You know they lied. You've seen the evidence. So why can't you just move on?

In this episode, Todd addresses one of the most painful experiences in relationships: loving someone who has betrayed your trust through infidelity or other serious lies. Drawing from real cases in his practice, he explains the psychological phenomenon of cognitive dissonance—when your reality of love and commitment conflicts with the truth you're now facing.

Todd walks through three core tensions that keep you stuck: the love you felt versus the reality you're confronting, your emotional attachment versus the evidence of betrayal, and your hope for change versus the fear of abandoning yourself. He explains why it's completely normal to feel confused, even when the facts are clear.

This isn't about quick fixes. Todd acknowledges that some partners do change and relationships can heal, but he's equally honest about the work required and the time it takes to know if real change is happening. You'll hear practical guidance on how to be kind to yourself during this process, how to recognize genuine transformation in your partner (not just crisis management), and how to hold space for hope without losing yourself.

If you're questioning why you can't let go, or if you feel stuck between wanting to trust again and protecting yourself, this episode offers perspective and validation. Todd's 30 years of clinical experience helps you understand what's happening inside you—so you can make clearer decisions about what comes next.

This is honest talk about the messy middle of relationship recovery, where everything feels contradictory and nothing feels simple.

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Check out my complete program "From Bickering & Escalating to Connecting & Loving" for more in-depth guidance: https://www.toddcreagertraining.com/loving-connecting-masterclass

Todd Creager, LCSW, LMFT

Todd is a sex expert and therapist in Huntington Beach. He provides relationship coaching to couples throughout the world and in Orange County including Irvine, Newport Beach, Corona del Mar, Laguna Beach, Seal Beach and Long Beach. (714) 848-2288.

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