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  • Myers Briggs and the 9 Attachment Styles (Interview with Dr Dario Nardi)
    Nov 5 2025

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    Most people think they want deep connection—until old patterns show up. You chase, pull back, shut down. Sound familiar?


    In this conversation with neuroscientist and author Dr. Dario Nardi, we break down the 9 attachment styles (not just the basic 4) and how your Myers-Briggs type secretly influences the way you love, trust, and sabotage relationships.


    Whether you're an INFP stuck in the push-pull cycle, an INTJ lone wolf, or an ENFJ anxious pursuer, this video will help you finally understand why you keep repeating the same patterns—and what you can actually do about it.


    We cover:

    • The 4 classic attachment styles (and why they're incomplete)

    • The expanded 9-style model with your personality type's "home base"

    • Why gender socialization vs. type creates inner conflict

    • Defense mechanisms that keep you blind to your own pattern

    • The shocking stat about how many people struggle with this

    • Real therapeutic tools that work (EMDR, somatic practices, and more)


    If you've ever felt confused about why relationships feel so hard, this is your roadmap.


    Resources mentioned:

    • "Learning Love" by Thais Gibson (https://amzn.to/47mlBvx)

    • Elena Wolf (therapeutic consultant) (https://www.ilenewolf.com/)


    Chapters:

    Let's figure this out together. Drop a comment with your type and attachment style—I read them all.

    0:00 - Why Deep Connection Feels Impossible

    3:55 - What Your Ex Sees That You Don't

    4:51 - The One Question That Reveals Everything

    6:07 - The 4 Styles Everyone Gets Wrong

    6:25 - What Makes Someone 'Securely Attached'?

    8:15 - The Attachment Style That Confuses Everyone

    10:44 - Why You Can't See Your Own Pattern

    26:09 - The Lone Wolf's Secret

    28:31 - The Player's Secret Emotional Avoidance

    30:05 - Why INFPs Feel Everything (And Run Away)

    32:27 - When Stoic Becomes Your Survival Mode

    32:59 - The Controller: The Style Nobody Mentions

    34:40 - The Caretaker's Invisible Trap

    39:19 - Gender vs. Personality: Which Controls You More?

    41:55 - Your Type's Secret Relationship Weakness

    1:04:18 - How to Actually Heal (Not Just Understand)

    1:05:30 - The Childhood Wound You're Still Protecting

    1:08:34 - Why Talk Therapy Isn't Enough

    1:18:16 - The Stat That Changes How You Date

    1:19:18 - The Relationship Hierarchy That Changes Everything


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    1 h et 29 min
  • Do INFPs read too much into things?
    Nov 4 2025

    Ever feel like you know what someone's thinking—only to find out you were completely wrong? If you're an INFP (or any intuitive type), you've probably experienced this: the spiral of overthinking, the projections, the assumptions that lead to conflict.


    In this video, I break down why INFPs (and similar types) tend to over-read situations, using cognitive functions (Fi, Ne, Si) to explain the psychology behind it. I also share a personal story about how miscalibration nearly ruined a close friendship—and the one shift that changed everything.


    What you'll learn:

    • Why your intuition can betray you (and when to trust it)

    • The "miscalibration trap" that leads to wild assumptions

    • How this natural language tendency messes with communication

    • The one question that stops overthinking in its tracks

    • Why assuming positive intent will change your relationships


    If you've ever spiraled into "what did they really mean?"—this one's for you.


    Drop a comment: What's your biggest overthinking moment? Let's talk about it.


    INFP #MBTI #Overthinking #PersonalityTypes #SelfImprovement #Communication



    00:00 Why INFPs Always Think They Know What You're Thinking

    01:23 The 5 a.m. Fight That Changed How I See People

    02:41 The Hidden Reason Your Intuition Betrays You

    04:19 What 'Love' Means to You vs. What It Means to Me

    05:34 The One Question That Stops Overthinking in Its Tracks

    06:28 Why Assuming the Worst Makes You Miserable

    07:21 How to Read People Without Projecting Your Past

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    8 min
  • This One Change Makes INFPs Finally Reach Their Goals
    Oct 2 2025

    INFP Personality Type Explained

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    As an INFP and experienced INFP coach, I share insights on how to transform vague dreams into achievable goals. Learn how to leverage your introverted feeling and extraverted intuition to stay motivated, create meaningful habits, and implement gentle accountability systems.


    00:00 – What If This Is Why You’re Still Stuck?

    00:57 – The INFP Trap No One Talks About

    02:20 – The Secret Ingredient INFPs Avoid

    03:21 – Why Does Inspiration Always Slip Away?

    04:35 – The Real Cost of Overthinking (Ouch)

    05:25 – What Changes If You Do This First?

    07:07 – The Steps You’re Skipping (And Don’t Realize)

    08:15 – How Do You Make Motivation Last?

    09:42 – The Truth About Tiny Wins

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    10 min
  • Why INFPs Never Feel Like They Belong
    Sep 30 2025

    INFP Personality Type Explained

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    Are you an INFP who’s ever wondered, “Why do I feel so out of place—even around people I like?” You're welcome here. In this video, I break down why INFPs experience the world so differently, and why that difference can both sting and empower.


    Here’s what to expect:

    • The hidden challenge every INFP secretly wrestles with (and why it’s more common than you think)

    • Why social rejection hits harder for INFPs—and how to stop blaming yourself for it

    • The surprising power of speaking up, even when it doesn’t come naturally

    • Are you betraying yourself by fitting in? Busting the biggest myth about “authenticity”

    • Where to actually find your people (spoiler: it’s closer than you think)

    • Discover the hidden gift of being different—and why it doesn’t mean you’re broken

    • How to juggle multiple passions without feeling like a flake


    If you’ve ever felt “too sensitive,” “too weird,” or just “too much,” this video is for you. And hey, it's better to be too much than too little.


    Timestamps:

    00:00 Why INFPs Feel So Different

    00:35 The Hidden Challenge Every INFP Faces

    02:27 Why Social Rejection Hits Different for INFPs

    04:06 The Surprising Power of Speaking Up

    04:57 Are You Really Betraying Yourself?

    06:42 Where to Find Your People

    08:11 The Hidden Gift of Being Different

    11:04 The Secret to Maintaining Multiple Passions


    Drop your story in the comments—let’s build a space where INFPs can be unapologetically themselves. Subscribe for more deep-dives into the INFP mind!


    #INFP #MBTI #PersonalityTypes #FeelingDifferent #SelfDiscovery

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    12 min
  • Four Thoughts That RUIN INFPs
    Sep 23 2025

    Ever feel stuck bouncing between projects, daydreaming, comparing yourself to others, or just wondering if you’re fundamentally broken? Yeah, that’s classic INFP territory.


    This video digs into the four self-destructive thought patterns that trip up INFPs over and over again:

    • Forcing yourself to finish every project (and hating yourself when you don't)

    • Dismissing your inner world as “just daydreaming”

    • Comparing your struggles to other people’s strengths

    • Believing you’re broken for being different


    As an INFP who’s walked this path, built communities, and coached hundreds of dreamers, I break down how these habits come from fighting your nature instead of accepting it. You’ll find practical tips, stories, and the permission you didn’t know you needed to start living more in line with your real strengths.


    ⏰ Timestamps: 00:00 Four Thoughts That RUIN INFPs

    00:04 The Hidden Pattern That Holds Us Back

    01:22 Why Fighting Our Nature Never Works

    04:42 The Surprising Power of What Others Call Weakness

    06:10 What If Your Inner World Holds the Key?

    07:22 The Unexpected Truth About Those We Envy

    10:03 Breaking Free From the Biggest Lie We Tell Ourselves

    13:57 The Permission That Changes Everything


    If one of these hits you hard, let me know in the comments. Which thought messes with your head the most?


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    #INFP #selfgrowth #personalitytype #GeekPsychology

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    14 min
  • Brain Scans Reveal INFP vs INFJ Differences (with Dr Dario Nardi)
    Sep 21 2025

    You’ve been told you’re either an INFP or INFJ, but the difference is way deeper than quirky memes or stereotype lists.


    Ever feel like no online test or personality quiz gets you? This video actually uses neuroscience—real brain scans, not TikTok speculation—to reveal what’s going on inside INFP and INFJ minds. Your entire approach to decision-making, values, and even the way you daydream can be explained (finally!) by science, not tea leaves.


    Why should you care? Because misunderstanding your own nature—or someone else’s—leads to frustration, missed connections, and settling for one-size-fits-all advice. Trust me, your next “aha!” about yourself or that mystical INFJ friend is coming.


    I sat down with Dr. Dario Nardi, a neuroscientist who literally mapped the brains of INFPs and INFJs, to break down what’s actually happening up there. You’ll see real scientific evidence, hear about the biggest brain activity differences (some will surprise you), and learn how to spot these types in the wild—based on behaviors, not buzzwords.


    Whether you’re an INFP who can’t explain your gut feelings, or an INFJ spinning in Ni-territory, here’s how to finally understand what sets you apart. Consider this your shortcut to self-acceptance—and way fewer “am I mistyped?” crises.


    Dig this kind of science-backed personality breakdown? Hit subscribe for more! If you learned something (or just want to vent about being misunderstood), drop a comment below—I reply to as many as I can.


    #INFP #INFJ #MBTI #Personality #GeekPsychology #DarioNardi #Neuroscience


    00:00 The REAL Differences Between INFP and INFJ (Backed by Science)

    02:36 Why is it easier to sort INTP vs INTJ?

    04:53 What are the most striking brain activity differences between INFPs and INFJs?

    12:54 How do Fi and Ni show up differently in the brain?

    31:08 What are observable behaviors that suggest different brain patterns/types?

    55:36 What is the next step for INFPs and INFJs?

    01:00:09 Where can people learn more?


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    1 h et 1 min
  • Why INFPs Suddenly Lose ALL Motivation
    Sep 15 2025

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    Ever feel like your passion just flatlines for no reason? Like even your biggest dreams sound kind of... meh? If you’re an INFP, you already know the pain: that lost-spark emptiness no “inspiration” quote can fix.


    You’re not broken—you might just be stuck in the world’s most annoying growth spurt. In this video, I break down exactly what’s happening, why your fire fizzles out, and how to invite the spark back in. Expect real talk, weird analogies, and a push to finally try something (anything) new.


    No hype, just honest stories and practical nudges for that next micro-experiment.


    Timestamps

    00:00 – The INFP Emptiness Nobody Talks About

    01:01 – Why Losing Passion Isn’t the End

    02:13 – No, Doing This Won’t Save You

    03:12 – My “Japan Experiment” & Learning the Hard Way

    04:37 – Ignore the ‘Shoulds’ & Get Curious

    06:01 – How Micro-Moments Fuel Real Purpose

    07:23 – Why Your Brain Wants a “Big Meaning”—and Doesn’t Get It

    08:45 – The Surprising Power of Helping Others

    09:45 – What If You Can’t “Plant a Flag”?

    10:29 – From Fizzle to Sizzle: One Small Step Forward


    ️ If you were nodding along, share your passion struggles in the comments—it really might help someone else.


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    #INFP #Passion #MBTI #PersonalityTypes #GeekPsychology

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    11 min
  • The world needs INFPs
    Sep 14 2025

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    If you’ve ever wondered why you crave meaning, struggle with “fitting in,” or feel like your passion fizzles out just when you need it most, this video is for you.


    This isn’t just another MBTI breakdown. It’s a real talk for INFPs about what it means to be authentic in a world that often misunderstands you. I talk about the struggles of being an INFP (like loneliness, self-doubt, and the pressure to be “normal”) and how to turn those so-called weaknesses into your greatest strengths.


    What you’ll get from this video:

    • Validation for your unique struggles as an INFP (or anyone who feels out of place)

    • Insights on why you lose passion, feel misunderstood, or crave deep connection

    • Stories and advice on embracing your quirks, honoring your need for alone time, and finding your true path

    • Practical tips for navigating relationships, self-acceptance, and building a life that actually feels right for you


    Key Takeaways:

    • Your sensitivity and idealism aren’t flaws—they’re your superpowers

    • It’s okay to need alone time (it’s not selfish, it’s survival)

    • You don’t have to change to be loved or successful

    • The world needs your depth, creativity, and compassion—now more than ever

    • Trust your inner compass, even if your path looks different from everyone else’s


    Like, subscribe, and drop a comment about your INFP journey or what you’re struggling with.


    00:00​ Introduction: The INFP Identity

    00:51​ Authenticity and Personal Values

    01:27​ Relationships and Connection

    02:11​ The Importance of Solitude

    03:13​ Embracing Your True Nature

    04:38​ Personal Journey and Final Thoughts

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    6 min