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  • No More Mr. Nice Guy

  • A Proven Plan for Getting What You Want in Love, Sex and Life (Updated)
  • De : Dr Robert Glover
  • Lu par : Dr Robert Glover
  • Durée : 6 h et 49 min
  • 4,7 out of 5 stars (73 notations)

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    Description

    “One of the best books I’ve ever read on men’s emotional health and development.” Mark Manson, author of The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck and Models.

    “I have read every self-help book out there, but this was the first that put everything together in a way that made perfect sense to me.”

    “Every page of my copy of No More Mr. Nice Guy is highlighted in yellow. How did you know me so well?

    A Nice Guy, according to Dr. Robert Glover, a pioneering expert on the Nice Guy Syndrome, is a man who believes he is not okay just as he is. He is convinced that he must become what he thinks others want him to be liked, loved, and get his needs met. He also believes that he must hide anything about himself that might trigger a negative response in others.

    The Nice Guy Syndrome typically begins in infancy and childhood when a young boy inaccurately internalizes emotional messages about himself and the world. It is fueled by toxic shame and anxiety. Rapid social change in the late 20th century and early 21st century has contributed to a worldwide explosion of men struggling to find happiness, love, and purpose.

    The paradigm of the Nice Guy Syndrome is driven by three faulty covert contracts. Nice Guys believe:  

    • If I am good, then I will be liked and loved.
    • If I meet other people’s needs without them having to ask, then they will meet my needs without me having to ask.
    • If I do everything right, then I will have a smooth, problem-free life.

    The inauthentic and chameleon-like approach to life causes Nice Guys to often feel frustrated, confused, and resentful. Subsequently, these men are often anything but nice. Common Nice Guy patterns include giving to get, difficulty setting boundaries, dishonesty, caretaking, fixing, codependency, people-pleasing, conflict avoidance, passive-aggressiveness, unsatisfying relationships, issues with sexuality, and compulsive masturbation and pornography use.   

    Since the publication of No More Mr. Nice Guy in 2003, hundreds of thousands of men worldwide have learned how to release toxic shame, soothe their anxiety, face their fears, connect with men, embrace their passion and purpose, and experience success in work and career. These men have also learned to set boundaries, handle conflict, make their needs a priority, develop satisfying relationships, and experience great sex.

    This process of recovery from the Nice Guy Syndrome allows men to move through:  

    • Depression
    • Social anxiety and shyness
    • Codependency
    • Low self-esteem
    • Loneliness and hopelessness
    • Feelings of failure
    • Lack of confidence and purpose
    • Compulsive behaviors and addictions
    • Feeling stuck in life

    Contrary to what the title might seem to imply, No More Mr. Nice Guy does not teach men how to be not nice. Dr. Glover shows men how to become what he calls Integrated Males. Becoming integrated does not mean becoming different or better. It means being able to accept all aspects of oneself. An integrated male can embrace everything that makes him unique - his power, his assertiveness, his humor, his courage, and his mission, as well as his fears, his imperfections, his mistakes, his rough edges, and his dark side.

    If you are ready to get what you want in love, sex, and life, No More Mr. Nice Guy will show you how.  

    ©2000, 2003 Robert Glover (P)2017 Recorded Books

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    Never date a nice guy

    "Never date a nice guy", that should be the real title of this book.
    For all the nice guys out there, this is THE therapy book that you need in your life. Go get some help if needed !

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    good

    this Book is easy to understand.
    The author gives plenty of good anecdotes and exercises.
    he embraces differents areas of life such as love, sex, money and happiness in life.

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    étonnant et utile

    je viens de finir le livre et je vais appliquer ce qu'il propose de faire. Ce livre me donne le courage de vivre une vie meilleure et de me concentrer sur mes besoins en priorité

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    Perfect book for all men

    A powerful book to improve the life, sex and love of any guys who feel lacking some part of them.
    Perfect.

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    Mind-blowing, life-changing. A must read.

    Despite having already changed a lot of things that I didn't like in my life and having already read a lot of essential books about self development, this one contains gems and unique insights to help you get better.

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    • Charles Mckeever
    • 25/03/2018

    Nailed me right between the eyes

    As a 46 year old male, ex-Marine, and self professed “nice guy” I finally understand that all this time, I have been causing my own pain. It hasn’t been my career, my spouse, my friends, my environmental conditions. The common factor in all those things has been me. No more Mr. nice guy described many of my own internal feelings like someone was reading my mind. Things that I’ve never told anyone. Now that I have clarity on these issues, I now have a way to work through them to be set free. I’ve already applied some of the techniques with immediate results. Mainly because the change started with me, which then encouraged positive responses from others. So basically, now I’m in the process of reviewing all of my thoughts and actions to challenge and change the defaults. If you even think this book might help you, take a chance. I did and I’m so very thankful to the author.

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    • throttle
    • 05/02/2018

    literally fixed me

    I struggled to find the answer to why my marriage failed and my ex girlfriend cheated on me. the book cured me of my condition. real help inside. actionable and practical.

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    • The Adventure Medic
    • 26/10/2018

    Life Changing

    Every man needs to read this book. Period.
    It's everything you missed growing up, and everything you need to be a happier and better man than you ever thought possible.
    There's no clearer way to say this, do not skip this book. It literally saved my life, my relationships, and opened the door to a life I never dreamed was possible for me.

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    • Anonymous User
    • 09/08/2018

    Only for nice guys!

    Overall, this book tries to explain the origin of the nice guy and why he acts like he does. Some good excercises to help overcome nice guy syndrome, but I only recommend this book if this is your first read on the topic.

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    • Bigslick
    • 09/01/2020

    I consider this a very DANGEROUS book

    As a reader of a lot of these types of books and having a personal desire to expand myself as a person I’ve read and listened to hundreds of different books. Having an MD/PhD I’m no expert in this specific field. However a lover of behavioral psychology this is some of the worst blanket compartmentalized advice I could ever give a struggling individual.

    I’m not surprised a long lengthy legal disclaimer was read before the book started. It’s dangerous. Such an over simplification of what is not most often rooted in one single condition. I’ll be the first I suffer from some of the tendencies found in this book. However to categorically place people in two distinct buckets is scary scary practice. In a way the book read if you do xyz you also do xyz but are unaware. That’s incredibly dangerous talk.

    Secondly the assumption that events rooted in family absolutely can cause resentment towards a family member. It’s as if the intent is to go fishing for a problem pick the closest thing say ahh that’s why and forgive.

    The second even more critical flaw is that people are secretive. Sure. Great. Have a spouse read it as encouraged by the author. Problem. If your relationship is shaky you just opened a Pandora’s box of hesitation and speculation. You hav potentially created a problem deeper than anything this book can solve.

    The one dimensional nature of this book frightens me. A lot of great psych books available to help uncover and work towards treating your condition. I can see this one causing so much harm. If your impressionable even more so. Creating ghosts you don’t have.

    Give it a listen. Some decent Tod bits. But. Wow. This book is for a very very specific person and sure. Absolutely can help. I just fear in the wrong hands this book can be ammunition to a world of pain not healing.

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    • Sha’ul Newman
    • 28/07/2019

    This book will end your misery!

    I’m a veracious reader, I typically read/listen to over 300 books per year. This is the book that I’ve searched for my entire life. In the span of seven hours, I went from being a scared four year old boy to a 45 year old man. This book reveals why you have troubles in life, relationships and sex. It gets inside your head like nothing else will. This book is pure magic. Dr. Glover gave me my life back when he wrote this book. I’ve already listened to it 4 times and it will be a regular recurring read throughout the remainder of my life. I only wish that I had read it years ago. 5 stars isn’t a high enough rating.

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    • Justin Cain
    • 29/01/2019

    amazing book

    listened to it multiple times. cant say enough about how its helped me, in my personal and professional life. this contained innumerable revelations about why I do the things I do, and how to better myself in those situations.

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    • Bjorn Thorkelson
    • 30/12/2017

    Practical guide for people pleasers

    This book really resonated with me. It details many of the reasons and solutions for overcoming toxic shame. This is the updated version of the book. I’m not sure if the previous version had a pdf, but this one doesn’t. Tough to practically implement the recommended exercises without that.

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    • David Rivera
    • 16/01/2019

    dissatisfied with life? buy the book

    exellent book! it helps you see, how you in childhood from not getting your needs met, adapted to patterns of not making a lot of trouble, not asking for things and putting other people needs before your own (to deserve love, attention or whatever you need ), and how that's making it difficult getting your needs met as an adult.
    it forces you to see your darker, disfunctional sides and how you sabotage for yourself. it's hard and felt heavy sometimes, but in the end I think it's worth it.
    it encourages you to seek support and help from safe people, therapist or join a support group, to help you through your problems and help you get your needs met. there are 45 different exercises with questions to help you see and change your behavior. I will listen to this book again and do all of them. thanks for a great book!

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    • david rocabado
    • 06/08/2018

    Very insightful...

    Upon listening to the book, I listened the sample and from there it started describing certain things that made sense in describing the type of person I may be. So now I want to learn more in which I did, but it definitely takes another listen. So much information about what you can learn from being too passive and explains just enough for you to understand ways to control your niceness. I'm hoping to learn more the second time around, so I can better understand myself and how I treat others... thank you!

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    • E7EVEN
    • 22/07/2018

    One of the best books on its topic

    I wäre of this book sometime ago and since then it's name did stick to my mind. Now I got it and listened to the complete audio book in almost no time. It was so good and on point. What I mean is the topic is probably deeper than one expects and Dr Glover doesn't beat around no bush and hits many targets straight and clear. This will be helpful for almost anybody in or off relationships, not just 'nice guys'. I would recommend this to anyone (men, straight or gray doesn't matter) looking for blind spots in their sex life, relationship or lack thereof.

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    • ice
    • 19/05/2018

    Sehr redundant und inhaltslos...

    ... Außerdem weitgehen banale Fakten.
    So ich brauche jetzt noch 4 Wörter alsp schreibe ich....

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    • Jo
    • 23/05/2019

    Top!

    Extrem hörenswert und ein Augen-Öffner für jeden Mann! Unbedingte Empfehlung meinerseits! . . . .

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    • Martin B.
    • 04/08/2020

    vast simplification

    The author paints a cliché that we all may know without differentiating the root causes. It is sad to hear how certain behavior is declared as inevitable consequence of the character trait of enjoying to help people, e.g., the inevitability of addictions. Many claims and stories and handwaving, with risk of legitimizing such behavior to people who are actually good at heart, and do not simply suffer the same portfolio of expressions as the author himself. no thanks.

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    • Amazon Kunde
    • 28/03/2019

    Recommended

    If the title catches your attention, this book is exactly what you need to improve your life

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    • K
    • 13/01/2019

    Absolutely insane good book

    One of the best books I've ever read in my life! Read it! Take the time. It will be an incredible experience

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    • NihonGoGaksei
    • 12/06/2022

    I am a bad boy now

    fascinating to here such a exact description of oneself. Since years I feel something wrong with, now I have a clue where to start to fix… I am very thankful for this work.

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    • BlacKoala
    • 21/04/2022

    Shockingly fitting

    Full honesty here:
    I (early 30s male, good job, had several relationships) am standing in my own way in every aspect of my life. And it starts to have really bad consequences professionally and personally. I feel completely "stuck" and the sad thing is, just because of me! I habe all potential to have a great, happy life, but I don't. I actually feel if I don't change drastically I will end up ruined financially and emotionally.

    The "nice guy" characteristics in this book match how I behave so much, that it is very frustrating, disturbing and sad. On the other hand it gives me hope that it can help me to finally overcome my problems and live a full life that I can really enjoy.

    I just finished the ebook, now ordered a hardcopy and will go through it again and do the exercises.

    I don't know how successful the methods of this book will be for me, but the information and insights given already deserve a 5 star rating from me.

    Be aware, it is a self help book, don't expect bestseller storytelling level of writing, but that is I think not so relevant. The essence is conveyed and that is what matters.

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    • George
    • 12/01/2021

    perfect

    This is a book that every man and woman must read at least twice!)

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    • anas
    • 05/07/2020

    highly recommended

    i loved the advices in the book. although dr glover takes a long time explaining the behaviours that constitute the persona of a nice guy, which can be sometimes too long, he finally comes around and gives you antidotes for all of those pussy types of behaviour. I am already starting to make some changes such as making a resolution not to use porn again. i also tried the masturbation technique he talks about and oh god! that felt better than my last sex experience. thank you Dr Glover for this book and a special thanks for Corey Wayne for recommending you in his book how to be a 3% man.