Weddings don’t just change timelines and budgets , they can change friendships too. In this episode of Did You Say Something…, we’re talking about the friendship shifts nobody warns you about: the people who show up quietly, the ones who perform online but disappear in real life, and the awkward moments when support doesn’t look the way you expected. I’m sharing how to set bridal party expectations, protect your peace without becoming bitter, and handle tough conversations with love and clearness, because your wedding should feel joyful, not emotionally draining.

Date Night While Planning a Wedding
Wedding planning can turn your engagement into weekly meetings, decision fatigue, and unnecessary tension. In this episode, we’re keeping it real about how to protect your relationship while planning your big day — without guilt. I’m sharing my “3-Date Rule,” a simple connection checklist, and the boundaries that keep love at the center of the season.

Booking your wedding venue is exciting, but it’s also one of the most misunderstood parts of wedding planning. In this episode, wedding planner Tamesha Kinloch Carter sits down with Anisha Taylor, Hospitality Director at Bella House 1873, to talk about what every couple should know before signing a venue contract.

From understanding what venues actually provide, to asking the right questions about guest count, logistics, and vendor coordination, this conversation offers clarity couples often wish they had earlier in the process. You’ll also hear why planner and venue collaboration plays a major role in creating a smooth, stress-free wedding day.

Whether you’re newly engaged or actively touring venues, this episode is designed to help you book with confidence and intention.

If you’re early in the planning process, save this episode and listen together. It’s a conversation worth having before you commit.

This Episode is sponsored by:

FMTY Weddings & Events

www.fmtyweddingsandevents.com

The Bella House 1873

www.thebellahouse.com

The New Year doesn’t always come with clarity, and that’s okay.

In this fireside episode of Did You Say Something?, Tamesha invites you into a quiet, honest conversation about releasing pressure, letting go of what no longer serves you, and choosing intention over resolutions.

This isn’t about fixing yourself or rushing into goals.

It’s about alignment.

It’s about grace.

And it’s about entering the year on purpose.

If you’re feeling hopeful, tired, reflective, or somewhere in between, this episode is for you.

Show Notes:

Every New Year carries a different weight.

Some years we’re excited.

Some years we’re exhausted.

And some years, we’re simply grateful to still be standing.

In this intimate, fireside episode, Tamesha slows the pace and reframes the conversation around the New Year. Away from hustle, performance, and unrealistic resolutions, and toward clarity, discernment, and intentional living.

This episode is a reminder that you don’t need to reinvent yourself to move forward. You just need presence, honesty, and permission to choose what aligns with your life in this season.

In this episode, we talk about:

• Why not every New Year needs a “new you”

• Letting go of overcommitment, guilt, and people-pleasing

• The difference between goals and alignment

• Choosing rhythms over rigid resolutions

• Faith, stillness, and listening instead of forcing outcomes

• Simple anchors for the year: a word, a boundary, a rhythm, and simplification

• Why peace is expensive, but worth the cost

This conversation is gentle, grounding, and meant to be listened to slowly. Let it meet you where you are.

Reflection Questions:

You may want to pause and reflect on:

• What drained me last year that I don’t want to carry forward?

• What did I survive that proves my strength?

• What does alignment look like for me in this season?

• What is one boundary or rhythm I need to protect this year?

🤍 Closing Note

If this episode resonated with you, take a moment to breathe, reflect, and share it with someone who may need permission to slow down too.

You don’t need pressure to grow.

You need intention.

Cheers,

Tamesha

Fresh off co-hosting A Sippin’ Christmas, Tamesha shares real-life holiday hosting tips rooted in confidence, intention, and grace. In this Holiday Sip episode, we talk about creating meaningful moments without the pressure of perfection, because hosting is about presence, not performance. Pour a drink, settle in, and let’s sip into the season together.

Key Takeaways

• How to plan intentionally without overdoing it

• Simple ways to set a warm, inviting holiday mood

• Why sharing hosting responsibilities matters

• How confidence, not perfection, creates memorable moments

Featured Segment

Quick Sip: Confidence Corner

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www.tameshakinlochcarter.com

Podcast Show Notes: EP 15 – Midlife Glow-Up: Confidence, Clarity & Clean Boundaries

Subtitle: Because 50 Isn’t a Finish Line — It’s Your Next Evolution

Host: Tamesha Kinloch-Carter

Podcast: Did You Say Something…

Episode Summary

In this deeply personal and powerful episode, Tamesha opens up about entering a new chapter of life with confidence, intention, and peace. Turning 50 is more than a milestone — it’s an evolution. Tamesha breaks down the real midlife glow-up: releasing people-pleasing, creating clean boundaries, walking in clarity, and embracing a level of confidence that only time, growth, and wisdom can produce.

This episode is for every woman who’s realizing her life is not slowing down — it’s just getting started.

In This Episode, We Talk About:

• Why 50 is not “settling down” — it’s stepping into purpose

• The difference between young confidence and grown-woman confidence

• Finding clarity around your needs, your peace, and your identity

• The power of clean boundaries and releasing what drains you

• Reinvention at any age

• Why joy, peace, and alignment become non-negotiable

• The “vintage wine” metaphor for midlife evolution

Who This Episode Is For:

Women 40+ who are:

• In a season of evolution

• Ready to reclaim their time, peace & identity

• Feeling the shift into deeper clarity

• Looking for motivation, truth, and grown-woman wisdom

Episode Highlights:

• Midlife isn’t a crisis ~it’s a reveal
• You don’t lose people, you release them
• Peace becomes the prize in your 50s
• You’re not aging ~you’re becoming vintage

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Connect With Tamesha:

Instagram: @TameshaKinlochCarter

LinkedIn: Tamesha Kinloch-Carter

Website: TameshaKinlochCarter.com

Season 4: Episode 14

We’ve all been there. Everything’s rolling smoothly, contracts signed, vision boards in place… and then suddenly, your vendor goes quiet. Like crickets quiet.

In this episode, Tamesha Kinloch Carter — Editor-in-Chief of The Planner Wedding Magazine and the creative force behind FMTY Weddings & Events, gets real about what to do when vendors disappear and communication breaks down. She dives into how to protect your peace, your wedding day, and your investment without losing your cool.

In This Episode:

• How to tell the difference between a “slow response” and a “silent disappearance.”

• The real reason vendor burnout happens (and what that means for you).

• Why strong contracts, deposits, and paper trails are non-negotiable.

• Red flags before you book and how to spot them early.

• A real-life story of when a vendor ghosted and how Tamesha saved the day.

Listen if you’re:

• A couple planning your wedding and feeling nervous about communication breakdowns.

• A new planner learning how to navigate vendor accountability.

• Or someone who just needs to hear the truth — not the sugarcoated version.

About the Host:

Tamesha Kinloch Carter is the Editor-in-Chief of The Planner Wedding Magazine, CEO of FMTY Weddings & Events, and the voice behind Did You Say Something…, where wedding planning meets lifestyle and real talk.

Because in this business, silence isn’t golden, it’s a signal.

Title: Redefining the Soft Life: Peace with Purpose

Season: 4, Episode 13

Host: Tamesha Kinloch Carter

Description:

In this episode, Tamesha Kinloch Carter , wedding/event planner, lifestyle creator, and Editor-in-Chief of The Planner Wedding Magazine, opens up about what the soft life really means beyond the hashtags and aesthetics. After turning 50, she’s learned that peace isn’t always quiet, and purpose doesn’t always mean hustle.

Join her as she shares insights from her California birthday trip, reflections on intentional living, and practical steps to help you create a version of peace that fits your real world, not Instagram’s.

Whether you’re a busy entrepreneur, planner, or woman trying to balance it all, this episode will remind you that peace takes planning, and purpose takes boundaries.

Key Takeaways:

• Peace isn’t found — it’s designed.

• The “soft life” isn’t slow; it’s sacred.

• How to connect purpose to your daily peace.

• The mindset shift that helps you protect your energy and stop over performing.

Duration: ~60 minutes

Listen on: Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.

Follow Tamesha:

Instagram | TikTok | LinkedIn | @TameshaKinlochCarter