Today we are going there. Full send.

Adam and Pris sit down with Courtney Brame — founder of Something Positive for Positive People (SPFPP), host of a podcast with over 350 episodes, 500-hour certified yoga teacher, co-author of a sex education book, and one of the few men of color leading the national conversation on HSV stigma. Courtney was diagnosed with genital HSV-2 in 2013. Instead of shrinking from it, he turned that experience into a full-on movement — one that has helped thousands of people reclaim their identity, their sexuality, and their sanity after a herpes diagnosis.

This episode is not just for people who are HSV positive. It is for anyone who has ever had sex, is having sex, or is planning to have more of it. Which, if you're in the lifestyle, is all of you.

• Courtney's origin story — how a Saturday morning at his grandmother's house led to founding a 501(c)3 nonprofit that has saved lives
• Why 36% of people report suicidal ideation after a herpes diagnosis — and why Courtney decided that was unacceptable
• The truth about HSV-1 vs. HSV-2 — and why your middle school health class completely failed you
• Cold sores. Yeah. Those. We're going there.
• The lifestyle's unspoken assumption that "nobody here has anything" — and why that assumption is the actual problem
• How to have the disclosure conversation — Courtney literally walks us through his real-life script, word for word
• Why communicative sex is the safest sex — and what that actually looks like before clothes come off
• The 360-degree analogy that reframes everything you think you know about what a diagnosis means for your identity
• How yoga therapy became a cornerstone of Courtney's healing framework — and why nervous system regulation matters more than you think

Plus: Pris gets completely honest about her own ignorance around HSV, Adam gets real about the "turn off the anxiety brain mid-play" problem, and both of them leave the conversation humbled, educated, and genuinely better equipped to have these conversations in the community.

Find everything Courtney is building at spfpp.org — support groups (Mondays, separate men's and women's), one-on-one peer support, yoga therapy, ongoing surveys, resources, and more. Go find your people. They are there.

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We got a message that stopped us in our tracks — and honestly, it took us right back to the beginning. A listener found us on TikTok and sent in one of the most thoughtful, honest questions we've ever received: How do you prepare as a couple for your first lifestyle event when one of you is pumped and the other is... cautiously optimistic?

In this QUICKIE, Adam and Pris dig into the confessional of a married couple — 20 years in, incredible communication, and gearing up for a Halloween hotel takeover as their very first lifestyle event. She's got concerns. He's got excitement. And together? They've already got more going for them than they know.

We're covering the real talk around what it's like to jump into the deep end, why consent culture in the lifestyle actually makes it safer than you think, how to start receiving compliments without flinching, and the one thing every couple should do before they even walk through the door.

• Why this guy's approach to bringing up the lifestyle deserves a standing ovation
• What it actually feels like at a hotel takeover as a new couple — Adam's truth vs. Pris's truth
• Meet-and-greet events: why starting here changes everything
• The pressure to "perform" at big events — and why it's all in your head (mostly)
• How to learn to take a compliment without wanting to run
• Pre-event conversations every couple should have before the night begins
• Why the lifestyle is woman-centric and how husbands can stop pouting about it
• Pris's tunnel vision trick for feeling confident in any room
• Safe words, scenarios, and baby steps that actually work

Whether you're two weeks from your first event or two years in and still figuring it out — this one's for you.

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This one's a little different, y'all.

We recorded this episode live — and we mean live — straight from the floor of the Texas Desires Hotel Takeover in San Antonio. Microphones up, audience in the room, Whataburger being delivered to the door at midnight, and absolutely zero filter. Just the way we like it.

The plan was to cover two things: hotel takeover etiquette (the unspoken rules nobody puts in the welcome packet) and how to keep your relationship the priority when you're surrounded by a weekend full of gorgeous, consenting, very enthusiastic humans. Important topics. Stuff we genuinely wanted to dig into.

And then our audience showed up.

What followed was 45 minutes of the most gloriously unhinged live conversation we've had on mic — themed room judging, murky pool horror stories, open-door vs. closed-door policies, Pris casually announcing her gang bang goals to a room full of people, Adam admitting he cannot say no when a woman corners him, and an entire tangent about Martha Stewart that nobody asked for but everyone enjoyed.

Fair warning: because this was a live recording and we were feeding off the crowd's energy, we went all over the place. That's what makes it real — it's exactly what a hotel takeover feels like in the moment. But it also means we didn't get to go as deep as we wanted on the actual etiquette content.

We're going to revisit this topic in a proper dedicated episode where we can actually slow down and give you the breakdown you deserve. Think of this one as the chaotic, hilarious, only-slightly-informative preview. The main event is coming.

In this episode:

• What actually happens at a hotel takeover (spoiler: it's not "housekeeping, can I come in?")
• Themed rooms, scavenger hunts, and the Fiesta room Pris is still talking about
• Open door vs. closed door — and what it means when every door is shut and silent at 1 AM
• Pool etiquette we shouldn't have to explain… and yet
• The pre-event conversation every couple needs before pulling into that parking lot
• Fantasy vs. reality of showing up thinking you're going to absolutely wreck the whole weekend
• The murky pool story from their very first takeover (you've been warned)
• Pris's birthday orgy, her gang bang bucket list, and an extended Hitachi Magic Wand tribute
• Why Adam talked big the entire drive there and then immediately said "don't leave me" upon arrival

This episode was recorded in front of a live audience at Texas Desires Hotel Takeover. Shoutout to everyone who was in that room. Y'all made the show.

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