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Have you ever had an argument that started over something small? The dishes, a tone of voice or being late, and somehow ended with both of you feeling hurt, defensive and completely misunderstood?

In this episode of The Anger Secrets Podcast, anger expert Alastair Duhs explains why most relationship conflict isn’t caused by big problems. It’s caused by small moments where listening breaks down, emotions rise and conversations spiral out of control before either person realises what’s happening.

You’ll learn three practical communication skills that actually work: helping you feel heard, express yourself clearly without aggression and stop everyday disagreements from turning into damaging arguments.

What you’ll learn in this episode:

1. Why good intentions still lead to communication breakdowns
2. The most common mistake people make when they think they’re “listening”
3. How to express yourself clearly without sounding aggressive or defensive
4. A simple structure for difficult conversations that reduces conflict
5. How to negotiate disagreements without damaging trust or respect

The three communication skills covered:

1. Active listening: Learning to understand before responding
2. Clear, non-aggressive expression: Saying what you mean without escalating conflict
3. Effective negotiation: Working together instead of against each other

Want help with this?

If communication in your relationship keeps breaking down, especially when emotions run high, support is available:

1. Watch the free training on breaking the anger cycle
2. Book a free 30-minute Anger Assessment Call
3. Learn more about The Complete Anger Management System

Visit angersecrets.com to get started.

When communication changes, relationships change with it.

And remember:

You can’t control other people — but you can control yourself.

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

Have you ever gone from calm to furious in a matter of seconds, and only afterwards wondered, “Where did that come from?”

In this episode of The Anger Secrets Podcast, anger expert Alastair Duhs explains why anger rarely comes out of nowhere. Instead, it’s usually triggered by long-standing patterns that quietly shape how you react in relationships, at work and under stress.

You’ll learn what anger triggers really are, where they come from, and why recognising them early gives you the power to slow things down before anger takes control.

What you’ll learn in this episode:

1. What anger triggers are and why they feel automatic
2. Why small moments can activate intense emotional reactions
3. Common anger triggers, including feeling disrespected, criticised, or overwhelmed
4. How past experiences and stress fuel present-day anger
5. Why awareness is the first step to real anger control

Practical tools discussed:

1. Identifying your personal anger triggers through reflection
2. Using a diary or journal to spot patterns in your anger
3. Recognising early warning signs before anger escalates
4. Challenging unhelpful thoughts through cognitive reframing
5. When to seek professional support to speed up change

Want help with this?

If you want support identifying and managing your anger triggers:

1. Watch the free training on breaking the anger cycle
2. Book a free 30-minute Anger Assessment Call
3. Learn more about The Complete Anger Management System

Visit angersecrets.com to get started.

Once you can recognise your anger triggers, you’re no longer at their mercy.

And remember:

You can’t control other people, but you can control yourself.

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

Is anger always a bad thing? Or are there times when feeling angry actually makes sense?

In this episode of The Anger Secrets Podcast, anger expert Alastair Duhs explains why anger itself isn’t the problem. The real damage happens when anger is either suppressed or expressed in ways that hurt relationships.

You’ll learn what healthy anger really looks like, how it differs from destructive anger and how to express anger in a way that protects trust, communication and emotional safety.

What you’ll learn in this episode

1. Why anger is a normal and necessary human emotion
2. The difference between healthy, assertive anger and destructive anger
3. How unhealthy anger damages trust and connection over time
4. Real-life examples of responding to anger at work and in relationships
5. Practical ways to express anger calmly, clearly, and respectfully

Key principles of healthy anger:

1. Healthy anger is expressed, not suppressed
2. It is assertive, not aggressive
3. It focuses on solutions rather than blame
4. It respects both your needs and the needs of others

Practical tips covered:

1. Pause before reacting and reflect on what’s really going on
2. Use “I” statements instead of blame or accusation
3. Focus on problem-solving rather than winning
4. Set clear, respectful boundaries
5. Practice forgiveness to avoid carrying resentment

Want help applying this?

If you’d like support learning how to express anger in healthier ways:

1. Watch the free training on breaking the anger cycle
2. Book a free 30-minute Anger Assessment Call
3. Learn more about The Complete Anger Management System

Visit angersecrets.com to get started.

Anger doesn’t need to be eliminated. It needs to be understood and used wisely.

And remember:

You can’t control other people, but you can control yourself.