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The Gardener and the Carpenter

What the New Science of Child Development Tells Us About the Relationship Between Parents and Children
Lu par : Erin Bennett
Durée : 8 h et 51 min
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Caring deeply about our children is part of what makes us human. Yet the thing we call "parenting" is a surprisingly new invention. In the past 30 years, the concept of parenting and the multibillion-dollar industry surrounding it have transformed child care into obsessive, controlling, and goal-oriented labor intended to create a particular kind of child and therefore a particular kind of adult.

In The Gardener and the Carpenter, pioneering developmental psychologist and philosopher Alison Gopnik argues that the familiar 21st-century picture of parents and children is profoundly wrong - it's not just based on bad science, it's bad for kids and parents, too. Drawing on the study of human evolution and her own cutting-edge scientific research into how children learn, Gopnik shows that although caring for children is profoundly important, it is not a matter of shaping them to turn out a particular way. Children are designed to be messy and unpredictable, playful and imaginative, and very different both from their parents and from each other. The variability and flexibility of childhood lets them innovate, create, and survive in an unpredictable world. "Parenting" won't make children learn - but caring parents let children learn by creating secure, loving environments.

©2016 Alison Gopnik (P)2016 Audible, Inc.

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"Narrator Erin Bennett commendably presents this unique audiobook on raising children. Alison Gopnik, an expert on children's development, lambasts the current style of parenting, which she calls the 'carpenter method' because it relies on an established blueprint (as in making a chair) to produce a successful but predictable child who also excels at test taking. Gopnik prefers the 'gardener approach,' which gives the child love, encouragement, and freedom to play and imagine, which she says results in a more creativity. Bennett's delivery of Gopnik's passionate argument is appealing and easy to understand. She also captures Gopnik's subtle humor and supporting quotes from experts. The moving conclusion comes full circle as it discusses end-of-life commitments that adult children have to their elderly parents." ( AudioFile Magazine)

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  • See Reverse
  • 18/01/2017

Stop Parenting and Be a Parent

Would you listen to The Gardener and the Carpenter again? Why?

Yes - the book makes a strong case for being a parent to your children rather than parenting them toward your own specific end. It's definitely a message to hear and appreciate more than once.

Who was your favorite character and why?

The author talks about her experience as a grandmother throughout the book, which is a nice backdrop to the scientific understanding of the parent-child relationship.

What does Erin Bennett bring to the story that you wouldn’t experience if you just read the book?

Erin conveys some of the coy remarks well - I'm not sure they would have stood out as clearly in the text.

Was this a book you wanted to listen to all in one sitting?

I like this book in snippets - listening all in one sitting wouldn't do it justice.

Any additional comments?

Alison Gopnik is quoted so frequently in other books. It was nice to hear her voice directly - she has a wisdom about her work that other authors miss entirely.

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  • Chris
  • 19/11/2016

Great book about modern parenting misconceptions

Really great book that takes you through historical and traditional child rearing ideals to modern day misunderstandings. It was an enlightening read on how childrens' brains develop and how wrong our traditional ideas of this are. It's a very short book but touches on many examples and interesting view points. It had a good flow but not many action points to take away, except that I feel I need to read more about the subject!

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  • Thandi Lamprecht
  • 29/10/2016

Fascinating

Best book in the genre I've "read". Fascinating and entertaining from start to finish. I highly rec

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  • MoonOwl
  • 23/10/2016

Equal parts science and wisdom

The best chapter is the last one, in which Alison Gopnik weaves together the science of child development with philosophy and policy making.

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  • Juanita A. Smith
  • 16/10/2019

Not a fan of this book.

I was required to read this book for work. While there are some thought provoking ideas in this book, I did not agree with a majority of the content (i.e. her stance on evolution) therefore her way at looking at the research provided was unfounded, for me, on that basis. To be frank, I would have stopped reading the book after the first few pages if I could have.

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  • Mummus
  • 22/09/2019

Not a practical read for implementing

I could not get through this book. There is very little practical takeaway information here. I kept waiting and nothing... Sadly, it was not for me.

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  • Wayne A. Hall
  • 11/05/2017

An important work

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This is the best book on child development I have seen. Much of what is practice today is based on faulty assumptions and this includes the experts who are working from disproved models that are 50 years old.

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  • The Wicked Parson
  • 07/03/2017

Always love Gopnik. This book was right up there.

At some level this book felt so much more personal. I have always loved the author's "reporting" on the latest discoveries. So, coming across a book where she opens up her soul, so to speak, was welcomed & refreshing! it was nice to hear that even a grandparent research scientist is ..... still a grandparent. This was a most enjoyable read.

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  • Brian
  • 11/03/2019

Too much blathering

Bought this one for a road trip, needed something my wife and I could listen to while driving. It was less about raising kids and more about the social and evolutionary development of parents and families (lots of examples about primates). This was not what we were looking for. I don't care why crows care for their young longer than other birds, I want to know how to get my son to stop whacking his sister with toy cars. We probably will not finish this one.

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  • Camille
  • 22/05/2020

some good nuggets to think on

I found lots of insightful stories and perspectives. My spouse (psychology minor) found it all very obvious and long winded. So, 4 stars in the middle.

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  • Xi Ding
  • 17/09/2016

Interesting research facts, bad conclusions

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The author provided us with lots of interesting research results in children's cognitive development. That's the fun part of the book. But then she went on to criticize the idea of modern school, the idea of treating ADHD as a psychological condition, and so on. Well, the researches do show that kids are capable of naturally acquiring the cognitive skills belonging to a normal human being, which could survive a hunter and gatherer society, but that's it. Kids can't just learn reading, maths, logical thinking, science, technical expertise and so on, which are immensely important in our world, just through playing or "apprenticeship", which she regarded as the best way of learning. Yes, schools today have many problems, but can she provide a better system? She dismisses the importance of the ability of "focusing", which is always required in schools. But can she show those kids who fail in schools due to ADHD a way to survive the competitive modern society? Not every school drop out can become a successful musician or athletet.