In this episode of Between Two Psychs, we explore a question many educators quietly wrestle with: why do some children still struggle to engage, even when lessons are well planned, differentiated, and thoughtfully delivered?

Drawing on classroom observations, psychological research, and real conversations with teachers, we unpack what it really means to be ready to learn. We look beyond lesson plans and curriculum demands to the emotional, physiological and relational factors that shape how children show up in classrooms and how teachers are supported (or stretched) in holding all of this at once.

We reflect on the impact of stress, cognitive overload, post-pandemic baselines and rising expectations and why learning can’t be separated from nervous-system state, safety

and trust. At the heart of the conversation is a simple but powerful idea: learning sits on top of regulation, belonging and relationships.

In this episode, we discuss:

• Why strong lesson planning isn’t always enough to secure engagement
• How stress shifts the brain from learning to survival
• The impact of post-pandemic stress on children’s readiness to learn
• Dopamine, overstimulation and the learning brain
• Bruce Perry’s work and why emotional state drives cognitive access
• Polyvagal theory and the nervous system’s constant search for safety

Why This Episode Matters

This episode invites us to rethink what “preparedness for learning” really means. It reminds us that learning is not just a cognitive task it is a relational, emotional and physiological process.

When children feel safe, regulated and understood, they are far more able to tolerate challenge, uncertainty and moments of struggle. And when teachers are supported psychologically as well as professionally they are better able to hold the complex demands of modern classrooms.

Preparedness for learning doesn’t start with the lesson.
It starts with relationships, regulation and realistic expectations for children and for the adults who teach them.

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