During this episode, Nicole and Mindy discuss:

• What it feels like to stay in an “almost relationship” that never becomes fully secure
• Why emotional familiarity can be harder to leave than obvious toxicity
• How hope, anxiety, and comfort keep us attached to emotionally unavailable partners
• The cost of self-abandonment in dating
• The moment Mindy realized potential was not the same as partnership
• What it truly means to choose peace over emotional chaos
• How to cut emotional and energetic ties with someone who cannot meet your heart
• Redefining standards, boundaries, and self-respect in dating

Episode Listener Preview:

• Feel seen if you’ve ever stayed too long or hoped too hard
• Understand why walking away can feel scarier than staying
• Learn how to stop accepting the bare minimum
• Discover how to choose yourself without guilt or shame
• Feel empowered to move toward healthy, grounded love

Guest Bio: Mindy Andrews shares her story as a woman who spent years returning to a connection that felt familiar, yet never truly safe or committed. In this honest conversation, she opens up about the anxiety of inconsistency, the hope that kept her returning, and how self-abandonment slowly became her normal.

Mindy reflects on the moment she realized that what she was holding onto was potential, not partnership, and how choosing herself meant letting go of emotional chaos in favor of clarity and peace. Her story is a reminder that choosing yourself is not selfish—it is sacred, brave, and deeply healing.

This episode is part of the Healing on the Mic series, where real women and men share how they are breaking cycles, choosing self-respect, and learning to date from a grounded, healed place.

Your host Nicole Allison ~

• Instagram @Nicole Allison
• website www.fittolovecoaching.com or
• email me nicoleallison@fittolovecoaching.com

Life, love & healing - shared honestly Growing, learning, rebuilding out loud.

During this episode, Nicole discusses:

• Why online dating can be emotionally dangerous for women who haven’t healed yet
• How dating nearly broke her and brought her to her knees emotionally
• The hidden reality of dating apps, including “Are We Dating the Same Guy?” groups and repeated patterns of deception
• Why women deserve education and preparation before entering the dating world
• How blackouts, numbness, and overexposure can be signs of deep emotional pain
• Why “My Body Is Sacred” is not a slogan, but a boundary and a way of life
• The danger of trying to use dating to fill emotional wounds
• Why settling, lowering standards, and leading with pain always leads to self-abandonment

Preview:

• Hear Nicole’s raw truth about how dating culture almost destroyed her sense of self
• Learn why healing must come before dating, not during it
• Discover how emotional pain can quietly turn into numbness and dissociation
• Understand why your body is not a tool for validation or survival
• Be reminded that education, boundaries, and self-respect are forms of protection
• Receive permission to slow down and choose yourself first

Episode Description:

Imagine if women were given a “dating boot camp” before ever stepping into the dating world.

A place where we were taught the red flags.

The texts that sound good but mean nothing.

The patterns that repeat.

The behaviors that slowly erode our self-worth.

In this deeply vulnerable solo episode, Nicole shares how online dating nearly broke her emotionally and spiritually. She opens up about the pain, anxiety, and stress that led her into blackout behaviors and emotional numbness, and how dating became a way of coping instead of connecting.

She talks about discovering the hidden side of online dating, including women’s safety groups that expose repeated patterns of dishonesty, manipulation, and emotional unavailability. What shocked her most was realizing how many of the same men, with the same behaviors, were still showing up years later with different women.

This episode is a warning, a mirror, and a call to self-respect.

If you are newly out of a relationship, feeling unhealed, or looking for dating to fill an emotional void, this conversation is your invitation to pause. To protect your heart. To honor your body. And to remember that your worth does not come from being chosen.

Your body is sacred.

Your heart deserves safety.

And love should never require you to abandon yourself.

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Thank you for tuning in to Fit to Love Conversations.

Hosted by

Nicole Allison

Heart Healing and Dating Resilience Coach

Instagram: @FitToLoveCoaching

Website: www.FitToLoveCoaching.com

Email: nicoleallison@fittolovecoachong.com

Helping women strengthen their hearts, spirits, and minds from the inside out.

Your host Nicole Allison ~

• Instagram @Nicole Allison
• website www.fittolovecoaching.com or
• email me nicoleallison@fittolovecoaching.com

Life, love & healing - shared honestly Growing, learning, rebuilding out loud.

During this episode, Lisa Kneller interviews Nicole Allison and they discuss:

• Who Nicole is at her core and the “I AM” identity that existed before heartbreak, trauma, and survival patterns
• How dating and relationships with men deeply impacted her when she was still carrying unhealed pain
• Why dating from wounds led to cycles of self-abandonment and emotional exhaustion
• The moment awareness became responsibility and heart healing truly began
• The shift that happened when Nicole embraced the belief: My body is sacred
• How honoring the body changed her relationship with dating, boundaries, and self-worth
• The SACRED framework and how it guides her life and coaching:
  
  
  • Self-honor
  • Awareness
  • Choice with intention
  • Regulation
  • Embodiment
  • Discernment
• How dating resilience is built by protecting the heart through embodied self-respect
• The birth of Fit to Love Coaching and her evolution into a Heart Healing and Dating Resilience Coach
• Why mindset isn’t about positivity, but about alignment, truth, and self-trust

Episode Listener Preview:

• Learn why honoring your body is a foundation of emotional healing
• Understand how dating changes when you stop using your body to earn love
• Discover what it means to live and date from sacred self-respect
• Feel empowered to protect your heart without closing it
• Reconnect to your body as wisdom, not something to override

Guest Bio:

Nicole Allison is a Heart Healing and Dating Resilience Coach, founder of Fit to Love Coaching, and host of Fit to Love Conversations. Her work is rooted in helping women heal emotional wounds and then live from that healing in their dating lives so they no longer abandon themselves for connection.

In this powerful interview, Nicole shares how dating while wounded took a toll on her heart, her body, and her sense of self. She explains how adopting the belief “My body is sacred” became a turning point that transformed her boundaries, her dating choices, and her relationship with herself.

Nicole introduces her SACRED framework—Self-honor, Awareness, Choice with intention, Regulation, Embodiment, and Discernment—as a way for women to reclaim reverence for their bodies and emotional safety. Her story reminds us that healing is not about becoming someone new, but about returning to the wisdom already within.

Where Audiences Can Connect with Nicole:

• Instagram: @FitToLoveCoaching
• Website: FitToLoveCoaching.com

Where audience can connect with Lisa:

• Instagram: @Lisa Kneller
• Website: LisaKnellerCoaching.Com

Your host Nicole Allison ~

• Instagram @Nicole Allison
• website www.fittolovecoaching.com or
• email me nicoleallison@fittolovecoaching.com

Life, love & healing - shared honestly Growing, learning, rebuilding out loud.