So many of us have been taught to push through, carry it all, and put ourselves last… especially as women and mothers.

But what if your body isn’t the problem?
What if it’s actually the guide?

In this episode, I’m joined by my coach Debbie Lim of Debbie Lim Creative to explore what it really looks like to move from burnout into embodiment.

We talk about reclaiming your energy, learning to listen to your body, and why having it all doesn’t mean you have to hold it all.

Debbie shares her own journey from burnout and disconnection to coming home to her body, and how that shifted everything — her energy, her work, and the way she lives her life.

Inside this conversation, we explore:

• Why burnout isn’t just physical (and what’s really going on underneath)
• The connection between shame, shadow work, and exhaustion
• What it means to reclaim your “sovereign energy”
• How creative expression can help you process and release emotions
• Why rest, play, and slowing down are actually part of healing
• The truth about “feminine vs masculine energy” (and what most people get wrong)

If your life looks good on paper but feels heavy, disconnected, or exhausting… this episode will open up a new way forward.

This is your reminder:
>> You didn’t come here just to survive…
>> You came here to feel, to create, and to live in full colour.

When you’re ready to reconnect with your colour and creative spark, here are two ways I can support you:

1. Want more like this?
Subscribe on YouTube for honest conversations, practical tools, and stories to help you figure out “what now?” https://www.youtube.com/@thepermissionproject

2. Ready to stop living on autopilot?
You don’t need to blow up your life to have what you desire.
You simply need to shift the way you show up, trust yourself enough to choose differently, and dare to colour outside the lines.

Download your free Choose Desire Roadmap here:
https://kirihoney.thrivecart.com/choose-desire/

What happens when the system you trusted no longer fits? When your body says no—but the world says yes?

In this episode of Happily Ever After.. What Now?, I’m joined by Denise Graham, an In-Bodied Horsewoman, movement medicine artist, and founder of Embody the Herd. We explore what it means to truly trust your body wisdom which is key to reconnect with your body, break free from outdated systems, and reconnect with the wild, wise, full-colour version of yourself.

Denise doesn’t just teach embodiment—she lives it. After leaving her career in mainstream education, she followed her body’s knowing toward a life grounded in somatic awareness, nature-based learning, and the deep, honest feedback loop of horse herd dynamics.

If you’ve ever felt like your life has lost its colour or you’re navigating a “what now?” moment of your own—this episode will feel like a breath of fresh air.

💬 In this episode, we talk about:
- Denise’s “What Now?” moment during the COVID mandates—and how her body led the way
- What horses can teach us about emotional integrity and nervous system regulation
- Why communication starts with the body (not the mouth)
- How Denise supports women experiencing burnout, disconnection, and deep transition
- The philosophy behind her Nature School and why kids (and adults) need unlearning too
- Reclaiming your body wisdom—through movement, cycles, and embodied boundaries as well as how to listen to your body
- Her best and worst advice (spoiler: follow the feel might change everything)

00:00 Introduction: When Life No Longer Fits
00:23 Meet Denise Graham: Embodiment Coach and Horse Wisdom
02:29 Denise's 'What Now' Moment: A Personal Transformation
05:21 The Wisdom of Horses: Healing and Embodiment
13:52 Practical Embodiment: Daily Practices and Insights
23:55 Nature School and Unlearning: Trusting Ourselves
33:53 What More Women Need to Know
37:39 Final Thoughts and Advice: Follow the Feel

Connect with Denise Graham:
Want to learn more about Denise’s work or join her women’s circles?
You can find her here:
🔗 Website: www.embodytheherd.com
📸 Instagram: @embodytheherd
📘 Facebook: facebook.com/embodytheherd

When you’re ready to reconnect with your colour and creative spark, here are two ways I can support you:

1. Want more like this?
Subscribe on YouTube for honest conversations, practical tools, and stories to help you figure out “what now?” https://www.youtube.com/@thepermissionproject

2. Ready to stop living on autopilot?
You don’t need to blow up your life to have what you desire.
You simply need to shift the way you show up, trust yourself enough to choose differently, and dare to colour outside the lines.

Download your free Choose Desire Roadmap here:
https://kirihoney.thrivecart.com/choose-desire/

Positive Body Image and Sexual Trauma Healing with Nikki Lanchbery.

What happens when the fairytale ends and you're left holding the pieces of a story you never asked for? In this episode of 'Happily Ever After... What Now?', host Kiri Honey, a communication coach and creative guide, chats with Nikki Lanchbery, a Yogi, Body Acceptance advocate and founder of @invitethecalm

Nikki shares her journey of overcoming trauma, particularly sexual assault, and how she helps others reconnect with their bodies through yoga, mindfulness, and compassionate community.

We discuss the challenges of body acceptance, the impact of societal beauty standards, and practical steps for navigating life after trauma.

Nikki offers insights into her personal experiences and provides actionable advice for those struggling with self-blame, anger, and the journey toward self-love and body positivity.

00:00 Introduction to Today's Topic
00:11 Meet Nikki Lanchbery: Yogi and Advocate
01:52 Nikki's Journey to Body Acceptance
02:04 The Concept of Clothes-Free Communities
05:20 Challenging Beauty Standards
10:45 Navigating Sexual Assault: Nikki's Story
25:04 Navigating Emotions: Healthy Practices
25:46 Embodiment Practices for Self-Acceptance
27:39 Rest and Nourishment: Key to Healing
27:57 Invite the Calm: Overcoming Trauma
31:39 Reclaiming Joy and Pleasure
39:35 Best and Worst Advice: Personal Reflections
42:46 Body Acceptance and Self-Love
47:48 Final Thoughts and Farewell

📖 Read Nikki’s Blog Post mentioned in the video here: https://www.invitethecalm.com/post/seeing-yourself

If you’d like to learn more about the Retreats Nikki runs visit: https://www.invitethecalm.com/retreats

Follow Nikki @invitethecalm on YouTube here: https://www.youtube.com/@invitethecalm
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When you’re ready to reconnect with your colour and creative spark, here are two ways I can support you:

1. Want more like this?
Subscribe on YouTube for honest conversations, practical tools, and stories to help you figure out “what now?” https://www.youtube.com/@thepermissionproject

2. Ready to stop living on autopilot?
You don’t need to blow up your life to have what you desire.
You simply need to shift the way you show up, trust yourself enough to choose differently, and dare to colour outside the lines.

Download your free Choose Desire Roadmap here:
https://kirihoney.thrivecart.com/choose-desire/