In this raw and unfiltered episode of Fem, MD, facial plastic surgeon Dr. Melyssa Hancock opens up about her 12-round, 3-year IVF journey—one that spanned multiple clinics, a cross-country move of frozen embryos, a complicated surrogacy process, canceled transfers, and more than $250,000 in out-of-pocket costs.

We talk about:

• Fertility preservation as a surgical trainee
• Why she switched IVF clinics after two failed transfers
• What it’s actually like to do daily injections, hormone surges, and constant ultrasounds while running a busy private practice
• How IVF reshaped her marriage, her sense of identity, and her mental health
• The moment she saw the faintest line on a pregnancy test after years of negatives
• How hyperbaric oxygen therapy and NAD ended up part of her “Hail Mary” cycle
• Nearly pursuing surrogacy — and why she ultimately carried her daughter
• The emotional, physical, and financial toll on female physicians navigating fertility
• Why we need to talk about infertility in medicine loudly and without shame

Dr. Hancock also shares the birth story of her daughter, Olivia, and why the struggle made motherhood even more profound.

This is one of the most intimate, vulnerable conversations we’ve had on Fem, MD — and a must-listen for anyone in medicine who’s ever wondered when (and whether) their personal life will catch up to their professional one.

Host: Dr. Lauren Umstattd

Connect with Lauren: @lauren_umstattd_md

Guest: Melyssa Hancock, MD

Connect with Melyssa: @drmelyssahancock

https://drmelyssahancock.com/

Presented by: @HippocraticCollective ​

In this episode of Fem, MD, Lindsey White—professional fit model, jewelry designer, and mother—joins to explore how fashion, identity, and creativity collide. Through years of working within an industry obsessed with measurement and perfection, Lindsey learned the tension between being the “ideal” body and living in a body that evolves.

She opens up about the quiet discipline behind fit modeling, the emotional toll of maintaining sameness, and the moment she began to question who she was really working to please. As motherhood transformed her perspective, Lindsey turned to jewelry design as a new form of expression—one rooted in authenticity rather than approval.

This conversation traces her journey from compliance to creativity, unpacking how we learn to define beauty, success, and worth in our own terms. It’s a thoughtful look at how self-acceptance takes shape when we stop trying to fit and start learning to create.

Host: Dr. Lauren Umstattd

Connect with Lauren: @lauren_umstattd_md

Guest: Lindsey White

Connect with Lindsey: @lmw_studio

https://www.lmwhitestudio.com/

Presented by: The Hippocratic Collective

When a freak accident ended her performing career, Lala Ziemski turned pain into purpose—pivoting from the stage to the kitchen, and eventually building The Firefly, a boutique hotel and restaurant in Panama. Now a private chef in New York City and host of the podcast Put It In My Mouth, Lala joins Dr. Lauren Umstattd for an open conversation about resilience, creativity, and redefining success. They discuss how hospitality principles can transform any business (even medicine), finding alignment after chaos, and why balance—not perfection—is the ultimate luxury.

Host: Dr. Lauren Umstattd

Connect with Lauren: @lauren_umstattd_md

Guest: Lala Ziemski

Connect with Lala: @ohheylala & @thefireflybocasdeltoro

Presented by: The Hippocratic Collective

0:00 – Meet Lala Ziemski: performer turned chef, hotelier, and podcast host

1:00 – From the Mickey Mouse Club dreams to musical theater life

2:40 – The freak accident that changed everything

4:00 – Learning to start over: from injury to imposter syndrome

5:00 – The restaurant that sparked a new passion

7:00 – Building a hotel and restaurant in Panama

8:30 – The grit it takes to open your own business

9:30 – Lessons in resilience and the power of saying “yes” before you’re ready

10:50 – How simplicity became her food philosophy

11:40 – Working for yourself and learning to let go

14:00 – Moving to NYC and reinventing again during the pandemic

17:00 – Finding alignment and creating her own rhythm

18:10 – The importance of autonomy and mental health

19:25 – How Unreasonable Hospitality changed her approach to service

22:00 – Making guests feel seen: small gestures that matter

23:40 – Inside her podcast Put It In My Mouth — Bourdain meets Sex and the City

24:45 – Food, pleasure, and rejecting diet culture

26:30 – Turning setbacks into creative control

29:00 – Building a show that finally clicked

30:00 – Which Sex and the City character is she most like?

31:00 – Dating in New York at 47 — and loving her independence

33:00 – What makes a perfect first date (and why it’s about thoughtfulness)

35:30 – On self-trust, journaling, and slowing down

38:30 – Flipping the script: Lala interviews Dr. Lauren on facelifts & filler

46:45 – The deep-plane facelift debate explained

49:40 – Medical tourism, brow lifts & the “Forever 35 Face”

54:00 – Why the neck is the ultimate giveaway

56:00 – Wrapping up with travel, food, and the art of balance

58:30 – Final reflections and where to find Lala online