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    The author of the groundbreaking New York Times best sellers Girls & Sex and Cinderella Ate My Daughter now turns her focus to the sexual lives of young men, once again offering "both an examination of sexual culture and a guide on how to improve it" (Washington Post).

    Peggy Orenstein’s Girls & Sex broke ground, shattered taboos, and launched conversations about young women’s right to pleasure and agency in sexual encounters. It also had an unexpected effect on its author: Orenstein realized that talking about girls is only half the conversation. Boys are subject to the same cultural forces as girls - steeped in the same distorted media images and binary stereotypes of female sexiness and toxic masculinity - which equally affect how they navigate sexual and emotional relationships. In Boys & Sex, Peggy Orenstein dives back into the lives of young people to once again give voice to the unspoken, revealing how young men understand and negotiate the new rules of physical and emotional intimacy.

    Drawing on comprehensive interviews with young men, psychologists, academics, and experts in the field, Boys & Sex dissects so-called locker room talk; how the word "hilarious" robs boys of empathy; pornography as the new sex education; boys’ understanding of hookup culture and consent; and their experience as both victims and perpetrators of sexual violence. By surfacing young men’s experience in all its complexity, Orenstein is able to unravel the hidden truths, hard lessons, and important realities of young male sexuality in today’s world. The result is a provocative and paradigm-shifting work that offers a much-needed vision of how boys can truly move forward as better men.

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    • Lilyfee
    • 12/01/2020

    A must-read for anyone who knows young men

    In Boys & Sex, researcher Peggy Orenstein explores how toxic masculinity affects the sexual behavior of American Millenial and Gen Z boys. Her basic premise is that from an early age, male children in this demographic are taught to limit their emotional vocabulary, which only gets worse as they are exposed to media stereotypes, free internet porn, lack of sexual education at home and at school, and the unfulfilling expectation or reality of hookup culture, all of which combine to negatively impact their emotional and sexual literacy.

    I identified with a lot of the anecdotal research in Boys & Sex. In particular, I like how the author explains that while the definition of womanhood has expanded to include many different types of women, men are still stuck with a 1950s ideal of male empowerment which basically consists of being stoic, dominant and emotionally inaccessible at all times (think Don Draper).

    While I felt at times that Peggy Orenstein relied too much on her own assumptions and inherent biases when drawing conclusions about American boys, I would recommend this book, or at least the resources inside it, to everyone. It’s clearly targeted at parents with sons in high school and college but if you know any boys or young men, you will gain valuable insight into their lives and psyches from Boys & Sex. And no matter who you are, you will likely learn something about yourself too.

    I really appreciate that rather than simply leaving the reader helpless to address the many factors influencing teen boys today - for example, the paywall hindering access to ethical, feminist porn and more broadly, ethical, feminist media in general - the author provides resources and tips for preventative and reformative measures. As a woman, I’m aware that I am disproportionally expected to provide emotional labor to men, but I was not familiar with research showing that young boys flat out do not express their feelings to other boys or men, meaning that women such as mothers or girlfriends are often their only confidantes. The author recommends that adults, especially father figures, talk to young boys about their feelings just as we would talk to young girls about theirs.

    I also really liked the author’s ideas about restorative justice in cases of campus sexual assault (think the Aziz Ansari “Me Too” accusation), and her advice that parents should consistently emphasize the importance of sex as pleasure for everyone involved. As someone whose sexual education in school was only slightly more informative than the classic Mean Girls lines, “Don’t have sex. You will get pregnant and die,” and “If you touch each other, you will get chlamydia and die,” I feel that children and teenagers would benefit immensely from sexual education that touches on emotional as well as physical well-being. It seems incredibly novel that future generations of children and teens might be taught to touch themselves and others consensually for the purpose of pleasure, without the pressure and miscommunication that hinders my generation’s sexuality.

    Overall, I would recommend this book to anyone. I would have appreciated more research regarding different demographics of boys and men but I learned a lot from this book and I’m sure I will consult it regularly.

    The author did a good job narrating.

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    • Jim S.
    • 13/06/2020

    Without Exception, Politically Correct

    There is nothing here to glean from the author's studies of this powerful and sometimes overwhelming time in a boy's life, and how we might better understand and support them. This is not a study from their perspective, but from hers.

    She makes a point to include the names of every male recently accused, rightly or wrongly, of sexual misdeeds on what seems to be her mission to support the premises of the #metoo movement. What a shame that this interesting and important subject couldn't be studied and reported by someone without their own glaring and tiring agenda.

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    • Chacko Supreme
    • 11/04/2020

    Misleading

    I found the complete lack of diversity in the different types of masculinity to be an incredibly low blow to men/boys everywhere.
    She seems to interview only jocks/athletic types and members of fraternities and then uses their stories to paint a picture about ALL boys and men. I found this to be incredibly misleading or rather she is talking about maybe 25% of people who identify as "masculine men" and not at all representative of us as a complete group.

    Her narration is good, the book is easy to follow along, and I think she answers her own objective that she set out to do.

    I also think her suggestions on how to help boys/men and to help reduce rape are right on par.

    I just was really upset that none of the guys she interviews are relatable to how I grew up or my idea of masculinity at all - nor my perceptions of male sexuality.

    I came to this book looking for introspection and found it completely not relatable.

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    • Daniel Boerner
    • 10/03/2020

    Biased and poorly done

    after reading her girls and sex ( which I loved) I was so excited for this book I preordered it. she still made it all about how boys treat girls. first book that I'm getting a refund on

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    • paul
    • 09/01/2020

    excellent Read missing end of Chapter 4

    it's a fantastic read. very thought provoking. however chapter four is cut short. I may have to purchase paper back to read end of the chapter.

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    • Devon Barker
    • 16/10/2020

    incredible!

    Every parent and teen should read this. it really should be a mandatory read for Sex Ed.

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    • S. Summers
    • 17/02/2020

    A necessary read

    This text should be mandatory reading for parents, teachers, school administrators, legislators, and anyone else who deals with young people or makes rules governing them.

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    • Dr. Jenn Gunsaullus
    • 13/02/2020

    Fantastic

    I'm a sociologist with a specialty in sex and gender, and I can't recommend this book highly enough. For anyone who is a parent of a teen boy, or anyone who works with males who are teens or young adults, this provides such a wonderful insight into their struggles, sexual encounters, fears, motivations, and goals. Orenstein writes with passion, clarity, and compassion.

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    • Rower85
    • 04/06/2021

    Great book, learned a lot

    I am a 38 year old dad-to-be. This book was very helpful to me in understanding 1) things from my past and 2) how to be a more helpful parent in the future. Highly recommend this book, as well at Peggy Orenstein’s other book “Girls & Sex”

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    • Tawny Lara
    • 17/03/2021

    Important, nuanced conversation.

    This book gives me hope for the future of boys and men. Orenstein dedicated an entire chapter to trans masculinity and sex which offers a modern, nuanced take to the Boys & Sex conversation. She also explores the role alcohol plays in sexual assault, coercion, consent, and the pursuit of pleasure.