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Ever stare at your to-do list and feel like your brain just… freezes? Yep. Same.

In this episode, Leah Carroll and I talk about decision paralysis, why it’s so common with ADHD, and why it’s not a motivation problem — it’s an energy and trust problem. We dig into spoon theory (one of my favorite visuals for explaining mental load), how decision fatigue sneaks up on us, and why by the end of the day even tiny choices feel impossible.

We also talk about something that doesn’t get enough attention: self-trust. Not the hype kind — the quiet kind that’s built when you keep small promises to yourself. Things like simple nightly routines, brain dumps that actually help you wake up calmer, and setting your future self up for success instead of chaos.

We wrap it up by talking about how ADHD coaching can help — not because you’re broken, but because sometimes you just need someone outside your brain to help you see what actually matters.

If you’ve ever thought, “Why does everything feel so hard?” — this one’s for you.

Takeaways

• Decision paralysis usually isn’t about laziness — it’s about too many choices and no clear priority
• Spoon theory is a helpful way to visualize energy: you only get so many “spoons” a day, and every task costs one
• ADHD makes decision fatigue worse because your brain is working overtime all day
• Self-trust grows when you keep small, realistic promises to yourself
• A simple nightly brain dump can dramatically reduce morning overwhelm
• Planning before you’re tired helps prevent end-of-day shutdown
• Habit stacking works best when you pair something necessary with something enjoyable
• Knowing your personal energy limits helps prevent burnout
• ADHD coaching offers an outside perspective when your brain feels too close to the problem

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Keywords

decision paralysis, ADHD, spoon theory, decision fatigue, self-trust, mental load, nightly routines, habit stacking, ADHD coaching

Leah Carroll

ADHD Life & Mindset Coach

w: leahccoaching.com

i: @adhd.coach.leah

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Jessica is a Creative wife & mom of 3 from Northwest Pennsylvania. When not recording the podcast or distracting herself from work... she is a leadership coach & voiceover artist at Jessica Lewis Voice.