Episode #4 — Why I Wasn’t Enough?

Anxious Attachment & Rewriting the Brain

In this episode, I explore one of the most painful questions many of us ask in love:

“Why wasn’t I enough?”

This episode unfolds in three parts:

My Story

I share what it felt like inside a relationship where safety slowly disappeared — noticing the shift, trying harder and over giving.

Psychology & Neuroscience

We gently unpack what was happening inside the brain and nervous system during anxious attachment, including:

• The amygdala — the brain’s threat detector that reads emotional distance as danger

• Dopamine — the chemical of reward and relief that strengthens attachment to inconsistent love

• Cortisol — the stress hormone that drives panic, waiting, and overthinking

• And why the nervous system often chooses connection over self-protection

Healing & Affirmations

We close with grounding tools, a short self-reflection exercise, and affirmations to begin rewriting the belief that you are “not enough.”

🧠 Affirmations from today’s episode:

I am not hard to love

I do not need to earn safety

I can feel anxious without acting from it

Someone else’s inconsistency is not proof of my inadequacy

I choose calm over chaos

Core reminder of this episode:

You were never not enough.

You were just asking the wrong person to meet you where you already stood.

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