Chelsea Handler doesn’t have kids. She also has three girls in her life who call her Dad, 11 nieces and nephews, and has taken parenting classes.

Dr. Becky asks what Chelsea can see about kids that parents can’t. Most of Chelsea's answer turns out to be about... the parents.

When a kid falls apart, a parent takes it as a verdict on themselves. Chelsea doesn’t have any reason to internalize that, and it changes how she responds. The clearest example is a teenager who backs a car into another car during a driving lesson and completely melts down, bracing for a punishment that never comes. And Chelsea gets to be the one who says: It's fine. You're fine. Everything's fine!

They get into: why consistency works better than rewards, what Chelsea’s parenting therapist told her about never meeting a kid at the anger they’re at, why trusting a kid is the thing that makes them trustworthy, boundaries (hers are terrible and she has no plans to fix them), and the one rule Chelsea would abolish in every house in America.

Chelsea Handler is on her "High & Mighty" tour through the end of the year, and she host's the advice podcast Dear Chelsea.

Heads up: some salty language, and Becky admits not all of it was Chelsea.

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Challenge Accepted is a new limited podcast series from Good Inside and Hot Wheels. Created for parents who want to raise resilient kids, this series explores the early experiences that shape who we become - and the mindset it takes to keep pushing forward. This is Episode 1 of 4.

What if confidence isn’t believing you’ll succeed, but knowing you’ll survive it if you don’t? Kellie Gerardi grew up near Kennedy Space Center dreaming of space, with no obvious way to get there. She had no military background, wasn’t on a test-pilot track, and her parents had no background in science. She left Earth anyway, flying in November 2023 as a researcher on a Virgin Galactic science mission.

Dr. Becky digs into what happened early in Kellie’s life that made “I can figure this out” possible. It started with parents who took her interests seriously without promising her anything. Then came a kindergarten meltdown over reading an analog clock that changed how she handled failure. And it shows up now in why she lets her daughters watch her be bad at things (ever tried weekly improv?). They also talk about how her scientist’s mindset helped her through years of secondary infertility, and how to assess when quitting is actually the right call.

Stay tuned for coming episodes of Challenge Accepted, featuring Olympic bobsledder Elana Meyers Taylor; New York Liberty forward Breanna Stewart; and YouTuber, engineer, and inventor Mark Rober.

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Every parent asks their kid some version of the same question: “Who's your best friend?” Adam Grant thinks that's the wrong thing to be asking, at any age.

His new book Vibe breaks friendship into four types: pals, allies, companions, and associates. Most of us assume we need one person who's all four. Grant's research says that's a setup for disappointment, and that kids who are genuinely well-liked at school still feel excluded and isolated if they don't have one "bestie."

Dr. Becky and Adam get into why it takes about 50 hours, on average, to make a friend (and up to 200 to make a close one), why a scary hike or a rough IKEA build can bond people faster than anything easy, and why the person who reacts the biggest in your house usually ends up running it.

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