In this reflective and practical episode of Breaking the Rules, the hosts unpack a phrase that shows up constantly in therapy rooms: “I don’t feel ready.” What does it actually mean? Is readiness a feeling—or is it a decision we make in the presence of fear, uncertainty, and discomfort?

Using OCD as the primary lens, this conversation explores how clients often wait for certainty, calm, or clarity before taking action—and how that waiting quietly reinforces avoidance. The discussion moves beyond symptom management and into the deeper work of distinguishing thoughts vs feelings, building emotional literacy, and helping clients move forward despite anxiety rather than waiting for it to disappear.

This episode is especially valuable for clinicians working with ambivalence, treatment resistance, or clients who feel “stuck” before starting ERP or making meaningful behavioural change.

💬 Key themes:

• Why “ready” is not an emotion—but a choice
• The difference between thoughts, feelings, and bodily sensations
• How emotional reasoning keeps OCD in control
• The trap of waiting for certainty before acting
• Using ACT, motivational interviewing, and values-based action
• Helping clients name fear, dread, shame, and excitement accurately
• Why language matters in therapy—and how it can open or close change
• Moving clients out of intellectual insight and into embodied experience
• Supporting behaviour change without reassurance or avoidance

💡 “Ready is not a feeling—it’s a decision.”

🧠 “Certainty is the fantasy OCD keeps chasing.”

💬 “Of course you’re scared—and you can still act.”

🔖 Chapters

00:00 Introduction and the origin of the idea

03:00 What clients mean when they say “I don’t feel ready”

05:00 Readiness, certainty, and the OCD trap

07:00 Thoughts vs feelings: why we confuse them

09:30 Emotional reasoning and avoidance

11:00 Values-based action and willingness

13:00 Naming emotions vs shutting change down

15:00 Anxiety, excitement, and bodily sensations

17:00 Moving from insight to action

19:00 Why waiting for readiness keeps clients stuck

21:00 Final reflections for clinicians

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