Time the body needs to transition, meet needs, rest and recover is NOT wasted time! I don't know that it's even possible to "waste time" outside of ableist capitalist structures.

If you still have ableist thoughts, that's okay. We all do! It's worth resting anyway.

Resources mentioned:

1. Neuraluxe's post about parentification
2. Car fundraiser for DV survivor (my sibling)
3. When your abuser threatens suicide article

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If you have multiple interests, realistically you probably don't have enough time to develop all of them to the degree that you'd like. And even with more targeted pursuits, many of us are busy because of real life and capitalism.

What this means is that we have to make tough choices. I talk about some of the ways I've worked through this, where I'm at with it currently, and some questions to ask yourself to guide your own process.

Also, it's the 100th episode!

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To change something, I've been playing with telling myself I'll do "a little more or less." It is less exciting than a huge plan... but also easier on my nervous system!

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This year I've been trying to meet my intensity needs in more "healthy" ways, while also recognizing that sometimes that doesn't feel possible. And that's okay!

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Vanessa Gorelkin is an Occupational Therapist who often works with ND folks. She shares about compassionate approaches to daily life tasks.

The main tool she shared is creating a crisis kit to use when experiencing distress in public, at work, or anywhere that you can't be fully unmasked. List of suggested items below.

Crisis kit items suggested in episode:

1. alcohol swabs (to smell for state change)
2. instant ice packs
3. extreme sour candies
4. lemon juice packet
5. hot sauce packet (mustard is Mattia's)
6. distress card requesting using the bathroom (or whatever's helpful for you)

1. Her website, vanessagorelkin.com
2. @otwhisperer on TikTok

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Reflecting on the interview with Anna, who shared about accommodations for her students and herself.

Learning how to build our own systems/structures is often more useful than being handed a system. Because no matter how much dopamine we get initially from a new tool or system, it inevitably becomes stale.

Instead of throwing the whole thing out the window every time, I've learned how to pull forward elements that are still working. This continuous process of experimenting and tweaking (with rest/recovery interspersed, of course!) has made my life so much easier.

Last 10m of the episode is about why I'm doing the work I'm doing, and the live round of LYB:

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Anna is an educator who has developed an incredible approach with accommodations at the core (for the student AND herself!). It makes sense pedagogically, and it's working! With a core of psychological safety, students are able to explore writing and language with their own goals in mind.

We've also known each other since I was 15... so we talk a bit about the mysterious backstory of living in a Christian sorority ;)

1. Her English 101 Online Textbook
2. Workshopping: Liz Lerman's Critical Response Process
3. All My Relations podcast

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Coping mechanisms can be a pathologizing term. What's the difference between coping mechanisms and intensity or interests?

This episode also touches back to the interview on sobriety with Amy in ep. 92. As well as this note on a positive AA experience from a listener.

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