This episode is a tender one.

Walk with me in a deeply personal conversation about the wounds we may carry from our mothers — and how those wounds can quietly enter our adult relationships, especially marriage.

Through the lens of my own separation, motherhood, therapy, and long arc of repair with my mother, I explore how conditional love, abandonment, rejection, and emotional neglect shaped the way I received love, tested love, pushed love away, and ached to be chosen.

It's an episode about what happens when an old wound enters the room of a present relationship — and becomes mature enough to finally be named.

To the woman who has done “the healing work” and is shocked to find another layer rising in love, partnership, or marriage — this episode is for you.

Not healed. Healing.

RESOURCES

The Association for Prenatal and Perinatal Psychology and Health

RELATED EPISODES

8: Trapped in labels

16: Mom's Health Care Compass - be the medicine woman of your family

COMPANION READING FROM THE BLOG

Why you need to understand limbic imprinting

HERstory timeline

BONUS

Below is an affirmation/dedication I created (which may serve as inspiration) for myself as a loving reminder of my devotion to heal these wounds with grace... and speediness 🤞😅

I release the intense feelings of rejection, abandonment, and conditional love. I see them. And I remember they are not the whole truth. They are separate from me, the person, or situation they may be rising in right now. I will pause and take time to tend to myself. To return to stability and truth. I will confide in the people I trust and care about, and let them know the wounds I'm actively healing. Co-regulation is supportive. I deserve loving support while I heal. I can hold myself with devotion as I return to what's real.

Support the show

CONNECT WITH ELISE

🌐 website: BirthHumanity.com

📲 Instagram: @BirthHumanity

💬 You're invited to ask Elise what you'd like clarification on or learn more about. She'll do her best to address it in an upcoming episode.

If one thing rings true, follow that sound. Return the rest to the wind.

💗 Please follow, leave a review, and share this episode with someone you feel will resonate with it.

This podcast is not medical advice. It’s education, story, discernment, and conversation. You are the authority of your life, your body, and your children.