Red Flag warnings that might indicate narcissistic or CPAN behaviour can very easily become an obsession when we're trying to protect ourselves from future abusive relationships.

We can worry that we either can't ever see those red flags OR we see them everywhere, neither of which is helpful when we're already very confused and afraid of repeating the 'mistake' or abusive cycle.

Whilst they can undoubtedly be helpful at times when not solely relied upon as our only means of defence, they can also be very harmful if not fully considered and used properly, neither being healthy if we potentially see threat everywhere.....or are afraid because we can't see it at all.

Being aware of Red Flag signals and their limitations is hugely important in beginning to address some of these concerns as is having an appreciation of the dynamics at play in ALL relationships. Understanding how these things combine and how they go on to very much directly impact the reliability of Red Flag indicators is fundamentally important to our even thinking about using them in reality.

No relationship is ever solely about one person in it. Relationships are multi-faceted and enormously nuanced, making using any kind of potential indicators of anything highly unpredictable.

Here we take a deeper look at things to be aware of when considering those Red Flags together with those that raise our awareness of the key things to be keeping when working toward protecting ourselves more reliably from future abusive relationships