This excerpt from "A Guide to Loving Yourself and Getting What You Need as The Mindful Modern Mistress" examines the complexities of open relationships and affairs, arguing that while they are not for everyone, they can be navigated ethically if done thoughtfully and with careful consideration for all involved. The author, a sex and dating coach, emphasizes the importance of strong communication, open and honest conversations about desires and needs, and a willingness to explore feelings beyond the traditional model of monogamy. She cautions readers to consider the potential for hurt and jealousy in such scenarios, suggesting that they may be better suited for couples who have established a solid foundation of trust and compersion, the ability to feel happiness for another person's success. However, she asserts that fulfilling one's needs through an extramarital relationship can be achieved while maintaining respect and kindness, ultimately leading to a more fulfilling and less stressful primary relationship.

This podcast challenges conventional notions of ethical behavior in relationships, particularly when it comes to sex. The author argues that societal expectations often unfairly prioritize one partner's needs over the other's, potentially leading to an imbalance where one partner's needs are routinely ignored. Specifically, she challenges the idea that it is ethical for one partner to suppress their sexual needs in the name of love while the other partner is free to withhold intimacy. The author asserts that both partners have a responsibility to meet each other's basic needs, and that compromise should be a collaborative effort, not a one-sided sacrifice.

The Mindful Modern Mistress, a dating and sex coach, challenges traditional views on ethical behavior in relationships, particularly regarding infidelity. She argues that society unfairly prioritizes the needs of one partner over the other, often leading to a partner feeling neglected or deprived of basic needs. The author contends that a partner who withholds sex, emotional support, or connection from their partner is no more ethical than a partner who seeks those needs outside the relationship. She encourages a more balanced and open dialogue about the importance of meeting both partners' needs in relationships.