Kink 101: Fetish vs. Kink, Power Exchange & Hot Wifing with The Kink Consultant

We're stepping outside our usual non-monogamy lane and into the wide, wild world of kink with special guest Amanda Dames, aka The Kink Consultant. Amanda is a certified somatic sex & relationship coach and sexologist (and former NYC dominatrix!) who breaks down the real difference between a "kink" and a "fetish," why labels actually help you find yourself, and how power exchange, hot wifing, pre-claiming, and reclaiming sex all fit on the same spectrum. We also get into the light-bulb communication hack that took Adam's breath away, healthy boundaries around aftercare, and why justice might be Pris's real kink.

• Kink vs. fetish: what's actually the difference
• Amanda's journey from curious kid to NYC pro-domme to kink coach
• Foot fetishes, power exchange, and why "normal" kink is a spectrum
• The $20 light bulb trick for signaling dominant energy
• Hot wifing vs. hot husbanding, pre-claiming and reclaiming sex
• Compartmentalizing fantasy without cheating
• Aftercare, boundaries, and honest communication in ENM relationships

• Website: amandadames.com (grab her free guide, "Speaking Your Desires With Confidence")
• Podcast: The Kink Consultant Podcast
• Instagram: @the_kinkconsultant
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• TikTok: @the_kinkconsultant
• YouTube: @thekinkconsultant
• Email: info@thekinkconsultant.com
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