Fatherhood changes everything, especially our expectations.

Many dads step into parenting with ambition, personal standards, and a vision for what excellence looks like, only to feel frustrated when they cannot seem to measure up once children enter the picture.

In this episode, we revisit expectations and why so many fathers quietly wrestle with feeling like they are falling short.

Looking at Luke 14 and the principle of counting the cost, we talk about what it means to see the full scope of fatherhood. This includes not only the daily responsibilities, but also the long term calling of raising and discipling children.

You will hear:

• Why unrealistic expectations create frustration
• The shift from individual success to family leadership
• How fatherhood reshapes priorities and convenience
• Why you do not have to win every daily battle
• The importance of seeing the long term vision for your children

If you have ever felt overwhelmed, behind, or inadequate as a dad, this conversation will help you reframe your expectations and lead your family with clarity and patience.

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Are your kids doing things for you because they love you… or because they feel like they have to manage your emotions?

In this episode, I unpack a powerful conversation that forced me to look in the mirror as a father. Using Micah 6 as a backdrop, we explore the difference between how pagan cultures tried to appease their unstable gods versus how our Heavenly Father actually relates to His children.

Then we bring it home.

Because the real question is not theological. It is practical.

Do your kids feel safe around you… or do they feel like they have to keep you happy to keep peace in the house?

I share personal childhood stories that highlight the difference between affection and appeasement, and why that distinction matters more than most dads realize.

If you want your kids to love you out of connection, not fear, this conversation will challenge you in the best way.

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Many parents say it without thinking: “Go to your room.”

But biblically, psychologically, and developmentally it’s a mistake.

In this episode, I explain why isolating children during discipline does more harm than good. Scripture shows us that isolation erodes identity, value, and hope. Add modern research on loneliness and child brain development, and the conclusion is unavoidable: connection, not isolation, is how kids learn, grow, and heal.

If we discipline our kids without connection, we aren’t teaching reflection, we’re teaching shame. And shame doesn’t produce wisdom; it produces withdrawal.

I am challenging a deeply ingrained parenting tactic and offering a better way. A way that more closely mirrors how our Heavenly Father disciplines us.

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