Everyone says you're so easy to be around. The yes leaves your mouth before you've even paused. And by eight o'clock at night, you're loading the dishwasher like it owes you money.

In this episode of The Connection Podcast, Lauren Dry, Master Marriage Coach and founder of Rise into Regulation™, explores people pleasing, the fawn response, and how a pattern that gets celebrated at work, at home and in friendships can quietly keep the people closest to you from meeting the real you.

This is part three of the four-part series on nervous system addictions inside The Connection Podcast.

You'll hear about

• Why people pleasing is the nervous system addiction that gets the most applause
• How the fawn response grows from enmeshment and being the good kid
• The resentment that builds when a yes stays stored, and the fear sitting underneath it
• Where people pleasing shows up in the body, from a tight throat to forgetting to eat
• A slow, doable way to start catching the half second before the yes

Underneath all that helpfulness is a nervous system doing its best to keep connection safe. When it learns that wants can exist and the relationship still holds, there's more room for closeness, honesty and the clarity and ease that come with being truly known. There's time for it, and it starts small.

Timestamps

00:00 Introduction

01:54 The Yes That Leaves Your Mouth Before You've Paused

06:43 The Fawn Response Behind Your People Pleasing

08:50 How People Pleasing Became Your Whole Job

11:25 The Fear Hiding Underneath Your Resentment

13:50 Where People Pleasing Lives In Your Body

15:39 The People Pleasing Addiction Everyone Applauds

19:10 Why Boundary Scripts Fall Apart For People Pleasers

21:31 The Half Second Before Your Yes

Resources & Links

Connect with Lauren

📱 Follow Lauren on Instagram @lauren_dry

🌐 Learn more about Rise into Regulation™, the skillset for connection, communication, and Nervous System safety in modern marriage.

Take the quiz to see how your nervous system moves between addictions. Nervous system addiction quiz

🌐 Ready for a deep body reset by the weekend? Join the C.L.E.A.R. and Connected - Break the Pattern Program.

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Big love,

Lauren x