You’re not “chill.”You’re just afraid to lose them.You think you’re playing it cool but really, you’re overthinking every text, holding back what you feel, and pretending you don’t care… Just to keep someone around.In this episode, I break down the difference between real detachment vs. self-abandonment and why acting “low maintenance” is actually what’s keeping you stuck in shallow, unsatisfying connections.Because here’s the truth:You don’t lose people by being “too much.”You lose yourself by trying to be just enough.If you’ve ever:- Held back your feelings so you don’t scare someone off- Acted unbothered when you actually cared- Felt disconnected in a relationship but didn’t know whyThis is for you.💬 Work with me (coaching & mentorship):https://www.edenmitelman.com/workwithme🎧 Listen to the podcast:https://open.spotify.com/show/1dBEbJTujAoXi6o6oc8EVT?si=nMAD19ShQ1-LTuuAPQ99cA🛍 My Amazon Storefront (favorites):https://amzn.to/3QIpGSd📲 Follow me:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/advicethathurtsTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@edenmitelmanInstagram (Personal): https://www.instagram.com/edenleemitelman/🎥 Real Life / Mom Vlog Channel: https://www.youtube.com/ @edenleemitelman New videos weekly. Subscribe for real growth.#datingadvice #relationships #selfgrowth #selfmastery #edenmitelman

If you’ve been hurt in past relationships… this is the episode you need to hear.Most people think they’re healing… But they’re actually keeping their wounds open.Waiting for closure.Waiting for an apology.Waiting for someone to finally say:"You were right. I was wrong."But here’s the truth no one wants to admit:No one is coming to save you.And the longer you wait… The longer you stay stuck in the same patterns, the same pain, and the same relationships.In this episode, we break down:- Why you can’t move on (even when you try)- The illusion of “closure”- How your past is silently controlling your dating life- And what it actually takes to heal and move forward-This one might hurt… but it will help.💬 Work with me (coaching & mentorship):https://www.edenmitelman.com/workwithme🎧 WATCH to the podcast:https://youtu.be/UkBCj94ItdE🛍 My Amazon Storefront (favorites):https://amzn.to/3QIpGSd📲 Follow me:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/advicethathurtsTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@edenmitelmanInstagram (Personal): https://www.instagram.com/edenleemitelman/🎥 Real Life / Mom Vlog Channel: https://www.youtube.com/ @edenleemitelman New videos weekly. Subscribe for real growth.#datingadvice #relationships #selfgrowth #selfmastery #edenmitelman

You showed up. You cared. You supported them. You tried to be the best partner possible… and somehow they still pulled away.In this episode, I’m responding to a listener submission from someone who feels like they always do everything right in relationships — thoughtful, supportive, emotionally available — yet their partners eventually lose interest and run.So what’s actually happening?We’re breaking down why doing more for someone doesn’t necessarily create more attraction, how over-investing early can quietly shift relationship dynamics, and why being the “perfect partner” can sometimes backfire.If you’ve ever heard “you’re amazing but…” or felt like you were the one carrying the relationship emotionally, this conversation will probably hit home.In this episode, we talk about:• Why over-giving can reduce attraction• The hidden problem with trying to prove you’re a great partner• Why some people love being chosen but struggle to choose back• How to stop over-investing in the wrong peopleIf this pattern keeps repeating in your dating life, this episode might explain why.💬 WORK WITH ME(coaching & mentorship):https://www.edenmitelman.com/workwithme🎧 Listen to the podcast:https://open.spotify.com/show/1dBEbJTujAoXi6o6oc8EVT?si=nMAD19ShQ1-LTuuAPQ99cA🛍 My Amazon Storefront (favorites):https://amzn.to/3QIpGSd📲 Follow me:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/advicethathurtsTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@edenmitelmanInstagram (Personal): https://www.instagram.com/edenleemitelman/🎥 Real Life / Mom Vlog Channel: https://www.youtube.com/ @edenleemitelman New videos weekly. Subscribe for real growth.#datingadvice #relationships #selfgrowth #selfmastery #edenmitelman