Welcome to your daily dose of the “butt in seat” method, or what I call mindfulness! Really, it’s about not thinking about what already happened or what might happen, but about what is actually happening right now. But that is a hard place to reach without some guidance.

My mind used to be like a racing car, accelerating always, and rarely braking. So much so that I told Dave, I couldn’t have this small household appliance in our room anymore. Any guesses?

This episode was thrown together at the last moment due to FOUR of my episodes being cancelled since my guests were sick (yes, even with COVID!). So, I recorded on the fly and you can tell. Like hearing the English Mastiffs chewing on toys or themselves, in the background… Anyway, you will learn the steps to take to lose the crazy and calm yourself down. Some of the calming oils you can use with mindfulness are as follows (the blends are doTERRA brand):

·      Lavender

·      Adaptiv

·      Peace

·      Serenity

·      Balance

Here are the names of the mindfulness apps I mentioned, available in your app store, Calm, Abide, Headspace and Smiling Mind. And the great short video that explains mindfulness really well? Click here for that.

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·      Watch my video about using pure essential oils here:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PZLTJ7mjQKk&t=4s

Have a chill day,

Monica

Listen as I talk about the difference between toxic thought and healthy thoughts. Did you know there is a physical difference in what they look like in your brain? Dark and light “trees”-WHAT??? Crazy, huh?

Of course, there is my non-scientific description of a cell’s membrane and why some solutions we use can get into the cells to do the work. Other stuff we use cannot penetrate the cell’s membrane and really does no good if you are looking to boss your DNA around.

One of the best things you can do to begin calming your home down and perhaps even making the environment happy *gasp*, it to STOP and assess what is going on instead of only reacting to that annoying stressor as it rears its ugly head. Look for The Essential Life book (the latest edition) for lots more ideas of what to do with your oils.

Click here to get the PDF I put together for you with different diffuser recipes that will benefit all the peeps in your home and make the mood just what you are looking to achieve. But if you run into problems, do remember to:

1.    Have others and you smell it first

2.    If too strong, use less or change the oil out

3.    Switch recipes from time to time

4.    Use the timer option of your diffuser if it has one

And, for the calming oils I mentioned, here is a list (blends and kits are in the doTERRA line). I don’t use yahoo, baloney items for our health, so these are the good oils:

·      Emotional (Aromatherapy System Kit) oils

·      Adaptiv Kit

·      Juniper Berry & Melissa

·      Balance & Serenity

·      Wild Orange, Peppermint & Frankincense

·      Citrus oils- Lemon, Grapefruit, Wild Orange, Lime

·      Stinky house- Purify

·      Lemon & Spearmint, what a blend!

Here is a shopping cart to get started with some doTERRA oils to diffuse, (please watch the info video first):

Ø Watch my video here about pure essential oils.

Ø A kit with four calming and focus oils. You can add a Volo diffuser if you need one. And even the Emotional Aromatherapy System oils or kit if you want extra help reigning in the emotions. Just reach out on Insta, @_monicanordquist, and I’ll happily send you a new link with what you want in it.

And please ignore the beep sound around minute 8, I think a notification came in on the laptop form my calendar. Okay, off to learn how to silence noises now…

·      Grab your freebie, 5 Easy Tips for Peace here:

Ø https://anyalogic.mykajabi.com/pl/182861

·      Sign up for email notifications of upcoming podcasts here, where you will also get my 5 Easy Tips for Peace audio training for free:

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What a treat! On today’s episode, we have special guest Melissa Corkum, Parent Coach and mom of six by birth and adoption, join us on Anyalogic. She shares the simple secrets to guilt free parenting, where you can have less pressure and more confidence that you are getting this parenting thing right, even in your relationships with adult children, grandchildren or your nieces and nephews.

Melissa talks about the fragile nervous systems of some of our children and, in some circumstances, success is simply creating safety for all and staying connected with your child. I remember the time someone was asking me if her family should adopt and there were some situations that warranted her full attention at the time. I suggested that maybe now wasn’t the time. Safety for all.

Melissa shares about these three areas:

1.    The definition of success as a parent (i.e., basing it on something you actually have control over, and hear my response about how holidays are different now for me)

2.    Why messing up is an important part of parenting (hallelujah to that!)

3.    Brain science and parenting (why staying calm may NOT be the best response, and how I somehow knew this and labeled it in my world as “being bigger than Anya’s fear”)

Get a glimpse into what an overreactive nervous system looks like and learn about mirror neurons as well. I love her take on describing trauma, having something happen to you that you didn’t have the tools to navigate and felt very alone in.

Lastly, what do wine, chocolate and a pillow in your closet have to do with regulating your children’s crazy behavior? Listen on my friend to find out.

Here is the link to Melissa’s Laugh More Yell Less Challenge. You can find our friend on her website thecorkboardonline.com, and on Facebook here. 

Chat soon,

Monica