Think the only way to heat things up is to swap partners? Not even close. In this episode, Vic and I break down all the hot, non-monogamy-adjacent fun—voyeurism, exhibitionism, and same-room play—that keeps the spice alive without ever crossing into full swap.

We spent our teens in the friend zone—good enough to listen to everyone’s drama, never the ones they wanted. In this episode, Vic and I unpack how that shaped us, how those voices still live in our heads, and what it feels like to flip the script in the lifestyle.

In this episode, we discuss the realities of performance enhancers in the lifestyle. We address common misconceptions about erectile dysfunction, the impact of environment on performance, and the importance of communication between partners.

The discussion also covers the use of medication to enhance experiences and the emotional aspects of intimacy when things don't go as planned.

Key Takeaways:

• Performance enhancers are not just for men; they can benefit couples.
• The 'puppy reaction' describes excitement leading to performance issues.
• Environmental distractions can significantly impact intimacy.
• It's important to communicate openly about performance issues.
• Disappointment in intimacy is common and can be navigated positively.
• Medication can enhance experiences but is not a cure-all.
• Women often feel it's their fault when performance issues arise, but it's usually not.
• The right mindset can turn a disappointing experience into a positive one.
• Choosing the right time to take performance enhancers is crucial.
• Open discussions about sexual health can improve relationships.