If your autistic child isn’t communicating clearly yet, where do you actually start?

In this episode, pediatric psychologist Dr. Mark Bowers breaks down what to do first when autism and communication challenges show up after a diagnosis. Whether your child is nonverbal, using scripts, struggling to express needs, or melting down when overwhelmed, this episode gives you a clear, practical starting point.

You’ll learn why communication is more than talking, how behavior often is communication, and what actually helps kids express needs in real life—not just in therapy.

We cover:

• The difference between speech and functional communication
• Why meltdowns, shutdowns, and “behavior problems” are often communication breakdowns
• How to identify your child’s current communication style
• When and why to consider AAC (augmentative and alternative communication)
• What to do when your child has words but can’t use them under stress
• How to support echolalia and scripting instead of shutting it down
• Practical ways to build communication at home without pressure
• What good speech therapy should actually focus on

If you’ve been told to “wait and see,” push speech, or fix behavior first, this episode will help you shift your approach.

Because when communication improves, everything else gets easier.

🎧 This is part of the “Now What?” autism series for parents navigating next steps after diagnosis.

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