Decent date ideas

This is apparently the product of some smart, hard-working researchers who have spent an amazing amount of time studying relationships and romantic interactions in minute detail. They swear they can tell which relationships will last and which won't. The scientific formula? It depends on whether you usually speak positively or negatively about your partner. It's not hard to imagine that someone who constantly criticizes their partner is unlikely to have a happy, healthy long relationship with them. That hardly seemed to need the intense scientific scrutiny.

But surely there's more to it, more to the book than that, right?

The book itself consists of eight date ideas, each with a suggested conversation. The date ideas are fine. They'll be fun for some people, but not a good idea for others. Ok, great. That could easily be a short listicle somewhere. As for the conversations, they are each important subjects, to be sure. Do they really benefit from being matched with the date ideas? Have the authors run experiments to determine that these eight dates each lead to more successful relationships, have they run scientifically controlled experiments with different permutations to figure out the exact ingredients that make these eight dates magically work? Maybe I missed it, but I heard no such thing. It sounded rather more like the authors discussed what they felt were the most important topics for relationship partners to discuss, then made up random ideas for dates in which to discuss each of those topics.

It isn't BAD mind you. Anyone who can go on regular, physical dates with their partner and is open to new experiences and getting to know their partner better should definitely consider giving this a try. I just expected more substance and scientific backing. Again, it's listicle material. But it's still not bad, so if you like, go ahead and do it. Just be aware that you'll only truly get value out of this book if you actually have those eight conversations (or possibly, the eight full dates) with a partner, it's not just a book you can read and set aside.

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What the F. Robot-reader???!?!?!

This is complete bs. The reader is a robot?!?! Am super dissappointed. Change it now.

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Robot computer voice!!

I couldn’t even listen to this book because of the robot/computer sounding voice! Very disappointing.

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A must for every couple

If you can get past the droning monotone of the narrators who seem to be hyper focused on over enunciating, you will have found a lifeline. I studied the Gottman’s work in college and was intrigued and wanted to work with them then and now I get to through not just listening and learning but through the activities and purposeful date nights!! With 40 years of relationship research they are true experts in the field. Do yourself a favor and get this title!!

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Great Information

I believe it could our relationship if he had the time to talk. We don't live together so to ask him to do this when he works 7 days a week right with little sleep feels like too much pressure on him. I hope we can implement this information in our relationship if we survive his work schedule the next few months.

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Great advice that I will cherish

When you gi on you tube for dating advice, they tell you that great men dont pay too much attention to their woman and be needy. This book is saying the opposite but encouraging me to work at my relationship and cherish my wife . This is more superior advice and I will take heed. Thank you for this great book

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Loved it

So insightful. I look forward to going on these dates and asking and answering these questions!

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Fantastic

Practical information for any couple on the journey towards a triumphant marriage! Can't wait to implement what I have learned! Well done!

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Worksheets

It would be great to have access to ALL worksheets. By going to the website mentioned in the book/audio you can get some of the pdf’s, but not all.

Could not get past the readers

This book has phenomenal ideas and practical applications for marriages and relationships. I would never ever in a million years, however, recommend the Audible version based on the readers. A book about relationships and love should be read by someone with empathy and engagement in the topic. This was seriously painful to listen to-