Who showed up for you when they didn’t have to? We dive into what real mentorship looks like, why it’s essential—not optional—for young people, and how to close the access gap that leaves many boys of color without consistent guidance. Drawing from research and lived experience, we unpack the difference between lecturing and translating life, and why presence beats perfection every time.

We get specific about the mentor gap: nearly one in three young people in the U.S. lack a mentor outside their family, and the deficit hits Black and Latino youth hardest. We talk through what mentors actually do—listen more than talk, tell the truth with compassion, model emotional regulation, and set healthy boundaries. Then we offer five practical anchors for new mentors: lead with presence, learn before you lead, don’t rush outcomes, affirm effort over achievement, and know when to refer. These aren’t theories; they’re habits that build trust and protect both mentor and mentee.

You’ll also hear personal stories that bring the principles to life—from entrepreneurship programs and mini-bikes to outdoor adventures and spiritual formation—showing how a steady adult expands a young person’s map of possibility. We spotlight on-ramps like Big Brothers Big Sisters, My Brother’s Keeper, Boys & Girls Clubs, the YMCA, and local faith or school-based groups so you can plug in with confidence.

If someone poured into you, say thank you today. Then pay it forward by becoming the mentor you once needed. Subscribe, share this episode with a friend who’d make a great mentor, and leave a review with your “so what” takeaway—we’d love to hear what lesson from a mentor stuck with you.

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