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Find Your Freaks

Find Your Freaks

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 Ever felt too weird, too loud, too soft, too real — or just too complicated to belong? This podcast is your proof that you’re not alone. Find Your Freaks features raw, unfiltered conversations with people who are building belonging in unexpected places — and doing it by showing up exactly as they are. Hosted by community strategist Tonya Kubo, this show digs into the messy, beautiful truth of what it takes to find your people. New episodes on Thursdays starting June 2025. Come for the stories. Stay for the humanity. And if something hits home? Tell your weirdest friend and visit Ever felt too weird, too loud, too soft, too real — or just too complicated to belong? This podcast is your proof that you’re not alone. Find Your Freaks features raw, unfiltered conversations with people who are building belonging in unexpected places — and doing it by showing up exactly as they are. Hosted by community strategist Tonya Kubo, this show digs into the messy, beautiful truth of what it takes to find your people. New episodes on Thursdays starting June 2025. Come for the stories. Stay for the humanity. And if something hits home? Tell your weirdest friend and visit https://findyourfreaks.com/Copyright 2026 Tonya Kubo Développement personnel Economie Relations Réussite personnelle Sciences sociales
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  • 022 – Neurospicy and Never Alone with Eli Trier

    022 – Neurospicy and Never Alone with Eli Trier
    Apr 16 2026
    What if the thing that makes you feel like an outsider is actually the key to real belonging?We spend a lot of time talking about how to build community — how to grow it, structure it, and sustain it. But we don’t talk nearly enough about what it feels like to be the person on the outside of it. The one who doesn’t quite fit, who feels like “too much,” or who has learned to edit themselves just to stay in the room.In this episode of Find Your Freaks, Tonya Kubo sits down with Eli Trier — artist, writer, and self-described “dopamine dealer” — to explore what it means to live as an outsider and how that experience can become the foundation for something powerful. As a neuroqueer, AuDHD creator, Eli doesn’t just make art. She creates spaces where people who have always felt different finally feel seen and understood.Eli shares how years of feeling “too much” shaped her work and her perspective on belonging. Instead of trying to fit into spaces that never quite worked, she began building her own — spaces where otherness isn’t something to hide, but something to celebrate.Together, they challenge a common assumption about community: that belonging comes from fitting in. Because in the end, real belonging isn’t about being tolerated. It’s about being recognized.In This Episode, We ExploreWhat it actually feels like to move through the world as an outsiderThe hidden cost of trying to “pass” as normalWhy being “too much” is often a context problem, not a personal flawHow Eli uses art to create emotional refuge and recognitionThe difference between being included and truly belongingWhat community builders get wrong about inclusionHow showing up fully creates permission for others to do the sameEpisode Highlights[03:15] Why Eli’s “freaks” are the weird, creative, non-traditional souls[09:40] What it means to be neuroqueer and AuDHD in a world built for sameness[17:20] The experience of being “too much” and learning to self-edit[26:10] Why fitting in can feel safer… but costs more than we think[34:45] How Eli’s art creates a sense of recognition and belonging[42:30] The difference between inclusion and true belonging[51:00] Why community builders need to rethink what “safe space” actually means[1:02:15] The power of showing up fully and going firstMeet Our GuestElinor Trier is a neuroqueer AuDHD artist, writer, podcaster, YouTuber, dopamine dealer, and founder of Elinor Trier Studio and Zuzu’s Haus of Cats, where she creates artwork that celebrates “otherness,” reminding you that you’re not the “odd one out,” you’re “one of a kind.” Her work lives in private collections worldwide and has been featured in multiple media outlets, including the Nautilus Silver Award-winning book Creatrix: She Who Makes. She reads ten books a week, snorts when she laughs, and might actually be a pile of cats in a sparkly trench coat.Meet Your HostTonya Kubo is a community strategist, writer, and rebel with a cause: helping people find the place where they truly belong. She’s spent nearly two decades building online spaces that feel more like chosen family than comment sections, and she’s not afraid to call out the fluff in favor of real connection. As the founder of Find Your Freaks, Tonya brings together unconventional thinkers, builders, and bridge-makers who believe that “normal” was never the point. When she’s not hosting the show, she’s raising two daughters, leading client communities, and making meaning out of the mess.Key Quotes“You’re not the odd one out. You’re one of a kind.” — Eli Trier“Being ‘too much’ usually just means you’re in the wrong room.” — Eli Trier“Belonging isn’t about being tolerated. It’s about being recognized.” — Eli Trier“The goal isn’t to become more palatable. It’s to find the places where you already make sense.” — Eli TrierResources & MentionsElinor Trier StudioZuzu’s Haus of CatsCreatrix: She Who MakesSupport the ShowIf Find Your Freaks matters to you, consider buying us a coffee to keep the show ad-free. Every dollar supports production so more weirdos can find their people.Find Your Freaks merchandise is available through Abilities and Attitudes.Let’s Stay FreakyFacebook GroupLinkedInInstagramPodcast HubWhat’s NextThe spaces that feel safest aren’t the ones where everyone fits in. In the next episode, Tonya explores what it really means to go first, why being the “freakiest” one in the room sets the tone for everyone else, and how showing up fully creates the kind of permission real belonging is built on.
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    31 min
  • 021 – The Community That Runs Without You

    021 – The Community That Runs Without You
    Apr 2 2026
    Why the strongest communities aren’t built around leadership but around shared ownershipMost communities don’t fail because people stop caring.They fail because too much care is required from too few people.In this solo episode, Tonya Kubo explores what actually makes a community sustainable and why the traditional, leader-centered model quietly sets communities up to collapse. What looks like strong leadership often creates hidden fragility, where everything depends on one person showing up, holding it together, and carrying the weight.Drawing on Stacey’s real-world example from a military spouse community, Tonya breaks down what happens when belonging is built into the structure instead of assigned as a responsibility. Instead of hosting and managing every event, Stacey’s model distributes ownership, allowing members to create, lead, and sustain connection themselves.Tonya also challenges one of the most common assumptions in community-building: that disengagement is caused by apathy. In reality, it is often the opposite. People care, but when the burden is too high or the ownership is not shared, they step back instead of stepping in. If your community feels dependent on you, or if you have ever wondered whether what you are building could last without you, this episode offers a powerful reframe of what it takes to create something that actually endures.You’ll hear how:Communities don’t fail from apathy, but from uneven distribution of laborBurnout in leadership is often a design flaw, not a personal failureSelf-sustaining communities differ from self-running onesStacey’s model distributes ownership without losing structureCommunities built around personality are inherently fragilePurpose-driven communities create continuity beyond the founderDelegating tasks is not the same as transferring ownershipShared responsibility creates stronger, more resilient belongingEpisode Highlights[02:00] The question that reveals whether your community is built to last[06:30] Why communities don’t actually fail from apathy[12:15] How Stacey’s model distributes ownership from the start[18:40] What happens when everything depends on one leader[25:10] The difference between self-sustaining and self-running communities[31:45] Why personality-driven communities are fragile[38:20] How purpose creates continuity beyond the founder[45:00] Delegation vs. true ownership and why it matters[51:30] One simple shift to start redistributing responsibility[57:00] The question every community leader needs to answerResources & MentionsEpisode 020 – Interview with Stacey MorganMargaret Marcuson, Sustainable MinistryThe Secret to Thriving Online Communities (Facebook Group)Clutter-Free Academy by Kathi LippMeet Your HostTonya Kubo is a community strategist, marketing consultant, and rebel with a cause: helping people find the place where they truly belong. For nearly two decades, she’s built online spaces that feel less like comment sections and more like chosen family. She’s the fixer you call when your Facebook group has gone straight-up Lord of the Flies and the bouncer at the door of internet nonsense. As the host of Find Your Freaks, Tonya brings together unconventional thinkers and bridge-builders who know “normal” was never the point. Her favorite spaces? The ones where the freak flags fly high.Support the ShowIf Find Your Freaks matters to you, help us keep it ad-free by buying us a coffee (or two!). Every dollar goes to production so more weirdos can find their people.You can purchase Find Your Freaks merchandise online through Abilities and Attitudes.Let’s Stay FreakyFacebook GroupLinkedInInstagramPodcast HubWhat’s NextTonya sits down with Eli Trier, an artist, writer, podcaster, and self-described dopamine dealer whose work is a love letter to weirdos and misfits. As a neuroqueer, AuDHD creator, Eli shares what it means to build spaces where being different is not just accepted, but celebrated—and why belonging starts with making room for the outsider.
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    34 min
  • 020 – The Courage to Go First with Stacey Morgan

    020 – The Courage to Go First with Stacey Morgan
    Mar 19 2026
    What happens when the system meant to create community quietly disappears?For decades, military spouse networks functioned as powerful support systems. They helped families navigate deployments, relocations, and the emotional weight of military life.But as cultural expectations changed — and the volunteer structures holding those networks together disappeared — many military families found themselves facing a new challenge: isolation.In this episode of Find Your Freaks, Tonya Kubo sits down with Stacey Morgan, a U.S. Army spouse of 25 years and leadership coach with The MomCo, to explore what happens when community breaks down and how everyday people can rebuild it.Stacey shares how moving to a new duty station revealed just how fractured military spouse networks had become. Instead of waiting for someone else to fix it, she and two other spouses created a radically simple model for rebuilding community: no dues, no drama, and member-led interest groups.Their approach flips traditional leadership models upside down and reminds us of something simple but powerful: Community isn’t something we consume. It’s something we create.And sometimes the bravest thing you can do is go first.In This Episode, We ExploreWhy traditional military spouse support networks have collapsed in many placesHow isolation impacts military families and even military retentionThe surprising role community plays in resilience during deploymentsStacey’s radically simple model for rebuilding communityWhy waiting to be rescued keeps people lonelyHow small interest groups can spark real connectionThe courage it takes to introduce yourself firstEpisode Highlights[02:10] Why Stacey’s “freaks” are military spouses and the unique bond they share[08:30] How traditional military spouse support systems quietly fell apart[15:00] Why community connection impacts military family retention[26:00] The hidden gaps created when volunteer support systems disappeared[33:00] Stacey’s new model for community: “No dues, no drama”[41:30] How small interest groups spark real connection[53:00] The story behind Stacey’s book The Astronaut’s Wife[1:03:00] The life lesson that changed everything: no one is coming to rescue you[1:07:20] Where to start if you want to build community in your own lifeMeet Our GuestStacey Morgan is an Army spouse of 25 years, mom of four, speaker, and author of The Astronaut’s Wife: How Launching My Husband into Outer Space Changed the Way I Live on Earth. Stacey serves on staff with The MomCo as an executive leadership coach, membership manager, and lead for military and online groups. She and her family are currently stationed at White Sands Missile Test Range in New Mexico.Meet Your HostTonya Kubo is a community strategist, writer, and rebel with a cause: helping people find the place where they truly belong. She’s spent nearly two decades building online spaces that feel more like chosen family than comment sections, and she’s not afraid to call out the fluff in favor of real connection. As the founder of Find Your Freaks, Tonya brings together unconventional thinkers, builders, and bridge-makers who believe that “normal” was never the point. When she’s not hosting the show, she’s raising two daughters, leading client communities, and making meaning out of the mess.Key Quotes“There’s no rescuer coming for you. And as sad as that sounds, there’s freedom in it.” — Stacey Morgan“You can’t wait for someone to show up and tell you what to do. Community has to be built by the people who want it.” — Stacey Morgan“The future of community has to be light, nimble, and member-led.” — Stacey Morgan“Enough of this culture of complaining about what doesn’t exist. If you want it, be willing to host it.” — Stacey Morgan“You have to get out of your house. No one is going to come knocking on your door.” — Stacey MorganResources & MentionsThe Astronaut’s Wife: How Launching My Husband into Outer Space Changed the Way I Live on Earth by Stacey MorganStacey Morgan (official website)The MomCoBlue Star FamiliesMilitary Spouse Advocacy NetworkMarco Polo AppSharon McMahonSupport the ShowIf Find Your Freaks matters to you, consider buying us a coffee to keep the show ad-free. Every dollar supports production so more weirdos can find their people.Find Your Freaks merchandise is available through Abilities and Attitudes.Let’s Stay FreakyFacebook GroupLinkedInInstagramPodcast HubWhat’s NextThe strongest communities aren’t built around one person. In the next episode, Tonya explores why the best communities are designed to survive their founders, how Stacey’s model flips leadership on its head, and what happens when belonging becomes part of the structure instead of the job description.
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    1 h
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