What if the thing you’re blaming… isn’t the real issue?

In this episode, I unpack what’s happening beneath thesurface of a pattern many women feel frustrated by and why adding more rules ordiscipline rarely solves it.

There are usually three hidden roadblocks at play.
And once you see them, everything makes more sense.

This isn’t about control.
It’s about understanding the system you’ve been operating inside.

Because you don’t fix a traffic jam by shouting at the cars.

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Are you tired of starting over?

Of going all in… only to fall off when real life happens?

In this episode, we unpack why trying harder isn’t the solution and why the way you’ve been taught to think about consistency might be the very thing keeping you stuck.

Inside, we explore:

• The subtle trap behind “all or nothing” thinking

• A mindset shift that changes how motivation works

• Why your current approach may collapse under normal life pressure

• What consistency really asks of you (it’s not perfection)

This is about building habits that survive stress, busy weeks, low energy, and being human.

If this resonates, you’ll find deeper support inside Healthy, But Human where we build calm, sustainable health without guilt or burnout.

We shame feminists for wanting basic human rights, without those women who stood up for what they believe in, us women would still be locked up in asylums for hysteria, wouldn’t have jobs, bank accounts, homes or to be able to vote.

Yet the word has become something we as women are ashamed to call ourselves and men use it as a weapon to keep us from using our voice to stand up for ourselves.

And no its not all men, we know this yet the not all men crew voices aren't loud enough to cut through the noise. We hear you joining in even if its for a laugh or to be part of the gang, we see you not standing up for us and our rights or when we are being insulted or abused.

Not all feminists hate men, just like it's not all men who have a low opinion of women.

In the episode, which I wasn't sure I wanted to share, dives into what feminism means to me, why we know its not all men and how we as women can take back the word feminism and what the ‘not all men’ crew can do that shows support for women, girls, their daughter and granddaughters.

The question to ask women: When have you felt unsafe, dismissed, or made smaller and what did that feel like?

I’d love for you to share in the comments your experiences, lets get our voices heard

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