognition. And for a moment, those things feel good. But in this Hard Reset episode, Kelly Siegel breaks down a truth most people don’t realize until it’s too late: Success without peace is failure. Kelly shares hard-earned lessons from chasing and achieving external success, only to realize that none of it matters if it costs you your health, your family, your integrity, or your ability to be present. A big house you never enjoy. A paycheck that destroys your body. A title your kids barely recognize. That’s not winning. That’s performing. This episode is a wake-up call for high performers who are grinding forward but quietly burning out. Because the real flex isn’t what you achieve; it’s who you become on the way there. Key Takeaways 🟥 Success without peace is just a well-decorated prison 🟥 Accomplishments don’t matter if they cost your health or relationships 🟥 Peace is knowing you didn’t betray yourself to win 🟥 Big goals matter but not at the cost of sanity and family 🟥 Build a life you don’t need to escape from (00:00) Introduction to the Hard Reset (00:14) The Illusion of Success (01:17) The True Meaning of Peace (02:04) The Cost of Chasing Goals (02:34) Building a Life of True Success (02:53) Upcoming Episodes 🔔 Subscribe for weekly episodes with real, raw guests who live, speak, and fight Harder Than Life. Harder Than Life: 🔴 Apple 🔴 Spotify 🔴 YouTube ⚫ Instagram ⚫ Facebook ⚫ LinkedIn ⚫ TikTok ⚫ Website Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    5 min
  • Your 'I'm Fine' Is Killing You | The Misalignment Trap

    Your 'I'm Fine' Is Killing You | The Misalignment Trap
    Jan 15 2026
    You can have a good life on paper… and still feel disconnected inside. In this raw and honest solo episode, Kelly Siegel breaks down one of the most dangerous places a person can live: “I’m fine.” Not broken. Not failing. Just quietly misaligned. Kelly unpacks why high performers often ignore the warning signs like exhaustion, numbness, loss of joy and how staying comfortable slowly erodes your truth, your peace, and your identity. This episode isn’t about motivation. It’s about honesty. Because peace doesn’t come from rest or success. It comes from alignment. If you’ve been pushing, producing, and performing but feel disconnected from yourself, this episode will help you tell the truth before life forces you to. Key Takeaways: 🟥 Why “I’m fine” is a stall tactic that keeps you stuck 🟥 The difference between being tired and being misaligned 🟥 Why numbness is a warning sign, not a personality trait 🟥 How comfort slowly erodes peace and self-trust 🟥 Why alignment, not achievement, creates real peace (00:00) Intro (01:11) The Struggle of Feeling Like a Fraud (01:49) Understanding the Feeling of Fraudulence (02:50) Building Skills and Gaining Respect (04:27) The Importance of Experience (07:03) Proof of Accomplishments (09:12) Embracing the Process of Growth (10:33) Taking Action and Overcoming Doubt 🔔 Subscribe for weekly episodes that help you heal, lead, and live Harder Than Life. Harder Than Life: 🔴 Apple 🔴 Spotify 🔴 YouTube ⚫ Instagram ⚫ Facebook ⚫ LinkedIn ⚫ TikTok ⚫ Website Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    14 min
  • The Pattern You Can't Explain | Trauma Bonds Decoded

    The Pattern You Can't Explain | Trauma Bonds Decoded
    Jan 13 2026
    If you’ve ever chased chaos and called it love… This conversation will change you. In this deeply raw and transformative episode, Kelly Siegel sits down with Esin Pinarli, holistic therapist and founder of Eternal Wellness Counseling, for one of the most honest conversations ever recorded on Harder Than Life. Esin doesn’t just teach trauma healing; she’s lived it. From addiction and anxiety to nervous system collapse, Esin shares how unresolved trauma wires us for chaos, why we confuse intensity for chemistry, and how self-medication shows up not just as substances, but as productivity, relationships, and over-functioning. This episode is a masterclass in nervous system regulation, trauma bonds, implicit memory, emotional addiction, and real healing. If you’ve ever felt addicted to the wrong people, overwhelmed by your emotions, or stuck in patterns you “can’t explain,” this conversation will give language to your experience and a path forward. Key Takeaways 🟥 Why chaos feels like chemistry when your nervous system is unhealed 🟥 How we self-medicate with work, relationships, and productivity 🟥 The difference between implicit and explicit trauma 🟥 How nervous system regulation creates real, sustainable change 🟥 Why healing isn’t about remembering; it’s about sensation (00:00) Intro (01:07) Understanding Emotional Rock Bottoms (02:05) Alcohol as a Coping Mechanism (03:24) The Truth About Self-Medicating (05:48) The Sand and the Shift (10:48) Implicit Memory and Body Trauma (25:09) Chaos vs. Real Chemistry (35:47) Why Toxic Love Feels Addictive (40:13) The Three Parts of Polyvagal (54:51) Rapid Fire Recovery Insights 🔔 Subscribe for weekly episodes with real, raw guests who live, speak, and fight harder than life. Harder Than Life: 🔴 Apple 🔴 Spotify 🔴 YouTube ⚫ Instagram ⚫ Facebook ⚫ LinkedIn ⚫ TikTok ⚫ Website Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    1 h et 3 min