Dating after nearly 30 years of marriage is not for the weak.

In this raw and unfiltered episode of Dating Detours, Marcus sits down with Rebecca — a longtime friend’s mom, a military veteran and widow who went from a highly structured military marriage to the chaos of modern dating apps.

Rebecca shares how she met her late husband in the military, navigated the infamous military “chit” process to get married, and dealt with international security clearance issues simply for falling in love. After his unexpected passing, she opens up about jumping back into dating too quickly, rebounding without healing, and ending up in a toxic relationship fueled by grief and trauma dumping.

The conversation dives deep into:

• The controversial “Are We Dating the Same Guy?” Facebook groups

• The difference between safety, shaming, and petty callouts

• Why sexual compatibility is a non-negotiable deal-breaker

• Ethical non-monogamy, poly curiosity, and modern dating labels

• Predatory dating behavior targeting successful “empty nesters”

• Rebecca’s Five-Text Rule — and why she refuses to chase anyone

This episode isn’t dating advice wrapped in pretty packaging. It’s honest, uncomfortable, funny, and painfully relatable.

If you’ve ever loved deeply, lost suddenly, or opened a dating app and questioned everything — this episode is for you.

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Rich lived the nightlife grind, worked nonstop, and built businesses from the ground up — but somewhere along the way, he realized something huge:

Being successful means nothing if you don’t learn how to show up for the people you love.

In this episode, Marcus and Rich dive into how he transformed from an always-on-the-go entrepreneur into a man who finally masters his time, protects his peace, and builds healthier relationships.

Rich opens up about:

💼 Balancing entrepreneurship with being present 🍼 How being a girl dad shifted his perspective on love and time 📅 The calendar system that keeps him intentional with work, his daughter & his relationship ❤️ How his new relationship thrives because he actually manages his time well 🔥 Why setting expectations early makes everything smoother ✨ The mindset upgrades that turned him into a better partner and father

This isn’t a sad story — it’s a blueprint. A mature, real-life glow-up for anyone who’s ever struggled with balance, boundaries, and being present in a fast-moving world.

Women will LOVE this one because it shows the kind of growth men rarely talk about out loud.

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After leaving a 21-year marriage, Josie steps back into the dating world with zero hesitation, zero sugar-coating, and maximum Virgo honesty. In this episode, she and Marcus break down the modern dating chaos — from trauma-dumping to ghosting, from courting vs “hanging out,” to what happens when you finally choose yourself after decades of choosing everyone else.

You’ll hear: • How she rebuilt her identity after 21 years committed • Why “courting” still matters in 2025 • How Virgos really love (and why it scares people) • Signs a situationship is wasting your time • Why she refuses to date married or separated men • The difference between “I’m dating” and “I’m healing” • Marcus getting called out again for his Virgo chaos

This episode is funny, real, emotional, and the perfect reality check for anybody who’s starting over — or thinking about it.

Listen & Subscribe: Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dating-detours/id1823554631 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/72vQ6a8Re6PDX99Yf3vzIx?si=2s7k3XnhQ6a-Ub9nj-z-XA Podbean: https://www.podbean.com/pw/pbblog-pqwpw-13ff319?from=usersite YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@datingdetours Website https://www.datingdetours.com Got a dating story? Be a guest: https://golocalproductions.com/dating-detour-guest Enjoying the show? Leave a 5-star review: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dating-detours/id1823554631 Recorded at Ring Spaces Podcast Studio in Fredericksburg, VA: https://ringspaces.com/podcast-space/ We create our clips with Opus: https://www.opus.pro/?via=golocalproductions Start your own podcast with our recommended gear: https://amzn.to/4kpeIN4