Blindspots are everywhere and we all got ‘em! These cognitive distortions, which are irrational thoughts that shape our perceptions and emotions, often lurk below our conscious awareness and can wreak havoc on our self-worth and on our relationships. Good news is that we can grow our awareness of them, when we are engaging in them, and back out of them with proactive self-care and communication. Asking trusted partners, friends, family members, and colleagues to bring them to our attention can also be instrumental in helping us turn on the light and understand ourselves on a deeper and healthier level. Here’s to leveling up!

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For some, anger can be a debilitating or frightening experience that leads to conflict avoidance, anxiety, and sadness. For others, anger can be liberating and inspire change. We will all experience conflict many times in our lives, so we all need to learn how to recognize the signs of anger and develop healthy strategies for working with the emotion and communicating effectively through it. In the Process Communication Model world, Harmonizer Types inherently dislike feeling and expressing anger, which can often lead to Phase challenges and distress patterns that manifest in a cover up emotion of sadness and possible passivity or passive aggressiveness that can damage self-esteem and connection. Join us in learning how to deepen one’s understanding of anger, the impact on one’s nervous system, and how to effectively communicate through it to strengthen one’s empowerment and relationships.

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Who doesn’t like sandwiches? Figuring out where we begin and end in context with others can be a confusing at times. We certainly do not want to be a victim of codependency and base our self-worth solely off of others approval. We also do not want to be bulls in a china shop and assume everyone will accommodate us...how obnoxious! Learning to set healthy boundaries without walking on eggshells, facing our fears and walking the coals, and understanding how discomfort can serve as a motivator for change are all key. Stay tuned so that you can enhance your ability to develop strong, yet flexible boundaries, by utilizing what we call The Sandwich Approach.

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