In this episode, we explore what makes a coaching question truly powerful and why lists of powerful questions are useless.

I see powerful questions as an emergent outcome of a coach’s presence, listening, relational attunement, and capacity to stay with uncertainty. Powerful questions do not come from performance or preparation; they arise when the right internal and relational conditions are in place.

Much of the difficulty coaches experience with asking impactful questions has little to do with not knowing what to ask, and much more to do with how they listen, how attached they are to outcomes, and how comfortable they are with ambiguity, discomfort, and vulnerability, both their own and the client’s.

In this episode, I explore:

• What defines a powerful question and how it differs from content-deepening or information-gathering questions
• How trust, relational presence, and generative listening create the conditions for impactful questions to emerge
• The role of timing, attunement, and emotional readiness in whether a question lands or falls flat
• How noticing what is not being said (somatic cues, emotional shifts, gaps, or contradictions) can lead to deeper inquiry
• Practical ways to work with frames of reference, assumptions, and systemic patterns in a client’s thinking
• Why powerful questions are closely linked to the coach’s own tolerance for ambiguity, complexity, and not knowing.

If you find yourself searching for the “right” question, worrying about sounding “insightful enough”, or feeling pressure to perform as a coach, this episode offers a grounded, relational, and psychologically informed way to rethink what powerful questions really are and where they come from.

Coming up next:

In the next episode, we shift to a more practical focus on laser coaching: how to work effectively and with depth in short, focused conversations, particularly relevant for leaders and coaches working within tight time constraints.

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