Most goal-setting advice completely ignores your nervous system - and that's why most goals fail.

When you understand how your nervous system responds to different types of goals, you can set yourself up for sustainable success instead of constant struggle.

This episode reveals why traditional goal-setting often backfires and offers a completely different approach that works with your body instead of against it.

What You'll Discover:

• Why most goals trigger your nervous system's threat response
• The difference between "away from" and "toward" goals and why it matters
• How to set True Goals that work with your nervous system
• Why willpower isn't the answer (and what actually creates sustainable change)

If you've ever felt like you were fighting against yourself to achieve your goals, this episode will help you understand why - and show you what to do instead.

Resources mentioned in this episode:

• Previous Episode: What Does the Nervous System Have to Do with Binge Eating?
• Cultivate: Jane's signature group program for creating sustainable change with food (opens in April - get on the waitlist to be notified)

Join the Gathering. A monthly guided experience to help you start trusting your own inner wisdom.

Want to know why you struggle with food and what to do next? Start watching The Binge Breakthrough Mini Series today.

If you've been trying to use willpower to stop binge eating and it's not working, there's a reason. Your binges aren't about discipline or control - they're about your nervous system trying to bring you back to safety. In this foundational episode, you'll learn a simple framework for understanding your nervous system and why it matters so much for your relationship with food.

What You'll Discover:

• The "Home Base" framework for understanding your nervous system states

• Why binges are actually your nervous system's attempt to regulate itself

• The cycle that keeps you stuck (and how to start breaking it)

• Simple tools for checking in with your nervous system throughout the day

If you've ever felt like you know what you "should" do but can't seem to make yourself do it, this episode will help you understand why - and what to do instead.

Resources mentioned in this episode:

• Episode: The Power of Co-Regulation
• The Gathering: Monthly experience to slow down and listen to your inner wisdom

Join the Gathering. A monthly guided experience to help you slow down and listen inward.

Want to know why you struggle with food and what to do next? Start watching The Binge Breakthrough Mini Series today.

Do you think you're a person who can't trust themselves around certain foods?

Would you love to trust yourself but don't know how, or don't think it's possible for you?

If you want to cultivate more self-trust in your life, this episode is for you. I'm joined by Dawn Ledet, the Self-Trust Coach, to talk about what self-trust is and how you can cultivate it in your life.

Topics discussed:

• The definition of self-trust
• The steps you can take starting today to create more self-trust
• How to look for evidence that you already to have self-trust in your life
• The importance of stillness and being able to hear your own inner guidance

This is a conversation that will give you tangible action steps to create more self-trust in 2026 and beyond.

Resources mentioned on the podcast:

Self Trust Identity Map

The Inner Room Practice

The Inner Room (Book on Amazon)

Want help in learning how to slow down, stop trying to fix yourself, and start learning to listen to yourself so that you can have more self-trust in your life? Join me inside The Gathering. (Join this week to access the 2026 Intention Setting & Alignment Workshop and lock in the founding members rate.)

A monthly guided experience to help you stop looking outside yourself and start trusting your own inner wisdom.

Do you look like you have it together on the outside, but inside everything feels unsettled and confusing?

Learn more at janepilger.com/gather

Want to know why you struggle with food and what to do next? Start watching The Binge Breakthrough Mini Series today.