When is it time to make yourself a priority?

For many of us, especially those responsible for others, the answer feels complicated, but the truth is simpler than we think.

In this solo episode of Carlos V. Spencer Speaks, Carlos breaks down why self-care isn’t selfish; it’s foundational. From real-life analogies to powerful lessons about burnout, leadership, and responsibility, this conversation challenges the idea that taking care of yourself comes last. If you’re constantly pouring into others but neglecting your own well-being, this episode will help you rethink what it truly means to show up for the people who depend on you.

Recorded from the gym and grounded in lived experience, Carlos explains why making yourself a priority allows everything else in your life to function better: your family, your work, your health, and your peace. This message is especially relevant for Black men and women navigating pressure, expectations, and the weight of always being “the strong one.”

This episode is produced by Black Dad Unfiltered Media and speaks directly to those who are ready to stop running on empty and start leading from a place of wholeness.

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Forgiveness isn’t about letting someone else off the hook—it’s about finally setting yourself free.

In this episode of Carlos V Spencer Speaks, Carlos V. Spencer delivers a powerful and motivating conversation on the true meaning of forgiveness and why holding onto resentment, anger, and unforgiveness quietly keeps you stuck. With a coaching-style approach and real-life insight, Carlos explains how unforgiveness harms your emotional wellness, mental health, and personal growth, often more than the original offense ever did.

Carlos challenges the common misunderstanding that forgiveness means excusing what happened or reopening doors to harmful relationships. Instead, he reframes forgiveness as a personal decision to release emotional weight and reclaim your freedom. Through practical tools and mindset shifts, listeners learn how to let go of resentment, ask better questions, and begin a genuine healing journey.

This episode also explores why forgiveness is a process, not a moment, and how using the right tools, such as reflection, writing exercises, mentorship, and therapy, can help you move forward with clarity and confidence. Whether you’re healing from past pain or seeking emotional freedom, this conversation will help you stop reliving the past and start growing into what’s next.

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Is pride a strength or can it quietly become your biggest obstacle?

In this episode of Carlos V. Spencer Speaks, Carlos V. Spencer explores the fine line between healthy pride and harmful pride, and how understanding that difference can impact your growth, confidence, and long-term success.

Carlos challenges the idea that pride is always negative, explaining how confidence rooted in hard work and self-belief can be a powerful motivator. At the same time, he unpacks how pride can turn destructive when it becomes entitlement, closes us off from feedback, or keeps us from learning and growing.

Through relatable examples and reflective insight, Carlos emphasizes the importance of staying open to counsel, remaining coachable, and balancing confidence with humility. Subtly woven throughout the conversation is the reminder that humility doesn’t cancel confidence; it refines it.

If you’ve ever questioned whether your pride is pushing you forward or quietly holding you back, this episode offers clarity, wisdom, and a mindset shift worth sitting with.

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