Misalignment doesn’t just feel uncomfortable — it costs you.

In this episode of Grown Man Speak, Rob follows on from Episode 2 and takes a closer look at how misalignment actually shows up in real life — through behaviour, broken promises, resentment, and loss of trust — and the invisible price we pay when we live with it for too long.

This isn’t about quick fixes or seven-step plans.
It’s about learning to read the signals your life is already giving you — and understanding what they’re costing you.

In this episode, we explore:

• How misalignment shows up in behaviour (not character)
• Why unease is a signal, not proof that you’re broken
• The Eulogy Gap — and how it reveals direction
• Broken promises as pressure points, not moral failure
• Trade-offs, resentment, and the cost of unowned compromise
• How loss of trust (with others and yourself) quietly erodes confidence
• Simple clues that point toward what actually matters:
  • what lights you up
  • what pisses you off
• Aristotle’s Golden Mean — and why living at the extremes drains you
• Why values change over time, and what happens when you live by outdated ones

Exercises Mentioned in This Episode

These aren’t homework. They’re tools. Use what’s useful.

1. The Eulogy Gap

Imagine someone you genuinely respect delivering your eulogy.

• What would you want them to say about you?
• Based on how you’re living right now, what would they actually say?
• How big is the gap?

That gap is where misalignment lives.

2. Broken Promises Audit

Think about promises you genuinely mean when you make them:

• to your kids
• to your partner
• to yourself

Where do they keep breaking?
Not to judge yourself — but to spot conflicting values or limited capacity.

3. Follow the Clues

Two simple lists:

• What lights you up?
  (20 things you genuinely love doing — not escape, not thrill-seeking)
• What pisses you off?
  Your frustrations are your values in reverse. They reveal boundaries and conflict.

A Note on This Podcast

This podcast isn’t here to fix you, motivate you, or tell you how to live.

It’s here to help you see clearly:

• what’s off
• what it’s costing you
• and what deserves your attention

Awareness comes first. Action comes later.

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This is Grown Man Speak — a podcast for men who’ve lived some life and want to see more clearly what’s been running them.

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