Épisodes

  • Episode 38: Episode 38: 3 Hurdles when launching
    Aug 5 2022
    This episode discusses 3 main layers of complication when launching your startup. It all comes down to "Perceived stability" but the 3 layers are: 1. Explaining the new lifestyle to yourself 2. Explain things to your parents and surrounding 3. Explaining things to your partners, team, and investors. Follow on IG: @ramialame
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    5 min
  • Episode 37: Episode 37: Be nice to yourself
    Dec 18 2021
    Take a second to be nice to yourself Instagram: @ramialame Twitter: @rami_alameh
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    6 min
  • Episode 36: Episode 36: Listen, Adapt, Scale
    Jul 30 2021
    It’s a cliché to say that founders flounder, but unfortunately, that’s usually the case. Wild exceptions like Bill Gates, Steve Jobs, and Michael Dell aside, executives who start a business or project fizzle more often than not once they’ve gotten their venture on its feet. Entrepreneurs actually show their inability to switch to executive mode much earlier in the business development process than most people realize, as my stories will reveal. But the reasons executives fail to “scale”—that is, adapt their leadership capabilities to their growing businesses’ needs—remain fuzzy. It’s simply assumed that there’s an entrepreneurial personality and an executive personality—and never the twain shall meet. I don’t think that’s true. I believe most executives can learn to scale if they’re willing to take a step back and admit to themselves that their old ways no longer work. Over the past four years, I’ve worked closely with more than 100 entrepreneurs and seen them struggle to adapt as their companies grow beyond a handful of employees and launch a new product or service. In the process, I’ve observed that the habits and skills that make entrepreneurs successful can undermine their ability to lead larger organizations. The problem, in other words, is not so much one of leadership personality as of approach. I’ve identified three tendencies that work for leaders of business units or small companies but become Achilles’ heels for those same individuals when they try to manage larger organizations with diverse needs, departments, priorities, and constituencies. The first tendency is loyalty to comrades—the small band of colleagues there at the start of the enterprise. In entrepreneurial mode, you need to lead like you’re in charge of a combat unit on the wrong side of enemy lines, where it’s all for one and one for all. But blind loyalty can become a liability in managing a large, complex organization. The second tendency, task orientation—or focusing on the job at hand—is critical in driving toward, say, a big product launch, but excessive attention to detail can cause a large organization to lose its way. The third tendency, single-mindedness, is an important attribute in a visionary who wants to unleash a revolutionary product or service on the world. Yet this quality can harden into tunnel vision if the leader can’t become more expansive as the company grows. And the fourth tendency, working in isolation, is fine for the brilliant scientist focused on an ingenious idea. But it’s disastrous for a leader whose burgeoning organization must rely on the kindness of customers, investors, analysts, reporters, and other strangers. Startup Kudos is available on Amazon and www.startupkudos.com IG: @ramialame Be Organized, Be Passionate, Be Structured
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    7 min
  • Episode 35: Episode 35: True to yourself
    Jul 17 2021
    Be True to yourself. Be real. Basic Instincts involve 2 main things as well 1. Being true to yourself and being very transparent and honest with yourself 2. Being true to others and making sure to be complementary with others. Ego can last for a short while and then dissipate into an oblivious scenario that has no ending or rather a bad ending.  Be Organized, Be Passionate, Be Structured IG: @ramialame www.startupkudos.com
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    7 min
  • Episode 34: Episode 34: Adversarial Excitement
    Jun 13 2021
    The sexual instinct aims to fuse chemically with another, this fusion transforming both parties. In a sense, this need for fusion on both parties can be objectifying. It is not a caring social fusion, but rather a chemical essential to infect and be infected, to have the other person grow inside you and alter you, thus each person transforming into something else. Achieving this fusion via seduction and display manifests in two ways: This is part of the Concept of Adversarial Excitement that gets you the fast win. The Partnership Excitement wins you the War. Be Organized, Be Passionate, Be Structured. www.ramialame.com IG: @ramialame www.startupkudos.com
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    5 min
  • Episode 33: Episode 33: Social Basic Instincts
    Jun 5 2021
    It is often said that “humans are social animals” without really thinking what that implies. Many creatures are social in the sense that they live in groups. Still, there are wide differences in what ‘social’ means – from the simple semi-chaos of herding for cattle or deer to the elaborate, regimented, division-of-labor society of the termite or the honey bee. Human social scientists (sociologists and anthropologists especially) have traditionally spent most of their time searching for differences between human societies and often assuming that the wide variety that exists is somehow infinite and has no, or few, underlying patterns, laws, or theories explain its myriad diversity. One is tempted to think that a non-human social scientist might take a rather different view, seeing clear patterns at both the macro and micro levels of human social organization, just as we find it easy to recognize patterns in other social species. Social Instincts It is not true to say that social scientists have had no idea of the nature of human sociality: – there have, in fact, been two competing visions of individuals' inherited social instincts. Neither view would probably admit that they were, by implication, theories of inherited human characteristics, i.e., theories of human nature. The first and most obvious is the neo-classical economics notion of the “rational utility-maximizing” human individual. Rather obviously, the idea that everyone, regardless of context or culture, is a "rational utility maximizer’ can only be due to human nature. Most neo-classical economists would be very uncomfortable with discussing their micro-economic ‘simplifying axioms’ actually relating to real-world human nature, but it seems difficult to avoid. The second is called the “standard social science model” of the infinitely malleable “blank slate” individual. Social scientists who hold this view would even more vehemently reject the idea this was a view of human nature, but of course, it is. For everyone, everywhere, to be ‘blank slates’ means we all must be born that way, which is, of course, a view of human nature. Having no ‘hard-wired’ social instincts is just as much an assumption about human nature as ‘rational utility maximization. These two basic approaches have been associated largely with the two principle wings in the democratic political thought of the past century and a half – free-market capitalism and liberalism (rational utility maximization) and socialism or social democracy (‘blank slate’ adaptability). I want to argue that both these models are partly right and also wrong because they are incomplete. There is an alternative, which is still a relatively simple picture of human social instincts but accounts for contradictory human behavior. Let me first set out some definitions. What do I mean by “instincts”? I use the term in the same way it is used in Steven Pinker’s “The Language Instinct” – that is to say, an ‘instinct’ combines an innate desire to acquire something (language) with an innate ability to assimilate it. Pinker argues that humans are normally born with an innate desire to acquire language and an innate ability to do so. This is not at all culture or experience-dependent but is ‘hard-wired.’ Which language people acquire is determined by the socio-cultural context in which they grow up. Take a child of American English-speaking parents at birth and have it adopted by Mandarin-Chinese speaking parents, and it will grow up speaking Mandarin like a native, and vice-versa. Thus, human facility with language includes elements of inherited, fixed, motives and abilities and an acquired cultural component. By social, in the context of social instincts, I refer to how humans seek to interact with other humans in ‘their’ and other groups (not just their immediate family). Most evidence suggests humans evolved in groups of about 150 (the famous “Dunbar’s Number”), and social instincts refer to how we seek to interact with the members of this social group. According to the supporters of ‘relational models theory (RMT), a surprisingly small number of social instincts – just four – can explain a great deal about human social behavior. I have changed the terminology slightly from RMT usage for reasons I will explain elsewhere in my explication of these four basic social instincts. The four basic social instincts are: – Community seeking – the desire for group membership, group sharing, and group identity. – Authority seeking – the desire to identify leaders and followers for security and order imposed by authority relations. – Equality seeking – the desire for equality and equity in the treatment of individuals, for justice and fairness, and for rules that apply to all. – Advantage seeking – the desire to secure, through the group and the exchange, self-interested advantage, personal autonomy, individualism, property ...
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    6 min
  • Episode 32: Episode 32: Basic Instincts: Sexual Instincts
    May 13 2021
    Sex is one of the biggest drivers in life; it is a cornerstone Of our decision-making, life path, and whatever we do. I want you to think of one time, one moment when in your life where you fully dissociated yourself from this; I doubt you will find. Not saying, though, that it is the ultimate goal; it does shapes the way we do things. I remember I was around 12, and we went on a summer trip to Cyprus with my parents, and we had friends there we would always hang out with. We visited a woman called Yanoulla, an old lady friends with my grandmother who worked at the fish market. This family was just so welcoming, warm-hearted, and caring. Her husband Harris was a huge fan of Liverpool FC, and we would tease each other, me being an avid Manchester United FC Fan at heart. So we arrived at her home, a ground-floor apartment, and the balcony was the street overlooking Limassol’s sandy beach. I started running around and playing with small things like all kids until Soulla [Her daughter] arrived with her children Chris and Harris Jr [Girl]. Chris was, to my brother and me, the coolest person ever; he started talking about how he went clubbing and met so many girls and was all fit and stuff. I remember my brother and I were in Awe to his stories, and this is where my interaction with puberty began. We started talking about girls, and one night we went into Chris’ father’s room; he showed us actually Cassettes; Not CDs, Not MP3s, Video Cassettes. It was porn. While reading, I am sure your brain will take you through these small experiences that shaped your puberty; you will remember the small interactions, the small secrets, the rooms, skin interactions, warmth, and passion. You will remember these people you interacted with, discovering and exploring when the unknown was just an increased heartbeat. As we grow, we always want to continue being sexually relevant and play the seduction and attraction game. I discuss this in my concept of relationship 2.0. I analyze our physical needs and urge to remain relevant and how it impacts Monogamy turning it into a “Monogamish” concept. For business, it is the same; understanding attraction and seduction makes you understand ideation, product creation, customer support, and scaling your business. www.startupkudos.com IG: @ramialame
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    6 min
  • Episode 31: Episode 31: Basic Instincts: Self Preservation 1
    May 11 2021
    The self-preservation, survival instinct is the instinct of physical self-protection. As a living species, our bodies are the catalyst for our lives. It's the most basic, ubiquitous survival instinct. If our bodies fail, we cannot live. This instinct is concerned primarily with one's own physical body and its health, stability, protection, and ultimately that it continues to live.  1. Physical Well-Being The self-preservation instinct is focused on the body itself and its well-being. It includes health, strength, diet, fitness, and endurance. This facet of self-preservation is like a management system for your body. It seeks to find a root cause for problems in the body, and it can seek to test the body's endurance to harm or stress.  Possible examples of thoughts:  Is this food healthy? Why do I feel so tired today? When can I get back to the gym so I can feel more energetic? Could I climb to the top of this mountain? Could I survive in the forest for one month? Be Organized, Be Passionate, Be Structured www.startupkudos.com IG: @ramialame
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    6 min