Hey Believers, In this episode of the allenandeve podcast, we’re getting real about a recent moment where things got tense between us. Even after moments of deep repentance and confession, pride has a way of creeping back in and reopening old wounds.

We dive into:

• The "Microwave" Fix: Why we often expect instant healing in marriage when growth actually requires time and patience.
• The Battle of the Flesh: Using Romans 7 to understand why we often do the very things we don’t want to do, especially during an argument.
• Returning to Grace: How to apply the "patient and kind" love of 1 Corinthians 13 when your feelings are hurt.

Marriage isn't a game—it's a journey of constantly choosing humility over being "right". Whether you're in a season of peace or currently navigating a rough patch, we hope our transparency helps you find the path back to grace.

Timestamps

• 0:00 – When "I'm sorry" isn't enough
• 1:45 – The difference between patience and a "quick fix"
• 2:30 – Romans 7: The struggle of doing what we hate
• 4:15 – 1 Corinthians 13: Choosing love over pride
• 5:00 – A prayer for couples in conflict

Remember, it's Allan & Eve here to help you believe that marriage is not a game!!!

In this episode, we’re tackling the "scary" side of intimacy: bringing our darkest thoughts into the light. We often keep secrets—struggles with lust, wandering eyes, or internal battles—under the guise of "protecting" our spouse's feelings. But the truth is, lust thrives in the dark. It gains its power from the silence.

We break down why "being known" is more important than "being comfortable" and how sharing your internal struggles actually takes the power away from temptation. Drawing from Ephesians 5 and James 5, we discuss how to turn your spouse from a judge into a prayer partner.

What we cover:

• Why the "smooth surface" of a secret-filled marriage is a foundation of sand.
• The "How" of confession: Protecting your bond vs. venting to hurt.
• Moving from shame to healing through the power of the light.
• How to guard your heart (Proverbs 4:23) by inviting your spouse to stand watch with you.

If you’re tired of the "dark corners" of your mind and ready for a marriage that is truly healed, not just "fine," this episode is for you.

Hey Believers, We’ve been married for seven years, and if we’re being honest, they’ve been seven of the best years of our lives. But lately, we realized we were still carrying some 'spiritual luggage' we never actually unpacked at the start."

"We’re talking about the patterns we set before we ever said ‘I do.’ Even after all this time, we felt a pull to go back and get it right—to break away from the spiritual hindrances of our past and build something completely new."

"So, we’re doing something radical. We have completed a 60-Day Fast. No sex. Just us, God, and the raw truth of our marriage."

"In this video, we’re pulling back the curtain on what it looks like to 'reset' a marriage after seven years. It’s uncomfortable, it’s eye-opening, and today, we’re starting with why we felt we had to stop the physical noise to finally hear what God was saying to our souls."

Remember, it's Allan & Eve here to help you believe that marriage is not a game!!!