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  • EP.16 Good Friends and Full Honesty will Level Up Your Dating Life with Jamie Haigh & Blake Roberts (Three Percent Co)

    EP.16 Good Friends and Full Honesty will Level Up Your Dating Life with Jamie Haigh & Blake Roberts (Three Percent Co)
    May 12 2026
    Bridgett and Lauren sit down with Jamie and Blake of the Three Percent Podcast, two therapists, friends, and husbands whose work centers on what it means to be a safe, embodied man. The conversation moves through male friendship, attachment, the difference between knowing your story and doing the work, and the quiet ways loneliness shapes how a person dates. It is a grounded, honest look at what healthy formation actually takes.**WARNING: THIS EPISODE CONTAINS A STORY ABOUT SEXUAL ABUSE*Bridgett opens with a phrase that becomes the through line of the conversation: eroticized loneliness. The ache of being unseen does not disappear when it goes unnamed. It travels into the body and shows up in dating, in sex, in the way a person reaches for a partner to carry what only community can hold. Jamie and Blake speak to this with the kind of clarity that comes from having lived it, naming the difference between social proximity and the experience of being known.Their framework rests on what they call the 3%, the small part of ourselves we keep hidden that quietly drives the rest. Real formation, they explain, is not finishing the work alone and then arriving polished into a relationship. It is the slower practice of integrity in connection, learning to bring your honest self forward, letting the people closest to you point you back to your person, and setting boundaries that draw someone in rather than push them out. Healing, they remind us, happens in relationship, not in preparation for it.For anyone dating, this conversation reorients what it means to be ready. Readiness is not the absence of wounds. It is the willingness to be honest about them and to keep choosing connection anyway. What to pay attention to is whether the people in your life are forming you toward wholeness or around it, and whether you are bringing your heart into your relationships or only your strategy. Trust what you are noticing. Move with clarity. Let yourself be known.Watch This Episode on YouTubeConnect with the Three Percent PodcastWebsite: https://threepercentco.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/threepercent.co/Join The Basement: https://threepercent.substack.com/Connect with Blake:Website: blakerobertscounseling.comSubstack Newsletter: https://blakeroberts.substack.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therapy.with.blake/Connect with JamieInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/jamie.w.haigh/Want help applying this to your dating life?If something in this episode resonated with you, here are two ways to go deeper depending on what you need: 🩷 Work with BridgettYou don’t need more rules. You need a deeper understanding of your sexual desire.If you still feel confused about how to navigate dating without shutting down or crossing your boundaries, Bridgett helps you build sexual self-trust and honor your values→ ⁠⁠ RECLAIM Cohort⁠⁠ 📓 ⁠⁠Free Guides and Ecourse⁠⁠ → ⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠ → ⁠⁠Website⁠⁠ 💙 Work with LaurenIf you’re feeling unsure what to do next— whether that’s meeting people, choosing who to pursue, or trusting your judgment in dating, Lauren helps you move forward with clarity and confidence.→ ⁠⁠Book a Dating Clarity Call⁠⁠ We’ll look at your specific situation and map out your next step. 📔 Get the free guide ⁠⁠Dating Apps Don’t Have to Be Confusing⁠⁠→ ⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠→ ⁠⁠Website⁠how loneliness affects dating, what is eroticized loneliness, how to be ready for a relationship, why men struggle with intimacy, healing in relationships not before them, the part of yourself you hide in dating, what healthy masculinity looks like in dating, Christian men and friendship, Three Percent Podcast, Jamie and Blake, male loneliness and dating, healthy masculinity Christian, men and emotional intimacy, integrity in connection, healing happens in relationship, Christian dating readiness, dating with integrity, Christian men and friendship, Dating and Desire podcast, Bridgett Blood, Lauren Mathues
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    1 h et 3 min
  • EP.15 Why "Don't Waste My Time" Is Hurting Your Dating Life

    EP.15 Why "Don't Waste My Time" Is Hurting Your Dating Life
    May 5 2026

    Bridgett and Lauren sit down for an honest conversation about one of dating's most loaded phrases: "don't waste my time." They unpack where that posture comes from, why it often reveals more about our own fear than about a potential partner, and what it really looks like to date from a place of groundedness rather than self-protection.

    Underneath the urgency to know everything on date two is usually something tender. Maybe a fear of getting hurt, a belief that you only have so much of yourself to give, or a lingering message from purity culture that connection itself is a kind of loss. When we hand someone else the job of protecting our time, we quietly give away the discernment that was ours to carry all along.

    The invitation here is to take that responsibility back. Bridgett and Lauren talk about what it means to say yes to one hour, one coffee, one honest conversation without needing to know the ending. That kind of openness asks for real integrity and formation, a willingness to stay connected to yourself, trust your internal resource, and recognize when staying would require you to get small. Growth looks less like certainty and more like the steady work of choosing yourself and the other person well.

    For anyone dating, this is a reframe worth sitting with. What to pay attention to is the fear that tells you to pre-decide, the urge to rescue or shrink, and the moments your body is asking you to slow down. You are allowed to have needs. You are allowed to change your mind. And the more you practice showing up honestly, the more your own discernment, clarity, and self-trust become the compass you can actually follow.Watch this episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/Y_bj7WSe2Do


    Want help applying this to your dating life?

    If something in this episode resonated with you, here are two ways to go deeper depending on what you need:


    🩷 Work with Bridgett

    You don’t need more rules. You need a deeper understanding of your sexual desire.If you still feel confused about how to navigate dating without shutting down or crossing your boundaries, Bridgett helps you build sexual self-trust and honor your values

    → ⁠ RECLAIM Cohort⁠

    📓 ⁠Free Guides and Ecourse⁠

    → ⁠Instagram⁠

    → ⁠Website⁠


    💙 Work with Lauren

    If you’re feeling unsure what to do next— whether that’s meeting people, choosing who to pursue, or trusting your judgment in dating, Lauren helps you move forward with clarity and confidence.

    → ⁠Book a Dating Clarity Call⁠ We’ll look at your specific situation and map out your next step.

    📔 Get the free guide ⁠Dating Apps Don’t Have to Be Confusing⁠

    → ⁠Instagram⁠

    → ⁠Website⁠
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    54 min
  • EP.14 Awe vs. Consumption: The Difference Between Lust and Healthy Desire with Andrew Bauman

    EP.14 Awe vs. Consumption: The Difference Between Lust and Healthy Desire with Andrew Bauman
    Apr 28 2026
    Therapist and author Andrew Bauman joins Bridgett and Lauren to explore embodiment, sexual story work, and what it really looks like to grow into healthy, connected relationships.Together, they name the difference between understanding your story and actually experiencing healing, and why the body often carries what insight alone cannot resolve. It is a thoughtful look at how awareness, formation, and lived experience all work together in the process of change.Andrew also shares his framework for how porn can shape patterns of relating over time, along with what it looks like to move toward greater integrity, connection, and wholeness in how men relate to themselves and to women.This conversation offers a clear and compassionate lens on dating, especially for women learning how to discern what is real in a partner. What to pay attention to, what genuinely reflects growth, and how to stay connected to your own sense of clarity and trust along the way.Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/j64yWeceOx0About AndrewFounder & Director of the Christian Counseling Center: For Sexual Health & Trauma (CCC), Dr. Andrew J. Bauman is a licensed mental health counselor with a Doctorate from Northeastern University.His dissertation was on studying the impact of sexism and abuse on women in the Protestant Church. Andrew is the author of seven books, his newest book is called SAFE CHURCH: What Women Can Teach Us about Sexism, Abuse and Safety within Christian Community.Connect with AndrewChristian Counseling CenterWebsiteFacebookMan Land Online Community: Use code: FOUNDING for first 200 members to get 50% off membershipWant help applying this to your dating life?If something in this episode resonated with you, here are two ways to go deeper depending on what you need: 🩷 Work with BridgettYou don’t need more rules. You need a deeper understanding of your sexual desire.If you still feel confused about how to navigate dating without shutting down or crossing your boundaries, Bridgett helps you build sexual self-trust and honor your values→ RECLAIM Cohort 📓 Free Guides and Ecourse → Instagram → Website 💙 Work with LaurenIf you’re feeling unsure what to do next— whether that’s meeting people, choosing who to pursue, or trusting your judgment in dating, Lauren helps you move forward with clarity and confidence.→ Book a Dating Clarity Call We’ll look at your specific situation and map out your next step. 📔 Get the free guide Dating Apps Don’t Have to Be Confusing→ Instagram→ WebsiteChristian men sexual healing, embodiment for men, pornographic style of relating, Andrew Bauman, sexual story work, somatic therapy Christian, porn addiction recovery Christian, emotional heavy lifting men, men's inner work, purity culture recovery, healthy masculinity, sexual sobriety Christian dating, trauma and sexuality, wise adult wounded child, under-functioning men, women over-functioning relationships, Christian men's community, Man Land Andrew Bauman, dating and desire podcast, faith and relationships, Christian therapy men, how to know if a man is emotionally healthy, lust vs healthy desire, clean anger masculinity
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    54 min
  • EP.13 Emotional Maturity vs. Emotional Capacity: What Compatibility Really Looks Like with Barb Hill

    EP.13 Emotional Maturity vs. Emotional Capacity: What Compatibility Really Looks Like with Barb Hill
    Apr 21 2026
    What if the person you love can't actually meet you where you need to be met? Therapist and author Barb Hill joins Bridgett and Lauren for a conversation that reframes what Christian compatibility really requires. Barb walks through five kinds of compatibility (emotional, spiritual, intellectual, physical, and how they all interact) and draws a line that changes the whole dating conversation: the difference between emotional maturity and emotional capacity. One is what you know about yourself. The other is whether you can actually do something with that knowledge when a conflict hits. Barb explains why so many promising relationships stall right in that gap, and what to look for in the first three months with someone new. The conversation gets into why curiosity is the engine of long-term love, how resentment quietly kills it, and the one question to ask yourself before ending a relationship you thought was going to last. If you've ever wondered whether you're the problem, whether you're asking too much, or whether love really is enough, this one is for you.Connect with Barb Hill📕 Get her devotional: Seasons of Waiting 🖥️ Holding Space Counseling 📱 Follow Barb on InstagramComing Up:Ready to pursue purity in dating without being weird about it? Join Bridgett for RECLAIM.Next Cohort- Starts May 9th [APPLICATIONS OPEN NOW] Want help applying this to your dating life?If something in this episode resonated with you, here are two ways to go deeper depending on what you need: 🩷 Work with BridgettYou don’t need more rules. You need a deeper understanding of your sexual desire.If you still feel confused about how to navigate dating without shutting down or crossing your boundaries, Bridgett helps you build sexual self-trust and honor your values→ RECLAIM Cohort 📓 Free Guides and Ecourse → Instagram → Website 💙 Work with LaurenIf you’re feeling unsure what to do next— whether that’s meeting people, choosing who to pursue, or trusting your judgment in dating, Lauren helps you move forward with clarity and confidence.→ Book a Dating Clarity Call We’ll look at your specific situation and map out your next step. 📔 Get the free guide Dating Apps Don’t Have to Be Confusing→ Instagram→ WebsiteChristian dating compatibility, is love enough in relationships, emotional compatibility, emotional maturity vs emotional capacity, spiritual compatibility Christian dating, intellectual compatibility relationships, physical compatibility Christian dating, curiosity in relationships, resentment in relationships, Barb Hill therapist, Barb Hill podcast, dating and desire podcast, when to end a relationship, emotional availability, conflict resolution dating, Christian dating advice, faith and relationships podcast, Christian breakup advice, getting back together after a breakup, holding space counseling, seasons of waiting devotional
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    53 min
  • EP.12 The Masculine Formation Crisis: Why Young Men Are Checking Out with Dr. Anthony Bradley

    EP.12 The Masculine Formation Crisis: Why Young Men Are Checking Out with Dr. Anthony Bradley
    Apr 14 2026
    Dr. Anthony Bradley joins Bridgett and Lauren to talk about what's actually driving the crisis of young men - and why the church's standard diagnosis is wrong.Bradley traces the problem past porn and video games to a formation breakdown that started with the Industrial Revolution. When fathers left for factories and children left for schools, the developmental process that shaped boys into men for thousands of years simply stopped. The church didn't recover that ground. It replicated the separation with age-segregated ministries and accountability groups built on shame.The result is a generation of men who have checked out — not angry, just resigned. And they're not pursuing women for the same reason: they don't know who they are yet, and nobody told them they were ready.Bradley's prescription is intergenerational community and a church willing to speak identity over men instead of shame.Watch this episode on YouTubeConnect with Dr. Anthony BradleyInstagramSubstackHis BooksComing Up:Join Bridgett's ⁠RECLAIM Info Party⁠ on April 18th 🎉You'll learn her most successful tool for processing sexual desire in real timeNext ⁠Cohort⁠- Starts May 9thWant help applying this to your dating life?If something in this episode resonated with you, here are two ways to go deeper depending on what you need:🩷 Work with BridgettYou don’t need more rules. You need a deeper understanding of your sexual desire.If you still feel confused about how to navigate dating without shutting down or crossing your boundaries, Bridgett helps you build sexual self-trust and honor your values→ ⁠ RECLAIM Cohort⁠ 📓 ⁠Free Guides and Ecourse⁠ → ⁠Instagram⁠ → ⁠Website⁠ 💙 Work with LaurenIf you’re feeling unsure what to do next— whether that’s meeting people, choosing who to pursue, or trusting your judgment in dating, Lauren helps you move forward with clarity and confidence.→ ⁠Book a Dating Clarity Call⁠ We’ll look at your specific situation and map out your next step. 📔 Get the free guide ⁠Dating Apps Don’t Have to Be Confusing⁠→ ⁠Instagram⁠→ ⁠Website⁠--Follow ⁠@datinganddesire⁠ on Instagram for updates and conversation: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/datinganddesire⁠--Topics covered in this episode: Christian dating, Christian men, male disengagement, formation crisis, masculinity and faith, intergenerational discipleship, men and the church, shame in church culture, men's ministry, accountability groups, attachment and addiction, father-son relationship, Industrial Revolution family, age-segregated ministry, marriage readiness, Christian marriage, dating and desire podcast, Anthony Bradley, self-resignation, video game addiction, single Christian men, Christian women dating, pursuing marriage, biblical marriage standards, married men success, church and young men, purity culture, identity in Christ, Christian podcast, faith and relationships
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    1 h et 6 min
  • EP.11 Listener Questions on Safety, Rejection, Desire, and Singleness: D&D Debrief #1

    EP.11 Listener Questions on Safety, Rejection, Desire, and Singleness: D&D Debrief #1
    Apr 7 2026

    Episode 11 kicks off the D&D Debrief, a new recurring format where Bridgett and Lauren answer listener questions, recap past episodes, and preview what's coming. In this first one, they tackle four real questions: how to read whether someone is safe to date, what to do when rejection keeps happening, how to talk about different physical comfort levels, and how to tell if your desire is healthy or worth paying closer attention to. They also walk back through the first 10 episodes with personal reflections and share what's ahead for the show and their coaching practices.


    Watch this episode on YouTube


    Coming Up:

    Join Bridgett's RECLAIM Info Party on April 18th 🎉

    You'll learn her most successful tool for processing sexual desire in real time

    Next Cohort- Starts May 9th


    Want help applying this to your dating life?

    If something in this episode resonated with you, here are two ways to go deeper depending on what you need:


    🩷 Work with Bridgett

    You don’t need more rules. You need a deeper understanding of your sexual desire.If you still feel confused about how to navigate dating without shutting down or crossing your boundaries, Bridgett helps you build sexual self-trust and honor your values

    → RECLAIM Cohort

    📓 Free Guides and Ecourse

    → Instagram

    → Website


    💙 Work with Lauren

    If you’re feeling unsure what to do next— whether that’s meeting people, choosing who to pursue, or trusting your judgment in dating, Lauren helps you move forward with clarity and confidence.

    → Book a Dating Clarity Call We’ll look at your specific situation and map out your next step.

    📔 Get the free guide Dating Apps Don’t Have to Be Confusing

    → Instagram

    → Website

    --Follow @datinganddesire on Instagram for updates and conversation:https://www.instagram.com/datinganddesire--Topics covered in this episode: Christian dating podcast, dating advice for Christians, how to know if someone is safe to date, reading red flags in dating, how to handle rejection in dating, perpetual singleness, fear of being single forever, different physical boundaries in dating, how to talk about physical limits with a partner, healthy desire vs. unhealthy desire, Christian singles, dating with faith, Christian relationship advice, how to trust your body in dating, asking someone out, Christian dating Q&A, D&D Debrief, Dating and Desire podcast, Bridgett Blood, Lauren Mathues
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    53 min
  • EP.10 When Dating Gets More Serious: How Connection and Commitment Actually Grow

    EP.10 When Dating Gets More Serious: How Connection and Commitment Actually Grow
    Mar 31 2026

    Bridgett and Lauren pick up where they left off in the stages-of-dating series and walk through what committed relationship actually looks like - what it requires, what conversations belong here, and what most people skip until it's too late. They define what commitment means at this stage (it's not knowing you want to marry someone - it's knowing you'd regret not finding out), and then they get into the real stuff: how to have the DTR conversation, when to bring up sexual history and mental health, what it looks like to lean on each other without becoming codependent, and why Bridgett believes every couple needs outside support before the engagement conversation even starts. They also preview part two, which will cover finances, sexual boundaries, family dynamics, and how those play out inside a committed dating relationship. If you're in the thick of figuring out whether this person is someone you can build a life with, this episode gives you a framework for how to find out.

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    Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/68__3-ObcLQ

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    If you're a Christian who wants to date with clarity and self-awareness, this is where you start.📱Follow @datinganddesire on Instagram for updates and conversation.⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/datinganddesire⁠⁠⁠⁠

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    Connect with Bridgett:

    Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/bridgettblood/⁠⁠⁠⁠

    Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bridgettblood.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠

    Coaching | Free Resources | RECLAIM Cohort

    📓Get the free Value-Based Boundaries in Dating Guide: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://stan.store/bridgettblood/p/get-my-valuebased-boundaries-guide-⁠⁠⁠⁠

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    Connect with Lauren:

    Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/laurenmathues/⁠⁠⁠⁠

    Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://laurenmathues.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠

    Dating Apps Don’t Have to Be Confusing. Get the free guide here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://laurenmathues.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠

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    57 min
  • EP.09 The Early Stages of Dating: What to Know Before Becoming Exclusive

    EP.09 The Early Stages of Dating: What to Know Before Becoming Exclusive
    Mar 24 2026

    Bridgett and Lauren break down the first stage of dating - the part between meeting someone and deciding whether you want to be exclusive - and they want you to stop treating it like a marriage audition. Lauren shares her three-stage framework and makes the case that six to eight dates is enough time to know if you want to move forward, as long as you're actually being yourself. Bridgett talks about what she's learned to pay attention to in those first few conversations, why she stopped leading with faith questions, and how she thinks about physical connection in this stage. The two get practical about first dates, texting expectations, navigating early disagreements, and why the ability to repair matters more than the ability to avoid conflict. If dating feels impossibly high-stakes before you've even ordered coffee, this episode is the permission slip to lower the pressure and actually enjoy getting to know someone.

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    Watch on YouTube: ⁠https://youtu.be/xvcStD3gDp4⁠

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    If you're a Christian who wants to date with clarity and self-awareness, this is where you start.📱Follow @datinganddesire on Instagram for updates and conversation.⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/datinganddesire⁠⁠⁠⁠

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    Connect with Bridgett:

    Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/bridgettblood/⁠⁠⁠⁠

    Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bridgettblood.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠

    Coaching | Free Resources | RECLAIM Cohort

    📓Get the free Value-Based Boundaries in Dating Guide: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://stan.store/bridgettblood/p/get-my-valuebased-boundaries-guide-⁠⁠⁠⁠

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    Connect with Lauren:

    Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/laurenmathues/⁠⁠⁠⁠

    Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://laurenmathues.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠

    Dating Apps Don’t Have to Be Confusing. Get the free guide here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://laurenmathues.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠

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    1 h et 3 min